what if you learned your GF was an escort?

[danthepoetman]

You mean to say, OMK, that the friends around them were more shocked by the fact that she was an escort than they were by the beating her boyfriend gave her? Wow!
But you see, that’s pretty much what I was alluding to. Circumstances have a lot to do with how we all behave. What’s your background? What did you have to go through? That’s what I meant when I was talking about the explanations I could possibly get from her. Because trust is not free; it’s not something you will necessarily get from the get go, especially if that person has been through a lot in her life. You’ll have to work for it, create communication and trust; and that, you build by opening up, no matter how much time it takes, and by being trusting. And often, yes, you have to forgive and forget. Because no one is perfect. As to the people you’re alluding to, OMK, you can see that they totally lack any sense of understanding; they really weren’t friends of anyone to start with. If you really feel something for the girl, if you want to build something with her, you give her a chance –and more than one in fact. That’s my take on it. Call me naïve again if you want…

I still don't know. I've dated girls and never told them about me going to jail before. Just a little jail, not the cooler.

That’s it: we all have skeletons in the closet.

[Chaos]

I dated a girl for a year that did modeling and a bit of fetish photowork as well.
I had no problems with that....When I found out she was escorting....it was over.
Had she been honest about it, that would have depended on her being clean and professional about it. I immediately went and got tested,I was fine. She tried telling me it was no different than my talking to girls at the club I was working at,that she only went to dinner and talked to them...
But then she came to me telling me she was pregnant with my child,and she was going to have an abortion. I found out throughout the night that she had told 3 of our other bouncers the same thing,AND several of our customers. I removed her from the club permanently,on the OK from my boss,and found out she solicited 2 undercover cops that very night... She tried contacting me several times since then,trying to get me back because I was the only person that ever treated her as more than a piece of ass,even coming to my apartment and throwing herself at me....but it was done. I asked her to leave before she even got to the front door and threatened to call police.Moral of the story...if your past is an issue,be honest and it won't be for me. If you're STILL doing it,be honest and take care of yourself,and it's not a problem. I'm not going to judge you by your job or past,just by how much you hurt me....

[danthepoetman]

Reminds me a lot of the situation in Molière’s The Misanthrope. Of course, what you’re telling is no comedy, Chaos, but a human drama. This girl was probably someone who was taken advantage of all her life, and manipulated to the point at which you could get no trust out of her and could not trust her either for anything. It’s a sad story. The play is more about coquetry and lack of conscience (or excesses of it).

[Chaos]

Let's just say she tried to give me a BJ while her kids were in the car....
No morals,No conscience,No concern but for what she wants....
I'm FAR from perfect,or anything even resembling it,but DAMN....

[Cecil Rhodes]

I would send her a bill for services rendered .

[youngblood61]

Is there some reason she wouldn't have told me straight up?? I would not be happy if it was hidden from me. That would bother me much more than the idea she was an escort.

Agree, just not saying anything, then somebody tells you she's an escort.

[Jamie French]

I'd keep eating my taco.

Wait. My GF is an escort. So am I.

I'll keep eating my taco.

[phillyguy21]

She would have to break bread.

[danthepoetman]

I'd keep eating my taco.
Wait. My GF is an escort. So am I.
I'll keep eating my taco.

You’re the living proof that it is possible to escort and have a couple’s life, as oppose to what some people were saying.
I can’t understand this attitude by which so many people feel as if anyone could be soiled by that. It’s ridiculous. Moralistic and hypocritical.
Everything is a matter of circumstances. Of course, we have to be frank with each others as much as we can. But if you reject someone for whom you have love or affection without trying to understand or giving the benefit of the doubt, you’ll probably never entertain an enduring relationship. There’s extreme cases, of course, like the one Chaos just told, but in general, in a relationship, unless it’s only to take advantage, there is always a story to be understood if not a rationale behind some deceit. Once again, my two cents…

[GrimFusion]

Curios how people will react, what if you date a girl, and later learned she was an an escort.

Or met a new girl, and then you learn she also escort, how would you react?

If I were already dating a girl and she turned out to be an escort, I'd dump her. That kind of stuff needs to be talked about in a relationship before it occurs. I won't put up with cheating whether it brings in an income or not. That just tells me that money is more important to her than I am.

Escorting itself isn't necessarily a deal-breaker, but to be honest; I'd be apprehensive about getting close. I'd probably stick a girl like that in my friend zone unless there were some seriously overwhelming mutual feelings. There'd be a very slim chance I'd ever get the least bit serious with a chick I knew was actively escorting.

The only circumstance in which I would likely just deal with it would be if I were already involved with a chick for a few years who was honest about wanting to escort short-term for some extra income and brought that concern to me before seeking clients.