Question to those that date escorts

[Quiet Reflections]

Having never paid for sex I don't know how the other side thinks but I was always of the opinion that most people pay because it is easier that looking for something real and putting yourself in a position to be emotionally hurt. Genuine intimacy scares most people and turning part of that into a business transaction removes some of the open, naked feeling of an actual relationship.

[bluesoul]

If you had a GF that did not escort, but when she was 20y.o every week she would sleep with 3 different guys, would that be a deal breaker?

most likely yes.

[bluesoul]

[Irony]hahaha i think having sex with people for money is no different at all to people paying escorts to have sex with them, then to not disclose that fact to any potential girlfriend.

i know for me personally, i'd like to know if my potential boyfriend is playing the double-standards game as it would (most likely) be a deal breaker.[/Irony]

you don't have to change what i said to interject your own humor. maybe for you that type of jerry springer relationship is normal, but for me, i'd prefer if my partner was open.

[Jericho]

hahaha i think having sex with people for money is a little different from, say, an accounting job.

You're kidding, right?
Accountants are the second biggest whores on the planet (slightly behind lawyers)!

[buttslinger]

Just for kicks I'd like to fuck that girl I had a big crush on in high school,
or that hot stranger walking down the street,
maybe that married co-worker,
or that 16 year old chick in line at the 7-11

Fucking a ho is an exotic, do-able fantasy. After a few drinks it sounds like the greatest idea in the history of mankind.

[kmersh]

i would date someone but they would have to accept i work in the adult industry with no intentions of leaving it for the forseeable future ... i.e webcamming, camera work , modelling or escorting etc ...

so therefore i would pretty much say that rules out 99% of civilians ...of which would just leave me to find another person the industry as they understand the setup .

I tend to look at things vastly differently than most, but I feel that if I met somebody in the "adult" industry than I do not have a leg to stand on in terms of asking them to leave it. FULL STOP.

Granted, I am an extremely laid back person and my philosophy has always been that what you do during the day is your business, as long as you come home to me at night than I am cool with almost anything.

With regards to paying for sex, I intrinsically have nothing against paying, but as I have been a guest of the state for two whole years and out on probation, anything illegal (and that goes for paying for sex [even though I do NOT believe it should be illegal]) right now is not is just not going to happen.

K

[Tyler___Durden]

hahaha i think having sex with people for money is a little different from, say, an accounting job. i think it's very good of nina_lisa to be honest with her potential partners about what she's done (despite any negative connotations that might arise).

i know for me personally, i'd like to know if my girlfriend has prostituted in the past as it would (most likely) be a deal breaker.

[Irony]hahaha i think having sex with people for money is no different at all to people paying escorts to have sex with them, then to not disclose that fact to any potential girlfriend.

i know for me personally, i'd like to know if my potential boyfriend is playing the double-standards game as it would (most likely) be a deal breaker.[/Irony]

you don't have to change what i said to interject your own humor. maybe for you that type of jerry springer relationship is normal, but for me, i'd prefer if my partner was open.

Yes you are quite right. Having a relationship with a transsexual woman is Jerry Springer territory. I'll be sure to tell my hubby when he gets home from shift (Accident & Emergency ambulance response crew)
Frak, with that job he really should have noticed relationships such as ours are car-crash territory!
I unreservedly apologise.

I have now revised my last post; I trust this new version meets with your approval:

[Revision]hahaha i think going on transsexual porn sites but not disclosing this highly relevant fact about their sexuality, to any potential girlfriend, very telling. Said person is almost certainly going to feature on Springer themselves; they should very definitely disclose that fact to any potential girlfriend.

i know for me personally, i'd like to know if my potential boyfriend masturbates over the pictures on Hung Angels, as it would (most likely) be a deal breaker.[/Revision]

[SexSlave1972]

Well paying is easiest, I date TS's just for sex... no relationship cons but neither the good sides.

I've could date a TS if I would love to settle down with anyone, that's no problem.
Single and staying that way...


Don't take too seriously this last one but.....
Money, it may be even cheaper than having a relationship... U' pay for 1 hour of intimacy now and then or 24/7/365 of living. Do the math

[Prospero]

it varies. Sometimes because you really desire a beautiful looking girl you'd seen advertising on-line. Sometimes you get that itch and go see a woman you've seen before with whom you've had a good experience or with whom you are compatible. Never because you want to leave quickly or want them to leave. I'm almost always delighted to linger as long as possible (except with those escorts who're are plain bloody awful - see my various reviews of the bad 'uns).
And no - I don't do it to doge a relationship. I've had a few with transgendered women. I would again if the right lady were to swim into view.

[shaustin]

ok i am thinking loudly here. for me escorting is short term, i don't see myself 1-2 years from now still doing it. But anyone i might date might have an issue with what i did in the past.

- I can go and date women, so far my experience what that women are more sensitive and more understanding of who i am.

- If i date someone who main preference is ts girls, he might be strongly against, me having surgery. so i don't want to have non supportive partners.

my own experience with escorting even if limited, is many chasers will only seem me as a fetish and nothing more. it is even pretty common for people to refer to me as He.

- I can date a straight man that is not looking for a ts, he might reject me when he know i am ts, but he will also be more supportive if one day i decide to go for the surgery. Which make the option of dating girls a better option, as many men have insecurities of the type: i found a ts attractive, does it make me gay.


I am just thinking loudly, so anyone feel free to comment on what i said.

The honest truth? Nothing in life is certain. There are no absolutes. Humans are amazing creatures, both in kindness and cruelty. I believe the only fair way to go through life is to treat every individual on a case by case basis. To find happiness I believe a person must be open to possibility. When you limit your options you sometimes block people out of your life you might otherwise have benefited from. This is actually why I never felt ashamed of my attraction to TS's and actually embraced it. I have a strong love for women, and to me if it looks, acts, and smells like a woman than it's a woman. To let a minor detail like genitalia rob me of a possibilty to make a connection with a beautiful woman is insane in my mind. But it's only because I accept that there is a possibility for understanding and happiness traveling down such a route. Perhaps my odds of living happily ever after are better if I focus 100% of GG's, but I choose to allow for the possibility that I may end up with a TS instead. You never know who it will be who catches your attentions.