Do friends with benefits ever end well

[Quiet Reflections]

I have had it work a few times and I'm still friends with them. One I hang out with all the time and we are both currently in other relationships with people that know our past together. If people are honest with each other it can work, but most people don't know themselves well enough to be in a friends with benefits situation.

[DL_NL]

I've had one FWB arrangement turn into a proper relationship, and one just fizzle out and end after a coupla years. No negative experiences (yet).

[lifeisfiction]

to girls it means a guy she can actually hang out with,spend time,do fun things and also be intimate with non of the commitment or loss of freedom.

Thats what she is looking for and I have no problems with that. I know she is not looking for a fuckbuddy, but a friend that she can be intimate with. I have seen it work a few times and a lot of times it doesn't. I am not person who normally seeks it out. I was curious to what others thought.

[amberskyi]

Thats what she is looking for and I have no problems with that. I know she is not looking for a fuckbuddy, but a friend that she can be intimate with. I have seen it work a few times and a lot of times it doesn't. I am not person who normally seeks it out. I was curious to what others thought.

most times feelings will develop...thats just how it is when your screwing someone you actually like and is cool *shrugs*

[BeardedOne]

That's what escorts are for. Keeps fellas outta trouble.

What Dino said. Unfortunately, it doesn't always work out that way. TW once described me to a friend as a guy "Who keeps his heart in his dick", meaning that I get attached too easily to my bedmates. Just because I've rented your real estate doesn't necessarily mean that I don't want to be a long-term tenant. I've already had this come up a couple of times, once by jealousy (I pondered about whether or not she had 'too many' lovers) and once by worry (Just because I paid you to anoint my tonsils doesn't mean that I can't care about you). It can get touchy.

This of course means that Friends without benefits is no longer an option because if a woman suggests FWB status and you say no then you just rejected her and no woman can stay friends with a man who rejects her long term.

and...

For girls it's an insult no matter how nicely you say no.

Not always so. I have had one situation in my life where the woman blatantly came on to me with an FWB offer (To the point of discussing a marriage of convenience) and I politely declined (Several times). Though the offer still comes up from time to time, she understands that my head and heart (And dick) just aren't in tune to the offer and we remain close friends to this day.

most times feelings will develop...thats just how it is when your screwing someone you actually like and is cool *shrugs*

THIS!

It is my blessing, it is my curse.

[lifeisfiction]

Its that feelings part that is problem. Emotional attachment when you are hoping to avoid it can cause problems. Oh well I thinking too much, life is short you're going to make a decision that you will regret at some point and time. It cannot be avoided.

[buttslinger]

One Day you kids are going to wake up and realize friends always lat you down in the end. Look out for yourself, don't do anything you'll regret forever, and treat your friends the way you'd like them to treat you. And if you ever get a shot at Amber, take it!!! ha ha. Boys will be boys.

[SammiValentine]

destined to come to a sticky end.

[CaptainPlanet]

I have had quite a few FWB that turned out good, in the long run. There all cool friends now, so it depends on how the communication is between both parties.

[ew86riv]

i think for it to end well you two needs to be real friends first. you can't fuck each other and then after when a relationship doesnt seem like it can work say you'll be friends with benefits. i met a girl almost 4 years ago and we've been friends with benefits since, but we didn't have sex for almost 6 months beforehand when we first met.