Men on dating ts women

[EvonRose]

My ultimate fantasy is to become a vampire, and live forever. The most romantic thing sometimes is tragedy in love, If i distance myself from my emotions then I would not have the urge to want to be with someone, Just live life to eat them.

[tsadriana]

My ultimate fantasy is to become a vampire, and live forever. The most romantic thing sometimes is tragedy in love, If i distance myself from my emotions then I would not have the urge to want to be with someone, Just live life to eat them.

Good one

[ed_jaxon]

Good thread Kel

You're still a goof ball.

[lifeisfiction]

Kelly is dead on, for me it doesn't matter whether your tg or gg (whether you want keep your penis or not), but I find with tg's its way more difficult. Sometimes its so much of hassle, because they want a pure guy. I still don't know why so many hook up with the bad boys anyway. For me, when I find someone who is willing to be a relationship for the right reasons then it will be worth the wait.

[sosed]

Your question is interesting. I would say that both tgirls and man have to be seen here as an individual. Not all men are the same and not all tgirls or GGs are the same. We are all individuals and in everyones nature is to seek and find his/her soulmate, the special one to complete are souls into one unity. Of course sex is important part of life, but it is not the whole life and in partnership it is important to be compatible also in other parts of life, not only in bed.

I understand, that for tgirls is founding her soulmate more difficult than for GG, because of lot of reasons, but I still think everyone could find that individual, who will be the right mate.

For me, I could say I steal search for my soulmate and hope to find her, doesn't matter if she is GG or Tgirl, but that she is the right individual to complete our halfs into one unity.

[bluesoul]

I still don't know why so many hook up with the bad boys anyway.

it's an occupational hazard of hooking. also, it seems a majority of transsexuals are more concerned with being and treated as women and forget about just being people.

[MrsKellyPierce]

WOW!!! Great post Kelly! I have contemplated talking about some of the things mentioned in your post for as long as I have been a member of this forum, ultimately I decided against it each time. I feared that I would be perceived as a troll and attacked/despised in the same way that Freddy seems to relish bringing upon himself.

It took me a very long time to understand that I was bisexual to some degree, maybe 25%? (Who knows, who cares?) It took a very long time to be truly accepting of my attraction to transsexual gals. Looking back I can see that when I was confused, ashamed, and fearful of that attraction I had more "sex appeal" in the eyes of the trans ladies I talked to then I did after I made peace with it.

When I truly just wanted to talk and try to learn they were so eager to quickly move things towards sex. Other than my very first physical experience with a t-girl the girls quickly seemed to lose interest. Once you lose your shiny new car smell the ladies are repelled by you. Have you ever tried anything with a t-girl like me? Well I once held hands with a t-girl while watching a movie and... Oh My gawd, you are just another tranny chaser creep. Get away from me!!!! Wait. Are you fucking serious? Yes I am serious. I thought you were a nice guy, you lied to me. You are just a creepy perv! Wait! How did I lie about anything? You asked a question and I answered it! Why are... Get the fuck away from me! Don't call me ever again! Asshole!

I have had this exact scenario play out several times. For what? What is my crime? The worst thing you could do to a transsexual is not to be a group of morons that jump out of a truck and bash her with a baseball bat; the worst thing to say is "I know that I often have an attraction to t-girls, I am super-attracted to you and I really want the chance to get to know you and see if this can become something meaningful." < Dead man walking.

That whole fantasy you mentioned about the 100% straight guy that falls for the tranny is all only real in the minds of the angry, dramatic, self-hating (?) t-girls that make that shit up. If you thought the movie "Pretty Woman" was bullshit, this is the sequel gone full-retard times 1000. Many of the t-girls that I know seem to be starved for love, yet they seem ferociously determined to remain that way. Is it damaged people shooting themselves in the foot again and again for the glory of martyrdom?

It kills me how they will treat you like shit if you meet them in one of the bars. They typically will tell you to get away because they don't want to meet someone "in one of the bars." They hate when I do this but I quickly turn the tables and ask them where else I could have met them? I tell them that they are usually cowards that go nowhere except the bars, the tanning salon, and the mailbox. How can I meet you out in the "regular world" if you seem so intent to avoid it?

Whatever the cause might be I find myself wrestling with both sadness/frustration that one door that is unexplored territory seems to be locked in front of me. On the other hand I cling to the hope that the door leading to the more familiar path with ultimately provide me with the satisfying loving relationship that I crave in my life. Only time will provide me with the answer I want, I just detest having my options being limited by others.

I don't wish to set off a fire-storm but I have felt for several years now that the self-destructive nature of the transsexual/trans-attracted group often mirrors much of the conflicted, and self-sabotaging behavior that sometimes occurs in parts of the black community. The overwhelming majority of us in the (GLBT) seem determined to continue demonizing and attacking each other (attacking ones own self) as (so many) people in the 100% straight community have taught us to do. Is we sick today master? I guess we is people.

This is exactly what I am talking about! I am so glad you shared this and came out respectfully!

I like when we all can have intellectual conversations on here and not bash one another!

I so can feel you on this and have seen this time and time again with my ts girlfriends. Which is why most of my girlfriends are female. Transsexuals to me are just to superficial and have so many inside hatred it's hard to be friends with them. I've only met a handful that are sane and cool. I wont mention names so it doesn't cast anyone out.

But I have always felt transsexuals are the major cause of a lot of their issues! As well as deaths..that may seem unfeeling of me...but it's the truth.

[nonnonnon]

I like the chase but not the reward

[MrsKellyPierce]

Great Post Kelly !
First of all dating and relationships are challenging no matter what your persuasion or gender identity. As you pointed out, men and TS women dating have unique challenges meeting up and maintaining a relationship.
As a straight 30-something guy who has dated transsexual women since my mid 20's, I can tell you that the hardest thing for men is just finding TS women to ask out and date. I live in Chicago in an area called Wrigleyville where there are clubs and an active social scene for just about everyone, yet even here in one of the most diverse active cities in the country, it's not easy. I think a lot of TS prefer to just live as woman and keep their physical gender identity private. Just like the rest of the general population, not everyone is comfortable joining dating sites or putting themselves out there to go after what they really want.
The next biggest challenge dating TS women is the same challenge any two people face once they find mutual attraction with someone, trust. They're wondering if this person wants the same that thing they do. One person may want short and sweet the other may be looking more long term. The trust issue gets magnified between a guy and a TS woman because they just have a lot more questions between them to answer early on in a relationship. Is the guy serious or just looking to explore his curiosity? If she's living a life as a woman full time and keeps her gender identity private, will he out her? If he's not out with his own attractions yet, will she out him?
The whole outing issue has it's own drama. I'm completely out about my preference to ts women and can take a ts woman out, introduce her to friends and still there's some doubt in her mind that lingers until you fully demonstrate your outness. Here I think that has more to do with me than anything else. I have a pretty conservative corporate look and lifestyle, and a lot of woman find it hard to believe that a corporate guy would openly date a TS woman since so many will not. Lots of exceptions there in every direction that's just my personal experience. I'm just bringing up the outing issue because it's a big deal between a guy and a TS woman.

I'll close by saying to TS women, there's guys out there waiting to meet you who aren't all bad. If a straight guy does find a way to meet you, he's already put out an extra effort to find a woman like you, so you'd be right in being flattered and feeling good about it.

Thanks for the post Kelly!

Thank you for coming forward sweetheart! I agree transsexual women favor the prince charming and damsel in distress act way too much..

It's like a delusion upon a delusion upon a delusion...

They are so unhappy, because they are honestly not happy with themselves.

I think too many just use men as a catalyst to bring their inner-rage on.

[MrsKellyPierce]

it's an occupational hazard of hooking. also, it seems a majority of transsexuals are more concerned with being and treated as women and forget about just being people.

I loved that last statement...."forget about just being people"

SO TRUE!