Do friends with benefits ever end well

[lifeisfiction]

I met this young lady and we had a great connection chatting a few times. Sweet person, however I explain that I am very busy and don't really have the time to commit to relationship, plus we don't live close by each other. I rather have relationship I can commit a 100% to or not at all. So she suggests we can start as friends possibly with benefits. I don't think fwb has ever ended well for anyone I know in my experience, but I said I would give it a try.

Has anyone ever had it end well?

[LibertyHarkness]

i dont think so .. its very hard to retain a good friendship afterwards etc ...

[Dino Velvet]

Friends with benefits can be bad. Neighbors with benefits can be a real disaster unless one's a renter.

[Prospero]

Nope. Doesn't work.

[rodinuk]

I rather have relationship I can commit a 100% to or not at all

There. In a nutshell. That's why it's not going to work, sorry.

[Dino Velvet]

Nope. Doesn't work.

That's what escorts are for. Keeps fellas outta trouble.

[lifeisfiction]

Thanks for the input. I will probably discuss it further. I expressed my concerns about it ending badly, but she is persistent that we try the option. FWB is just so problematic. Still, the temptation of sex can make people do silly things.

[alpha2117]

She clearly likes you and hopes that by doing the FWB thing it might develop into something more. This of course means that Friends without benefits is no longer an option because if a woman suggests FWB status and you say no then you just rejected her and no woman can stay friends with a man who rejects her long term. At this point if you are attracted to her then go with it - if not then be prepared for that friendship to implode sometime shortly after you say No to FWB status.

Had you suggested FWB and she said No it would be different - guys expect women to say no - if they do we just live with it. For girls it's an insult no matter how nicely you say no.

[onmyknees]

Sure it can work but the odds are against it. If you're both of the same mind set, and fully respectful of each other and realize the relationships limitations....there's no reason it can't work. I have several friendships like that, but they require some maintenance. You can't show up after weeks of no contact, fuck her brains out and run out afterward like the house is on fire. That only works if you leave a gratuity ! If you're asking can it develop into something more, then I'd say probably not, but anything's possible....and more than likely at some point one will push for something more substantial, but hell all relationships end at some point...it doesn't mean it has to end badly. If you need additional advice, call the producers on the Dr. Phil show !

[amberskyi]

to a guy friends with benefits mean some chick he can fuck on the regular.
to girls it means a guy she can actually hang out with,spend time,do fun things and also be intimate with non of the commitment or loss of freedom.