An old Friend

[TSLoverIB]

Hey everyone,
I really like this site because people share truth, honestly and do not alienate others. So i need some advice, maybe some good in site from different perspectives.
So about 10+ Years ago, i met a Transsexual, she is a little more then 10 years older then me. We have been good friends for that long and lately have not even spoke. So to make a long story short, over the last year or so. We planned on getting closer to each other. Over the years i was dating women, she was dating men. It just was never the right timing, we both told each other. We would flirt with what we would do to each other. So on and so forth, we would wish each other holidays and birthdays, so points we would be close daily. The whole time ive known her she wanted to start her own business. I would always tell her she would be good doing such, and tried to get her to start it.
Then within the last few years things began getting different. I would send her Christmas presents, birthday, so on. She began to fall on hard times, she lost her job, wrecked her car. She needed help, i have always helped her. So then after she lost her job, she wanted to come see me. I could not because i was so busy with a real estate investment. Then things just did not start to add up and got odd. She would only talk to me during the week, and that was not normal. When i spoke to her, she seems to always have allergy problems.
So one day, i spoke with another friend, and they informed me they thought she may be hooking. I thought to myself, NO way, not possible. Not this woman, she has way to much respect for herself. She lost her job, sticking up for her morals, the way she was brought up. This all just did not make any sense to me. So as you know all of you reading this, when someone says something, and you want answers. What do you do, haha, go looking for answers. So i went looking, searching websites, and lord behold, i found Eros. I have never been with a hooker, escort, so this was the first time seeing the site. I tell you, it makes you wonder what else I have not seen, haha. And anyway, she was in one of the cities, one of the ads on Eros. I was PISSED, CONFUSED.
Once you see that, things start to circle in your mind, questions. I wonder if she has been doing this all along? Ever since i first met her? Is my judgment in people so far off, i can not even believe in people anymore? The more i looked around, the more questions i had. Personally i wondered how could she do this? How could she sell herself for money? How could she pretend to be one else? Yes, yes, i understand prostitutes have been around since the beginning of time. But when it is someone you care about. You seem to have way more different view on it. I myself, personally, would never be a escort. I was never brought up that way, and will never. I start to think that even in my brink, of having no money, ever, i would still would never do it.
And then i ask that question, for a person that has worked in law firms, as a secretary, as a hair dresser, how could she do this? She just looses her job, and i help her with her rent. Was i a moron to help her, to send her money? So then i see these ads on this site, and it makes me angry, and kinda sad. Now, as of today, i have not spoke to her since i lashed out and called her things i should have never. She is still on the ads, and other sites, old pictures of herself even under stating her real age. I think I also lashed out because we both know people who have died from AIDS. I just do not want to see her catch such. Part of me wonders if she has HIV already for the constant allergies or not wanting to visit me? But as all adults know, allergies are common. Also people start to think the worst of people as well. I do care about this person and was hoping our relationship would have progressed more.
She is a really great person, I just do not know what to think. I guess you can say part of me loves this person. All honest opinions, comments appreciated, your thoughts?
Thank you for reading.

[GroobySteven]

How many times have you met her in person over those past 10 yrs?

[TSMichelleAustin]

WOW DUDE... U are one judgemental peice of work! And then you lash out at her like she is your child? Who are u to dictate how she lives her life? And who are you to say because she was raised different she should not be doing such things. Honey until you walk a day in our shoes, dont judge like that! That girl demands an apology and some respect. You have no right to act the way you did towards her. Maybe she never told you this because of how you would react, and I am sure she was right! How dare you ruin something so nice... we all fall on hard times and I know more prostitutes who are more safe in their sexual life then normal everyday girls! SAD! How can you be so mean to someone you say u care for? You are just looking from it as your side, and it seems very greedy and judgmental!

[MdR Dave]

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[SammiValentine]

lolz

[Prospero]

Go see her if she is such an old friend. Sit down and LISTEN to what she has to say instead of letting your imagination run riot. Stop making judgments based on virtually nothing.

Either that or just forget about her and carry on with your life.

[onmyknees]

Send me that Eros link.............I'll go check her out and let you know! lol

But seriously........I judge people on a number of levels but not how they make a living. You're substituting your morals, upbringing and financial situation for hers.....That's completely unfair. Climb off that high horse. Would you be this upset if she was living in public housing, collecting unemployment, and filed for welfare?