John Travolta- Male Double Standard

[south ov da border]

Most of the folks on this board have probably heard about John Travolta and his interest in gay sex with all the allegations that are being thrown at him. This got me thinking about why a male actor in Hollywood has to keep his sexuality a secret whereas many female actresses brag about being bisexual or having had lesbian sexual experiences. Why does society accept female homosexuality while attacking male homosexuality?

I ask the above question because I often hear transsexual women complain on this board that they cannot find a male who will be in a relationship with them. Many transsexual women do not seem to understand that if a man publicly states that he is in a relationship with a transsexual, he will lose many of his friends and family members because society believes that men should not be able to explore their sexuality like women. I remember reading about a man in the UK who married a transsexual women from Malaysia. After his marriage, he lost his job at a school because people were uncomfortable with the fact that he was with a transsexual. Being with a transsexual is not an easy choice for most men because of society's intolerance. I hope more transsexual women will cut some slack for us men.

I wish someone like John Travolta could just admit to society that he is gay or bisexual without society trying to harass him. Women are not harassed for their sexuality but unfortunately, men are.

Because Hollywood is a fantasy world, it ruins the fantasy if lead males are outright in their sexual orientation. I wish there were more John Barrowmans out there. Society is a shame...

[fastingforlife]

So if you believe the accuser. Travolta told him, you can't get ahead in hollywood without sleeping with someone in power.

Picture John Wayne, on his knees giving some bald 5'3" jewish guy a bj......or vice versa.

[onmyknees]

Most of the folks on this board have probably heard about John Travolta and his interest in gay sex with all the allegations that are being thrown at him. This got me thinking about why a male actor in Hollywood has to keep his sexuality a secret whereas many female actresses brag about being bisexual or having had lesbian sexual experiences. Why does society accept female homosexuality while attacking male homosexuality?

I ask the above question because I often hear transsexual women complain on this board that they cannot find a male who will be in a relationship with them. Many transsexual women do not seem to understand that if a man publicly states that he is in a relationship with a transsexual, he will lose many of his friends and family members because society believes that men should not be able to explore their sexuality like women. I remember reading about a man in the UK who married a transsexual women from Malaysia. After his marriage, he lost his job at a school because people were uncomfortable with the fact that he was with a transsexual. Being with a transsexual is not an easy choice for most men because of society's intolerance. I hope more transsexual women will cut some slack for us men.

I wish someone like John Travolta could just admit to society that he is gay or bisexual without society trying to harass him. Women are not harassed for their sexuality but unfortunately, men are.

I get that...I suppose, although I don't spend a lot of time lamenting about Travolta's trials and tribulations or anyone in Hollywood for that matter. I did have empathy for the situation with his son, but this is of his own doing. Just a guess, but if he was having a quiet affair with another dude, I don't think it would be all that shocking. The whole pool boy thing plays right into a stereotype. That don't play well outside of Sodom and Gomorra

[GrimFusion]

I'm so sick of celebrity news, but the people who follow it piss me off even more.
It's not news. I don't need to know where Lady Gaga eats or who her love interest is. If John Travolta is bisexual or gay, it has absolutely no bearing on his acting skill. It's incredibly unfortunate that his sexual orientation could have a determinable bearing on his acting career, but it does. The stupid fact of the matter is that if he were to publicly come-out, half of his fans would refuse to watch any new movie he appeared in, and directors take that into consideration.

It's not surprising that celebrities feel the need to hide most everything they do. They aren't necessarily trying to keep their activities a secret, but with paparazzi following them everywhere, one little digression becomes a world news story. It's not that they don't want anyone knowing... it's that they don't want EVERYONE knowing.

That aside, I think most of the negative attention male bisexual and gay culture receive from society is due to the nature of man-on-man sex. People think it's dirty and disease-ridden. Nevermind that women have ass holes too and likely experiment with them as well, it's just not something society assumes when they think of woman-on-woman sex.
Men react differently to gay porn than women do. Even if a woman isn't necessarily into watching man-on-man, most of them aren't totally repulsed by it either. In fact, I know quite a few "straight" women who admit to liking and watching gay porn. Others just think it's comical, but most men react by leaving the room or badmouthing gay sex to protect their straight self-image.

Changing the way society sees male homosexuality or bisexuality is a two-part process, but it's nearly impossible. You'd have to prove to society that gay sex isn't dirty, then you'd have to virtually flood the market with gay porn to desensitize the brunt of straight men in the world. Even then, every guy has his own opinion and it'd be much harder to sway them individually. Likely won't happen.

[Yvonne183]

Most straight guys figure gay men will treat them the way they themselves treat women- that is, like sex objects. And this freaks them the fuck out.” I copied that from someone else's post on another forum.


I knew Travolta was gay from "Saturday Night Fever",, very poof character indeed, all done up in a white suit.

[onmyknees]

[QUOTE=GrimFusion;1151766]
Nevermind that women have ass holes too and likely experiment with them as well, it's just not something society assumes when they think of woman-on-woman sex.


That's a funny line, Grim...I think I'll borrow it. I've never quite heard it put like that.

[Females&Shemales]

Well, you have to look at it as Hollywood views it. For Hollywood, it is all about the almighty dollar. Since most Americans think homosexuality is morally wrong and unnatural, subsequently fewer Americans are going to pay $12 to see him in a movie.

Back in the day, that would've had Hollywood strip him of his A-List status and force him into retirement or independent/small budget movies.

Thankfully in his case, he's not a draw anymore so I think his career / legacy is safe should he choose to come out or annouce his bisexuality.