what if you learned your GF was an escort?

[Jamie French]

Escorting like anything else is a total yawn once you've done it enough times. In all my years I've yet to hear even one person give a convincing answer as to why there would be anything intrinsically shameful, dirty or wrong with sex.

Religion? I have none.
Jealousy? None of us are property.
Morality? I've never had non-consensual sex.

[RallyCola]

for me it isn't a matter of morals...it is a matter of the frequency of high-risk behavior and a bit of jealousy if you will that i would want no one else to be with her while i am with her

so, bringing it present tense...if i were to meet a girl and she was honest about being an escort...i think it would really depend on how much i am attracted to her to see if i could overcome my initial reaction which would be to break it off. i am not passing judgement on her, but lets be real...how can you kiss a girl passionately and lovingly when her lips could have been wrapped around a dude's junk for cash minutes earlier. not sure i would want to think about that all the time.

[Willie Escalade]

for me it isn't a matter of morals...it is a matter of the frequency of high-risk behavior and a bit of jealousy if you will that i would want no one else to be with her while i am with her

so, bringing it present tense...if i were to meet a girl and she was honest about being an escort...i think it would really depend on how much i am attracted to her to see if i could overcome my initial reaction which would be to break it off. i am not passing judgement on her, but lets be real...how can you kiss a girl passionately and lovingly when her lips could have been wrapped around a dude's junk for cash minutes earlier. not sure i would want to think about that all the time.

This.

[amberskyi]

some guys can see past a girls circumstances and love her for her.
i try to explain it like this..those guys are buying something they cant ever really have.if it wasnt for the money i wouldnt be there.i have 0% interest in the guys i see.i provide a good service but i can truly care less about who they are.its all a contrived fantasy with no real sexual or emotional attraction on my part (the client would never be able to perceive that tho cause im good at what i do).i CHOOSE to willingly and freely spend my time with you (my lover).i actually care and love you, because of that your the one that really posses my body,heart and mind.

[danthepoetman]

Sex is just… sex. It’s no big deal when done safely. It doesn’t touch in any way the integrity of the girl, not any more than it does for us guys when we have a lot of it. There’s a Judeo-Christian reflex in this, in my opinion; the feeling that it somehow affect if not soil a girl to see a lot of men. I’m probably the last person you could suspect of feminism, but I wander if there’s not also some gender inequity in such a perception; no woman is a cum receptacle, like it is sometimes very offensively said.
I’m sure that sentimentally, it must at times be very difficult. But if it is someone that seems to be precious and unique to you, if you’re in love, and if that girl chooses to be with you rather than with someone else, I find once again that you have to look at the circumstances and keep communication wide open. As Grim said, escorting doesn’t have to be permanent. Can you build a long term project with that person? What are the plans? Is there a common future and how do you both envision it?
None of this can be thought simply out of principle. You have to consider the particulars. No relationship can be made out of demands; only, always, of communication, understanding, exchange, communion and acceptance. Else it’s definitely not going to endure.

[onmyknees]

[QUOTE=danthepoetman;1226784]You mean to say, OMK, that the friends around them were more shocked by the fact that she was an escort than they were by the beating her boyfriend gave her? Wow!



Yes...one event shocked them ( the discovery that their friend was an escort) the other disgusted them ( the beating) but not enough to reconcile the friendship.

And while there's some dudes who can handle the fact that their lady escorts, just like there are dudes who can handle the swing scene... I believe the vast majority of them giving these deeply pensive answers about how they could deal with it, are full of shit. They've convinced themselves of something counter intuitive. I dated a stripper and that was lots of mental gymnastics and nobody was fucking her....although I'm sure the patrons were doing so in their minds !

[Rusty Eldora]

I have a girlfriend that I met in the hobby, she is what I call semi-pro. She lives in Hawaii and I am in Seattle. I don't ask but I believe she ride at times in her massage business. I still hobby myself and when I am visiting she shares me with her friends. Pretty fun having benefits with the 2 or 3 women you are with.

It takes some work but we do have a pretty good bond of our hearts, yet enjoy open sex. Yes, we are 'safety' with all of our partners.

[nina_lisa]

Ok let me ask another question, what if you have a girlfriend, she is not escorting, but one day she say: transition is really expensive, i don't see how i can finance, i want to escort to be able to afford it?

how will you react?

[bighicknyc]

Ok let me ask another question, what if you have a girlfriend, she is not escorting, but one day she say: transition is really expensive, i don't see how i can finance, i want to escort to be able to afford it?

how will you react?

i would ask my wife if we could pay for her transition

[bluesoul]

Ok let me ask another question, what if you have a girlfriend, she is not escorting, but one day she say: transition is really expensive, i don't see how i can finance, i want to escort to be able to afford it?

how will you react?

i wouldn't be in a relationship with anyone with that kind of mindset