Jealous boyfriend

[SmithXXX]

Quit whining about it because you are starting to sound like the self proclaimed Loser you have labelled your self to be. She is in the SEX industry. She probably sees 1,2,3 or more clients per day. So to make a long story short. She is worn out by the time you get home...Literally. Plus depending on how long you have been with her the sex does taper off after awhile as well. Even for couples not in the sex industry. If on the other hand she has found someone else there is nothing you can do about that except maybe ask her for pointers so you can take over you place as her number one guy. Regardless of any advice you take to heart from this forum NONE of it is any good unless you have TRUST & COMMUNICATION with her. So you need to man up, grab your balls, stand up when you pee, and talk to her. No one on this board knows all the details or her side of the story. Just remember this "Don't make someone your priority, when you are only an option to them."

[txsam]

or y'all can always talk about her just doing cam shows??

[BarryC]

She mentioned she'd like to give videos a go some time back. Somehow this would seem more acceptable to me - don't know why.

[Ryz]

Poor Barry. If I could email you a hug, I would.

[BiBoyinBeantown]

I guess I'm weird because, as strange as this sounds, I don't experience jealousy. This has kept my GG g/f and me going in an open relationship for nearly 20 years now.
I don't think there's anything wrong with being an escort, or dating one. Sex workers are people too.
So I don't think I would mind if an SO of mine was escorting, beyond practical concerns over legality (illegal in the U.S. where I live), safer-sex practices, or possible violence by a client.

However, I think i'd be bothered by a bunch of things about this scenario would bother me, even from my admittedly unusually liberal perspective:

1. Sleeping on crusty bedsheets. Ew. CHANGE THE DAMN SHEETS!
2. The violation of trust that this has prompted. Trust, once broken, is awfully hard to rebuild.
3. The increased risk to you of STDs, even if she's being careful.
4. Reality ("other guys are fucking my g/f!") has turned out to be quite different from fantasy ("Hot dog! I'm dating a sex worker! I'm getting for free what other guys pay big bucks for!"). This is unfortunately often the case when people get to live out their sexual fantasies. (I keep hearing about weird emotional issues coming up as a result of threesomes, for instance.)

As some others have noted there can be all kinds of reasons for body fluids on the bedsheets even if condoms are being used for penetrative acts. I think the bottom line is whether you can trust her or not.

Honestly I'd recommend that you both get counseling but I'm not sure there are counselors who would, or can, deal with a situation like yours.

Good luck.

[txsam]

good luck and best wishes with this situation barry!

[Solitary Brother]

Hope you don't mind me running this by the members here but I have a bit of a situation. I'm a newbie you please excuse if this is the wrong forum but I had to ask someone.
My girlfriend is a pre op transsexual. For a little over a year now she has been a sex worker. I was fine with that at first. She entertains clients at our place, whilst I'm at work. Things have been OK but recently we haven't been making love as often as we used to and I've been getting a bit jealous of her clients.
The thing is I'm concerned that she hasn't been using protection. We've discussed this on a couple of occasions and she assures me that she has but - to be honest - I've checked the sheets and there have been cumstains that I know aren't mine. If she'd been using condoms, they wouldn't be there surely? I don't know if she's been having unprotected sex with clients or if she's having an actual relationship with someone. I know it sounds tragic but I've even watched from a friend's car and seen a client leave and they were kissing for ages as he left. I think that's when I started feeling really jealous. I'm nuts over her and don't want us to part but I don't know what to do. Have any members been in the same situation and how did they handle it?

Why any man would deal with a woman who sleeps with other men is beyond me.
You accepted this situation in the beginning so deal with it or leave.
Your the problem not her.

[BarryC]

I thought I'd made it clear - we don't sleep in "used" sheets. I (I'm ashamed to admit) checked through the laundry stuff. Yeah I know that's pretty low but I did. - I wish I hadn't but there you are.

[suttonporksword]

run away, fast

[Willie Escalade]

Reality ("other guys are fucking my g/f!") has turned out to be quite different from fantasy ("Hot dog! I'm dating a sex worker! I'm getting for free what other guys pay big bucks for!").

I felt this exact way. On the face I was just shrugging it off, but in the back of my mind it was bothering me.

I've gotten close to two other girls since then, but nothing became of the relationship (expect remaining friends) because they were both working girls.