my woman find out that I'd a tgirl was my ex ... she cried ...

[danthepoetman]

To me, Martin, this all raises a question, and calls for one observation. Did you talk with your actual girlfriend about what transsexualism is? Obviously, she doesn’t know anything about this and has misconceptions. Maybe some good, thorough explanations could help her understand that there’s nothing wrong for a man (hetero) to date a t-woman. On the other hand, the fact that you remained friend with your former girlfriend is a very good sign that a real, deep relationship is indeed possible. When you hang up to someone, like that, and grow as people, even apart, and still can relate to one another, it obviously mean in my opinion that something can be built between you two.
Now, the rest is a matter of how you feel deep down. Do you really have a relationship with your actual girlfriend or not? Is the link you have with your former girlfriend stronger or not? It’s up to you to see…

[GrimFusion]

Yes she does, but if you expect the one you love to conform to your ideas then you dont really love that person for who they are you are in love with somebody else which that person is not.

Love is not about changing for the other person or forcing someone else to change (and getting upset over history is just plain stupid)

Love is given and it must be unconditional or its not really love... thats all Im saying... no matter how much you feel for someone if you cant deal with who they are or who they were it might be a very powerful emotion but it is Not Love.

Love is trapping your spouse in a dutch oven and laughing maniacally.
If unconditional love exists, then conditional love exists as well.

I've been though something like this before, but I was the girlfriend.
lol.
What I mean to say is that I was the one breaking up with a chick because of her sexual history. We had been dating two years and I was in love with her. One afternoon about a year-and-a-half into the relationship, on the way back home we were talking about our sexual histories, and she admitted she had slept with more than 40 different men. I know I didn't have an STD and at the time I wasn't really worried about her cheating on me, but my mind about burst because I felt I was "experienced", but I'd only been with six women. I felt kind of inadequate, and I felt that was her fault for not telling me earlier before I was emotionally locked-down.

The relationship went to shit after that. Our sex life just didn't feel sacred or special to me in any regard and that lead to a lot of slow distancing. I didn't feel like talking it through really would have helped anything, but I still tried to keep it together. Six months later I caught her cheating on me.

So, anyway; love can exist in a relationship and not be unconditional. I loved her unconditionally before I realized she was a dirty, dirty slut. The crazy shit is that while I'm sure there are a ton of people who think Martin's girlfriend did the wrong thing in breaking up with him, I'm sure there's quite a few people who cringed while reading my story and think I had a valid reason to do the exact same thing.

[TempestTS]

Love is trapping your spouse in a dutch oven and laughing maniacally.
If unconditional love exists, then conditional love exists as well.

I've been though something like this before, but I was the girlfriend.
lol.
What I mean to say is that I was the one breaking up with a chick because of her sexual history. We had been dating two years and I was in love with her. One afternoon about a year-and-a-half into the relationship, on the way back home we were talking about our sexual histories, and she admitted she had slept with more than 40 different men. I know I didn't have an STD and at the time I wasn't really worried about her cheating on me, but my mind about burst because I felt I was "experienced", but I'd only been with six women. I felt kind of inadequate, and I felt that was her fault for not telling me earlier before I was emotionally locked-down.

The relationship went to shit after that. Our sex life just didn't feel sacred or special to me in any regard and that lead to a lot of slow distancing. I didn't feel like talking it through really would have helped anything, but I still tried to keep it together. Six months later I caught her cheating on me.

So, anyway; love can exist in a relationship and not be unconditional. I loved her unconditionally before I realized she was a dirty, dirty slut. The crazy shit is that while I'm sure there are a ton of people who think Martin's girlfriend did the wrong thing in breaking up with him, I'm sure there's quite a few people who cringed while reading my story and think I had a valid reason to do the exact same thing.

Oh wait... your saying Conditional Love exists... but it just has this habit of not working out in the long run...hmmmm funny how that is.

You loved her UNCONDITIONALLY but then things changed when she cheated on you... oops guess there was a condition after all...although a completely reasonable one to expect but a condition all the same...

Seriously this is why most people dont understand what Love truly is... they confuse it with all kinds of other really strong feelings the honestly "Feel" like you'd expect Love to feel... only they are not... Love is unconditional, its forever, love forgives (most people cant truly forgive either so dont get me started on that)... if it ends, goes south or wears off well guess what... it was damn close but it was something else. Dont confuse being "In love" with LOVE one is a mental state the other is something that is in all regards boundless as the universe and just as hard to comprehend.

Ive just about beat this point into the ground, either people get it or they dont - but if they dont - I cant explain this concept into anyone - thats like trying to make a blind person understand the color purple or red... you can describe all day long but no matter how close you get it wont be exactly the same as the real thing.

I rest my case...

[BrendaTG]

i agree with tempest TS here....

[tsadriana]

Most people sees transexuals as a gay not as a transwomen....I bet there is more then what we read from his story....Im sure that she called him a gay.In UK is someting normal for men to ask :If i have sex with transexual makes me a gay?U started a relantionship with this new girl ,u slept with her once and suddenly she finds out that u had sex with a tranny?She most be a physic lol

[brickcitybrother]

Follow your heart

[TheGuard]

Nudes? jk, but srsly, nudes?

[Rui]

Good luck on your relationships, I'm jealous of you

[Jackal]

Sorry to hear that your new girlfriend could not accept that you have loved transwomen in the past. Good luck in reconciling with your past girlfriend, she is very beautiful.

[Dino Velvet]

Love is trapping your spouse in a dutch oven and laughing maniacally.

I must be the kindest man on earth. Generous too.