are bottoms inferior to tops?

[BluegrassCat]

Anyone else get the feeling that the real point of this thread was not actual discussion but for the OP to get off on people calling him inferior?

[danthepoetman]

I'll let him answer for himself, but I'm not absolutely sure, Bluegrasscat. I think he meant more than that, and that his intentions were to spark a wider debate. Here's the answer he gave me, after my intervention (the third post of the thread). I find his observations interresting. I don't know...

Danthepoetman - that is interesting what you say about possession, because for me that is one of the big differences between being topped by a man and being topped by a Tgirl. During the sex, there is no difference at all. They both do the same things - strip me naked, fuck me, beat me, pull my hair, etc. But after the sex, there is a big difference.

Male tops can be very protective after sex. I have become their bitch and now they make me feel like I am their property. They put their arms around me and make me feel protected. They often say really nice things about my appearance. They are generous. As Danthe poetman says, I feel that I have become their possession. I feel that if I was attacked they would defend me.

However, after I have been topped by a Tgirl, it is very different. Tgirls are not so protective or generous. When they compliment it's more analytical - A guy will say"you are beautiful". A Tgirl will say "I love your hair. Is it natural?" A Tgirl might say she wants a relationship, but I wont be possessed. It feels a bit more like a friendship, perhaps because she understands my position more, but she expects me to be be her bitch, and there is a hint of superiority.

Whoever tops me though, I always feel embarassed afterwards and I often say "please dont tell anyone I'm your bitch."

[danthepoetman]

I always felt carton box criminality to be revolting... lol ...especially when you can order it... (??) lol
It reminds of Vile E Coyote with his "Acme" stuff...

without bottoms..special delivery!

[BluegrassCat]

I'll let him answer for himself, but I'm not absolutely sure, Bluegrasscat. I think he meant more than that, and that his intentions were to spark a wider debate. Here's the answer he gave me, after my intervention (the third post of the thread). I find his observations interresting. I don't know...

Maybe it's both but it was this line:

Whoever tops me though, I always feel embarassed afterwards and I often say "please dont tell anyone I'm your bitch."

that made me think it was about personal gratification. And maybe, in making all the commenters complicit in his orgasm, he made fags of us all.

[danthepoetman]

I would not have thought of that one, and I find it’s a brilliant analysis. I’ll always be careful talking to you in the future, Bluegrasscat; you’re quite sagacious. But I wander if it’s not too deep in this occurrence. Maybe subconsciously. But I tend to think the intentions in themselves were simpler and basically honnests. My take on it…

[BluegrassCat]

I would not have thought of that one, and I find it’s a brilliant analysis. I’ll always be careful talking to you in the future, Bluegrasscat; you’re quite sagacious. But I wander if it’s not too deep in this occurrence. Maybe subconsciously. But I tend to think the intentions in themselves were simpler and basically honnests. My take on it…

LOL. Well, we are on a porn site after all and a lot of people are typing their posts with one hand (wink wink nudge nudge saynomore).

I'm sure a lot of the working girls on here are familiar with the mouth breathers who call and pretend to set up an appointment but really only want free phone sex. This thread seems similar to me although, in this case, we're all wasting our time willingly.

[Ponyboy]

Bluegrassman - to answer your suggestion, I will ask you a question... If I said "Bluegrassman takes it up the ass!!!" would you consider it an insult? - Of course you would.

What I do during sex is considered insulting and demeaning to most people. Would you really want to admit it in public? Would you want your professional colleagues at work to know?

Yes, sex should be about equality, but the reality is, someone who takes it up the ass is often seen as inferior.

[giovanni_hotel]

If you fuck asses by preference, knowing someone else takes it up the backside isn't really insulting.

[Ponyboy]

I admit that, like other bottoms, degradation does add to sexual excitement... alot!!! However, when the sexual act is finished, you can find yourself saying "why do I let people do that to me?"

The reason I am posting this now is I recently had a sexual experience where the person doing me openly admitted he felt superior to me, and I dont think he was being smart or condescending. He was just saying what he felt and to be honest, I felt inferior to him.

I really admire tops. I love their positive energy, their confidence, their sense of control, and the way they go for what they want.

It has nothing to do with attractiveness. In fact, when I have sex, I am normally the most attractive of the two, but tops have a wonderful drive, energy and forceful determination that I willingly submit to. I am gentle and passive, but compared to tops, I feel weak. It's a psychological thing that I have trouble explaining. Some times its the look that a top has in their eye, and you know your in trouble. And then you get excited and feel powerless, especially if they have a nice cock.

I can not explain it -what you read above is my best effort.

[danthepoetman]

I would really like to hear some girls talk about this! what their take on this is! But once again, I think it’s something very personal. I know one thing, I’ve said it and I can only repeat it: I certainly, for my part, don’t feel a girl is inferior to me because she abandons herself! To me, it’s part of her femininity, part of everything that makes her shine, makes her irresistible to me.
Yet, I suppose I do, understand, when you talk about the way you’re being looked at. I’ve had such feedback from girls; not in these terms, but somewhat. When you feel desire for a woman, I suppose you look at her in a much more intense and admiring way. Some girl told me that indeed they felt that desire heavily and really liked it, felt like totally letting go to it.
But ouch! it’s personal stuff. Not sure you’ll have many people admit something like this…