An escort has changed my whole perception on Transwomen

[Flaco]

On Monday I went to see an escort I've been wanting to see for the longest. I always pick the escorts I want to see very carefully. If I think they'll be attracted to me as much as I'm attracted to them then I go for it. Anyway, I set up an appointment with this chick and took the trip to her place. Before we started the session we talked, joked, laughed for about 15-20 minutes, just a really friendly conversation. And then we started making out, we made out for a really long time. And then we got into sex. The sex was mindblowing, she throat fucked the crap out of me which I loved. And she rode my cock so wildly, my orgasm was so intense I was actually afraid I was going to pass out. I'm cutting the sexual part of this short because it's not the main point. After we were done having sex, we continued to cuddle and talk. I know a lot of guys want "GFE" but this was way more than that, this was WIFEY experience.

We started having a deep convo in which we talked about our lives, and really got to know each other on a personal level. After that we made out some more. When I held her, looked into her eyes and kissed her I could feel her passion, her pain, her innocence, her strength all in one. If you've been in a situation like this you'll know exactly what I mean. She is just such a beautiful person. We cuddled for so long after, and then we watched a movie. It just felt so real being with her, I told her afterwards that I don't even care about the sex anymore I just want to see her again. I would love to take her to the movies or out to eat. She told me she's usually bored and always lonely and that she really liked me but that I'm just a baby. (I'm 22 and she's 34, but she doesn't look it at all). We chatted some more (I was at her place for about 4hrs) and she started telling me she wanted me to sleep over. I wanted to but it was late, I was exhausted from the sex and I had work the next morning so I had to decline. She walked with me out of her place, and when I was about to leave, me and her shared one last, deep, passionate kiss. I heard some guys walking past who were saying "Well, Daaamn!" LOL

At this point I would be willing to date her in a heartbeat, I know she likes me and I like her a lot but then again she's an escort. How can I date someone who has sex for a living, no matter how much I like her that seems like a deal breaker. How would I be able to make that work? It made me feel bad because she told me she had to start escorting when she lost her job. I don't really know what to do, but for now I def plan on taking her to the movies whenever I get the chance. I miss her a lot. She made me realize exactly how beautiful Transwomen can be both on the outside and inside. She wanted me to call her today, so I will shortly

[GrimFusion]

Hot damn, escorts are real people?!?

It sounds as though you might be a little too into the chick assuming the two of you only spent one evening together, but despite my opinion it seems like the two of you certainly enjoy each other's company. That doesn't necessarily mean you need to have a deep, meaningful relationship with her considering you seem uneasy about the thought of her escorting at the same time. Unless you can come to terms, that's likely a setup for failure anyway. Why can't it be as simple as ringing her up during off hours and inviting her out with you somewhere? Eventually (if she's chill with it), invite her to crash at your place if it's more convenient. It'd be far easier and less complicated to value her as a good friend than to try to become involved with her in any regard. Just don't be too clingy.

[killerkkz]

interesting story....this might sound like a dumb question but how open are transwomen to a conventional relationship with a man that could be essentially a de facto marriage, i.e. the lady is happy to be dependent on the man in a conventional man/wife type of way.

[Rusty Eldora]

It can work, I have a gg girlfriend that is a provider, mostly FBSM but I am sure she does FS with some clients, just I don't really want to know. OK I am still in a LTR so I have multiple women in my life, that can change my perspective.

She arrives tomorrow for 2 weeks, we have been together for about 8 weeks a year for the last few years. A great side benefit is she shares me with her friends also, often in duos. It works for us.

She escorts for her job, not much different than being a therapist or nurse. If she can separate the heart from the sex (and you can) and she uses protection is it that bad. Not perfect, but what is. The journey could be fun even if the destination is unknown.

One adage is that escorts cost less than girlfriends, GF's less than wives, and the most expensive is ex-wives. I would recommend for now to separate the sex session from the friend time. Pay for the sex session and let her manage the off the clock time, that avoids the feeling of trying to get 'free' stuff. As the friendship goes forward, that will change.

Good luck and have fun.

[littletwink]

You kissed a whore? WTF?!

j/k, just keep hitting it until she tires of you. And like Grim said, don't be clingy or she'll be done with you sooner rather than later.

[syla]

Some very good valid points coming out of all three comments.. Mine is this; I would like to think that they can get lonely as escorts and we present that window of them getting to forget about having sex for a living. We're like an escapism but only for a short while, which is why past the sex they're (escorts trans and gg) can be happy to feel "normal" in society and just be treated as how any working person would like to be treated.

[syla]

I currently find myself in a similar situation..just less intimate...I'd say. All the best with what you make of it.

[GrimFusion]

interesting story....this might sound like a dumb question but how open are transwomen to a conventional relationship with a man that could be essentially a de facto marriage, i.e. the lady is happy to be dependent on the man in a conventional man/wife type of way.

Kinda varies on a per-chick basis. Most escorts are aware that conventional relationships don't work out too well in the majority of cases and it takes a very rare and exceptional kind of man to be secure enough to sustain a relationship with an escort. More often than not, guys who say they're chill with the idea later change their minds and many of the men who say they're interested in a relationship are often just looking for free sex and an emotional outlet.

Your best bet is to always start out as friends and keep it genuine so both you and her can get a good feel for each other before you consider throwing the relationship card out there. Otherwise, you probably won't be taken seriously and the request will likely raise a lot of red flags in her mind; as it should. I mean, how would you take to a chick asking you to be involved with her in a relationship when you barely know her? That's awkward.

[bluesoul]

On Monday I went to see an escort I've been wanting to see for the longest.

if you paid for this experience then that's your answer right there.

btw: can someone explain how they consider "escorts to cost less than girlfriends"? do you equate time spent with someone you love in monetary value?

[GrimFusion]

interesting story....this might sound like a dumb question but how open are transwomen to a conventional relationship with a man that could be essentially a de facto marriage, i.e. the lady is happy to be dependent on the man in a conventional man/wife type of way.

Err... you weren't talking about escorts, were you? The same principal applies anyhow. Some transchicks are open to the idea of conventional relationships pre-transition and some aren't; preferring to be post-transition before trying to seriously date men to skip most of the drama involved. Orientation and relationship preference come into play, too as it can't be inferred that every transsexual prefers monogamous or straight relationships... or relationships at all for that matter. There's really no straight answer.