How to meet TSes the proper manner

[Ceris893]

So I've been doing research on what people say is the best ways to go about meeting a Transwoman for a while. Simply, I've found that the most common advice is "Treat her like any other woman" which I agree with, as well as not bringing up sexual subjects until it has been established that doing so is OK. Anything else someone should know, in case I end up in the situation?

[onThaLow954]

Yeah post a face and dick pic on craigslit m4t and wait about an hour. Discuss sex on the first correspondence.

[Ceris893]

Okay, not helpful at all. Not into the whole escort thing. Sex is an accessory to a relationship, not the pinnacle

[Quiet Reflections]

use the search function this topic has be discussed many times already. You probably won't even have to go 10 pages deep to find a related thread. It is simple. If you don't want to go to a club or dating site your only real option is to keep your eyes open and hope for the best.

[onThaLow954]

Oh i didn't mean escorting. TG's that live full time under the radar and dont want people knowing they are often go there to pick up some strange but you probably wouldn't be interested, those girls just have their mind on one thing and it would just be a purely physically connection where you're bodies were together and nothing but lust sex and realizing that the reality was so much hotter than the fantasy.

As far as a full , meaningful relationship? No idea. Tranny support group maybe? Who knows.

Okay, not helpful at all. Not into the whole escort thing. Sex is an accessory to a relationship, not the pinnacle

[AlwaysAda]

i have yet to meet a guy that doesn't bring up sex within the first hour or so.

[Ceris893]

It's not to say its off the table, but, for instance, when I'm on a date I'm focused on making sure that I am presenting myself in the best possible way, showing I have class while not being pompous about it. For me, I don't even bring up sex until the conversation has become grounded. I could have sex on a first date, but as of today its never happened on the first, and I am more comfortable getting to know the other person without having to bring up sex until I've grounded the conversation. Even from there, I am not the type of guy to have sex then cut it off there.

But then again, I have never had the experience of a transwoman as a date or sex partner, or at least, none who let me know that was the case. Maybe its different, but I do not know. I'm openminded, but I'm also not a one night stand guy.

[ethereal]

I have often wondered the same thing about meeting men who want LTRs with TSes. I'm completely under the radar, not into the escort scene, not into gratuitous sex, and am contemplating whether or not to go through with GRS, and one of my considerations is whether it would be possible to meet such a man. If it would be possible, I'm far less likely to undergo surgery because I don't like surgery. The various forums and Craigslist seem dominated by people seeking sex primarily, and there is nothing wrong with that, it's just not for me. But there isn't even a M4T or T4M friendship/platonic section in Craigslist, while there are M4F and F4M friendship/platonic sections. And friendship is how relationships should start, IMHO.

I have friends who have undergone GRS and met straight men who are 'okay' with their past. But in the ideal world, I would be able to meet someone who is not only 'okay' with my past, but appreciative of all aspects of me.

[Ceris893]

As a guy, I am definitely in the minority. I'm not particularly fascinated by transwomen, but considering that:

A. They choose to be women
B. They generally know some form of ostracising, similar to myself.

I have concluded that I have a fair of getting along well with them.

@ethreal
Considering that current vaginoplasty techniques arent perfect and require maintenance, I think that transwomen are better off keeping their original genitalia until they're ready to take that step. I have had a unique conversation with a transwoman once, she has lived as a woman for close to six years, five on HRT and 3 with an orchiectomy, and she told me she'd rather wait until current medical techniques improve enough for SRS. That hasn't stopped her from preparing, such as electrolysis of the scrotum, in the event she becomes ready. She said one reason she did not want to undergo it, however, was because of the dilating, cleaning and post operative recovery.

[rodinuk]

Anything else someone should know, in case I end up in the situation?

Sounds like it's on a list of what should I do in case of.....emergency? situations