Girls: would you prefer a sugar baby relationship over escorting?

[dominic.perron]

Don't tell anyone, Krissy. Those umbrellas have been the source of my game for too long. Panty kryptonite, my dear.

[nina_lisa]

Good question, ts girls are here because they either do porn or escorting, so my guess replies might be biased compared to a forum where maybe 99% of the girls did not escort or do porn.

Since you are married, i think it is more respectable to have that arrangement, where at the same time you help someone than to go with escorts. i don't have a number in mind, but a big % of people i see are married people that do it behind their wives back.

Of course the moment you are a sugar daddies, there would be emotions in the game, I doubt you can help someone go through transition and not have emotions in the game.

If i take an educated guess, many girls will prefer a sugar daddy, that escorting or porn, as both can be bad for any other jobs they have, or even reduce their chances of getting a normal job. Some girls might even have a full time job in McDonald for example, but struggle to be able to afford laser hair removal.

Would i prefer sugar daddy to escorting, it depend on who is the sugar daddy i think, for me escorting it is more of a temporary thing, and with a sugar daddy i am afraid i don't know what i am throwing myself into. I don't really care much for high-heels or dresses or want someone to go to a mall and buy me some, if i buy something want to have worked hard to earn from my own money.


Now how to approach trans girls, i think if you went to a random bar, walked to random young girl and said do you want a sugar daddy to pay for university bills, she might not be very happy.

I'll say take things slowly, with a small step each time, get to know the person, have a nice conversation about food and weather, know their story. After sometime you can guess if it is something they might want or not, or they might even know friends that might be interested. it is better to build a relationship.

If a random person see me in a bar and offered to buy me a drink, i would 100% say no (never happened that i was in a bar, a random guy said can i buy a drink? and i say yes. The moment i say yes they think they can get into my pants).

Now if you see me in a bar, and say: hey where does your cute accent from? oh, really you took the train this morning from Boston to NYC? i used to live in Boston for 3 years.......Etc Then after 5min of a non creepy conversation (hate it when guys ask: so do you have a BF?) if you said: i need a drink, can i buy you a drink. If i enjoyed the conversation with you, more chances i'll say yes.

for a first message something as simple as: just wanted to wish you luck with transition, it should be hard............Etc how do you find it in Tempa, is it easy to be ts...Etc Can go a longer way than: hey want a sugar daddy?

[magicmost]

talk is cheap

[SammiValentine]

Hey all,
I'm a lurker here, but I'm inspired by a recent thread by Nina_Lisa about whether men prefer to be sugar daddies or do they prefer to hire escorts. I'm curious about how the transwomen feel about their side of the debate, as it is contextually important to me personally.

My situation: I'm a confident, masculine and handsome hetero-generic dude who is trans-oriented by nature. I'm happily married to a genetic woman who is fully aware of my attraction to transgendered women. She celebrates and encourages my attraction to transwomen and, recently, has given me the green light to explore a sexual encounter with a transwoman.



So naturally, I look toward escorts for my situation. The goal is to have an experience without any emotional weirdness to follow it. But I understand that many transwomen approach escorting to finance their transition. I also understand that many escorts have substance abuse issues. My solution would be to find a transwoman in the early stages of her transition and help her finance that transition without needing to escort.

So, my question to the TS ladies on this site-- would you appreciate a trans-oriented sugar daddy who would help finance your transition in the interest of keeping you out of pornography and escorting? Would you find it insulting if I found you on a TS dating website and offered such a relationship? Not to be crass, but would you feel like I was trying to whore you out?

I truly love TS women, I admire the courage you have to strive to become who you were born to be and I think most humans don't have your courage. I find you immensely attractive and I want to help, but I have to be honest in that part of my motive is sexual. Thereby, I feel a sugar daddy relationship suits everyone involved.

I'm eager to hear how the TS community feels about sugar daddy/baby relationships. I don't want to offend anyone in the process, but I imagine it beats the alternative for some TS women.

if your sleeping with her how are you keeping her out of escorting? lol x

[Jericho]

'kin 'ell, Sammi, is there a larger version of your Avatar floating around?

[SammiValentine]

Will be when I release the set and video(s) on my wesbite soon

[Jericho]

You are such a tease!

[fred41]

...look a little like Dave Matthews...

[Stavros]

The problem is that dominic sounds like he wants to be a charity rather than a sugar daddy. The deeper problem with some men (not all) who do send money/give money to their sugar-babes is that it makes them think they own them -so they get upset if they find out that in spite of the money, she is seeing other guys, paid for or otherwise (or maybe she just met some guy and fell in love), and so on: isn't this at some point about control rather than benign help for someone who wants to transition? It sounds more like some third world development project.