Black Men Who Like Trans-Women

[onmyknees]

As a black man myself I feel like it is very stigmatized to be attracted to trans-women. You damn near have to be on the DL in fear of being rejected by your family/community. So I've started this thread as a platform for young black men like myself who need an outlet to voice their opinions. Other races and transsexuals feel free to also voice your opinions. I just wanna make sure Im not alone in my thoughts and ideas.

Part of me understands what you're trying to convey, but why do you feel compelled to share your intimate sexual desires with your family and friends ? On a macro level....sure I wish everyone was more accepting of different lifestyles, but that's a long slog and we're not nearly there. So while I can relate to your predicament, you have to deal with society as it is...not as you want it to be. If you were married, and hangin' with the guys would you intimate details of your bedroom adventures with your wife? I would find that uncomfortable. I have gay dudes that work for me, and when we socialize I don't want to hear about their encounters, and I don't share mine. I just don't get why that's anybody's business but your own.... To me sex is a deeply personal thing. The only approval I need is from my partners...no one else. I understand and agree there should be far less judgement coming from others both black and white on how it is you chose to live your life, but neither you nor I are going to change that in the short term... While it's true you can select your friends but not your family, if you showed up to Sunday dinner with a Trans Woman and she makes you happy yet they don't except her...that's on them...not you. If you start living your life fearing what others might think...you're bound to be unhappy.

[amberskyi]

I wonder if you guys ever wonder how it makes us feel to have a boyfriend/lover only to find out that they are ashamed of us or scared to be with us publicly.do you know how painful and helpless we feel that the only reason is what we were born, something we can't help or change...

[Donjuan2416]

Yeah all that "I don't care what people think...sticks n stones" jibberish sounds good but in reality we do care what people think. We all want to feel some level of acceptance, whether that's from family or society. The same way a Trans girl doesn't want to be rejected by family/society for being who she is us men also don't want to be rejected. We live in a cruel and unforgiving world, and us Trans admirers get heat from both sides;if we like Trans-women were seen as "gay" by society and "chasers" by the girls

[south ov da border]

Yeah all that "I don't care what people think...sticks n stones" jibberish sounds good but in reality we do care what people think. We all want to feel some level of acceptance, whether that's from family or society. The same way a Trans girl doesn't want to be rejected by family/society for being who she is us men also don't want to be rejected. We live in a cruel and unforgiving world, and us Trans admirers get heat from both sides;if we like Trans-women were seen as "gay" by society and "chasers" by the girls

And that is a big problem, especially being black and liking a trans woman. I have only been with 1 and I never have had a relationship or anything because I've basically been around my family and haven't had the time to branch out and meet on my own terms. But it seems with me the last few women I have had in my life have been sexually open and we both actually liked trans women - though they had never seen one in the buff. I'll see what type of girl I do get once I can get past the whole liking them for more than an escort thing.

And I know what it is like to be ok to sleep with but not ok to bring home or take in public hand in hand. And it sucks...

[brickcitybrother]

I am a 30 year old black male living in Dallas. I have been dating a TG for two weeks now. It is not serious at the moment . I have not told any of my friends or family because they would not understand or open minded enough to understand. In my situation my family stays like 10 hours from where I live so I don't mind going out with her. I went to a resturant with her two weeks ago first date did receive a few odd looks but said to myself fuck it. I like all type of girls gg or tg. I don't see myself ever marrying a tg due to wanting to have my own biological kids.

Too many contradictions ... brain needs rest. LMAO

[JayCon2006]

No way I would tell anyone about my like of Tgirls. I just don't think people or friends would be ready for it.

I personally joined this forum for that reason

The black community , family , and friends basically suck ,
and being into t-girls wouldn't make it any better

I'm agnostic and all I get is BS ,
" you're what , and what is that exactly ? "
or mostly " you're going to hell "
Its hard to talk to a "christian" black person without some fake ass hypocrite telling ME , I'M going to hell

I mean do I wanna argue my beliefs and damn, my love for a nice t-girl
hell thas an argument I'll never win

Anytime you are black and different you are shunned ...
I love classical music and you should see my boys faces when I pull up in my car with those violins playing lol
I stopped caring - aye I like Pac and Bach
Deal with it

Now this T-girl thing is different though
Looking at Tranny porn just makes you gay in the eyes of blacks and thas the truth , you might as well just come out the closet is what they say.

The first T-girl I looked at twice was Destiny and I was like no fuckin way
Then It Was Sexxy Jade
And I was hooked
its my choice to keep my porn secrets I like a lot of fetishes Im not like hey man you gotta see this t-girl or wow girls peeing are you guys into that ... lol

Who doesnt close their doors and have a secret
And Basically WHO THE FUCK CARES

[RACQUEL]

DL Brothers are the BEST!! They Love Tgurl Ass Bigtime!! Stay on the DL and Hit dem FREAKS DADDY. XOXO

[dabaldone]

Am not sure why any guys would worry about what others has to say...You just need to be you and know who you are as a man. My girl is tran and she gone through so much to be her beautiful self..so I'll be damn to put her through any more of her bad experiences in life. I'll rather be there for her and support her...So what some people dont agree with my choice, I can only be true to her and my self...

I'm with you on this one brother. At some point you have to stand up for who you are and what you believe in. The things I do for my lady and the lady friends who just happen to be trans and what I do for other brothers who "struggle" with being trans-attracted define who I am. I don't give a damn who thinks what! And yes, I am black.

[dabaldone]

I wonder if you guys ever wonder how it makes us feel to have a boyfriend/lover only to find out that they are ashamed of us or scared to be with us publicly.do you know how painful and helpless we feel that the only reason is what we were born, something we can't help or change...

Until a man understands your statement, he will continue to live in fear and shame. Another poster said "Yeah all that "I don't care what people think...sticks n stones" jibberish sounds good but in reality we do care what people think. We all want to feel some level of acceptance, whether that's from family or society."
I don't give a shit about what people think. Im a grown man and not ashamed of who I am or the type of women I love. That's what a man does.

[fordly66]

Just an observation from a white guy. I am not black and have no idea what it is to be black. That being said, how did the trend of young black men wearing their pants down so low so that their boxers show, sometimes even as low as the crack of their ass? I heard it started in prison and that meant you was someones bitch. If this is true, seems like it is pretty common. So I conclude that in black culture, it's OK to have sex with another man so long as you are locked up in prison. So why is it not OK to have a TS girlfriend outside of prison? Like I said, just an observation.