A Fourth Sexual Orientation?

[the commander]

I started thinking deep thoughts today (always dangerous) while surfing through some dating apps on my phone. Something about the way the apps sorted people I was potentially looking to hook up with got me thinking about sexual orientation and gender identification.

I think it is pretty standard to think of people as being heterosexual, homosexual and bisexual. I have mostly thought of myself as bisexual, but the app got me wondering. While I do find men attractive, it is a very specific type of man. The must be VERY feminine. Example of what I mean are attached. I always thought of Transsexuals as the perfect blend of male and female because they fit that description so well.

However, now I am wondering if what is really happening is the development of a fourth orientation. One that leans toward being attracted toward women, but broadens that definition to include the "third sex" of TS women and very girly men (traps)?

I'm not sure I am explaining myself well. I am curious what others thoughts are on this type of thing. I know some people would say orientation, as well as gender identity, is more fluid than society normally allows for, but this feels different somehow.

Perhaps this isn't the best place to have a discussion like this, but I can't really think of an alternative.

The Commander
DIA

[robertlouis]

It IS the right place. Just be prepared for some pretty dumb replies.

Nice avatar by the way. First world war RSM?

[Ruca]

I can agree with this myself, I'm bisexual as well and I prefer those type of men to the overly muscled ones. Don't get me wrong I love transsexuals and women but that in between a guy and a transsexual is that ?? Gender not quite a guy but not a transsexual or cd. Where did you find those cute ones tho.

[the commander]

I can agree with this myself, I'm bisexual as well and I prefer those type of men to the overly muscled ones. Don't get me wrong I love transsexuals and women but that in between a guy and a transsexual is that ?? Gender not quite a guy but not a transsexual or cd. Where did you find those cute ones tho.

Ruca...that's a pretty good description, not quite a guy but not quite a trannsexual, cd, etc. I actually always thought that was what "traps" were, but many of the traps I liked have now become full TS. The standard super buff or hairy guy has just never done it for me. For awhile I questioned whether I really did find guys attractive, but then I dated a "fem" boy for awhile and figured out that I just have specific taste when it comes to men.

Although, to complicate things, I do find bodybuilding women and some of the super cut TS girls, like Natalie Coxx to be attractive. This is part of what makes me wonder if the is another "category" of sexual orientation that is focused on those that blend sexes together. For me this does not include "butch" women like many lesbians, but it does include bodybuilding women who some would consider to masculine because of their muscles.

I don't know. Humans are funny. Nice to know I am not the only one who feels like this though. I got the photos from SKOUT, the app I was usuing to look for a hook up.

BTW...Robert Louis...I just wanted an avatar that fit what I thought of as the personification of the Royal British General as that fits what I think of when I think of "The Commander". (Long story for another thread). I usually go with someone with a pith helmet, but I liked this guys handlebars.

The Commander
DIA

[BellaBellucci]

So what you're saying is that you like twinks but you're not gay. Got it.

~BB~

[Ruca]

You are and wrong Bella, yes I like twinks but I also like men. It's more of a situational thing, depending if I'm bottoming or topping, that's kinda determines the man, woman or transsexual I'm with at the time. In all honest I love sex wether it be with same sex or the opposite sex or the transgender I honestly don't care I just love the action of sexual intercourse. Bella for you tho I'd top or bottom anyday, you are so sexy.

[the commander]

So what you're saying is that you like twinks but you're not gay. Got it.

~BB~

You know, I have heard the term "twink" for sometime, but never really knew what it meant. You inspired me to look it up, and low and behold, apparently I like "femme twinks" or "femme bois".

Wikipedia states: "Twink" is a LGBT slang term describing a young or young-looking gay man (18–21 age category) with a slender, ectomorph build, little or no body hair, and no facial hair. The term is often modified by various descriptors, e.g., Femme twink, Euro twink and Muscle twink.

I think I will do some image searches just to verify.

The Commander
DIA

[the commander]

So...add "Emo twink" to the list.

Yum.

The Commander
DIA

[Ruca]

I could get behind that emo twink, literally anyday

[the commander]

Great minds think alike Ruca. It's nice to have a term for what I like now. It's not exact, but it's pretty damn close. this will help with my porn search activities as well as being more exact when placing personals. I always struggled to describe what I was looking for. It also doesn't help than when I put "femme" boy or queen in my ads, I would inevitably get a large jock or bear hitting me up. lol.

It also just occurred to me that with my penchant for younger looking men, and pushing 40 myself...I believe that makes me a "Daddy". That will take some getting used to.

The Commander
DIA