Caught by wife n shes ready to leave

[teegeelover]

Some of the best advice I've ever seen on here.

I agree.

[Prospero]

Assuming that Dark Passenger is for real - and that this is not a trolling thread - I think some of the guys and girls on here have been really rather unhelpful.

I think that to tell him he simply should not be married is to take an oddly moralistic stand. Consider one possibility. Perhaps this guy loves his wife and has a satisfactory sexual life with her. Perhaps they have kids (not mentioned) or whatever... lives can become entangled. But also perhaps - and I am sure this could well be the case - there are impulses or aspects of himself that he simply was unaware off when he married and which he has fairly recenty discovered. ie his attraction to transexuals . What is this guy meant to do in this case? Tepress this for his entire life. Our culture is so positive towards self realization. Towards non repression. So he either walks away from a marriage that might well, in every other respect, be happy - for sexual reasons - or he pursues a covert secondary sex life with escorts. The same strategy is surely followed by millin of men around the world who are into certain forms of sexuality which are not available with their partners (BDSM for instance). I'm not saying he is morally right and I think that escorts like Jamie are right to state they will NOT see married men. For her that is a orincipled moral position. That is clear. But we do not live in a morally lucid universe. There are a million shades of grey. I've also seen adverts by escorts saying they openly welcome married men. It's a more complex issue than many of the people posting here acknowledge.

My suggestion to Dark Passenger then is to try to save his marriage if he truly loves his wife and to seek help. These issues need to be worked through. He does not deserve condemnation. As Jesus said "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone."

[giovanni_hotel]

Just tell the truth.
If it's your first time contacting an escort, tell her that. Give her the 'porn addiction' BS and how you somehow fell down the rabbit hole.

Ask her to forgive you, that whole 'for better and for worse' crap.
If she loves you and you don't have a track record for being an asshole, maybe you get another shot.

It's not like she came home and caught you in bed with someone.

IMO it sounds like you're more pressed because she found out you have a thing for trannies.
Did you try the 'but hon I didn't know what MTF meant.'lol
Hope you don't have kids. That would suck.

[noble1337]

I guess thats what its gnna have to be. Im me i like shemales. It got real crazy. She jus aint with it. Like im not gay but i like gitls wiyh covks. So much to deal with i dont know.

oh jeez...

"like im not gay but i like gitls wiyh covks" should be the banner for hung angels

[Jamie French]

That's all fine and well, but go ahead and tell his WIFE about 'shades of grey' and see how far you get. The dude fucked up. He made vows so by default he is to repress anything that would jeopardize those vows. Sorry, but that's the social contract... no one held a gun to his head. He could have just as easily remained single, divorced his wife first or kept that shit tucked away nice and deep in his brains. Acting on impulse? NOT AN OPTION. He signed a contract. Case closed.

Assuming that Dark Passenger is for real - and that this is not a trolling thread - I think some of the guys and girls on here have been really rather unhelpful.

I think that to tell him he simply should not be married is to take an oddly moralistic stand. Consider one possibility. Perhaps this guy loves his wife and has a satisfactory sexual life with her. Perhaps they have kids (not mentioned) or whatever... lives can become entangled. But also perhaps - and I am sure this could well be the case - there are impulses or aspects of himself that he simply was unaware off when he married and which he has fairly recenty discovered. ie his attraction to transexuals . What is this guy meant to do in this case? Tepress this for his entire life. Our culture is so positive towards self realization. Towards non repression. So he either walks away from a marriage that might well, in every other respect, be happy - for sexual reasons - or he pursues a covert secondary sex life with escorts. The same strategy is surely followed by millin of men around the world who are into certain forms of sexuality which are not available with their partners (BDSM for instance). I'm not saying he is morally right and I think that escorts like Jamie are right to state they will NOT see married men. For her that is a orincipled moral position. That is clear. But we do not live in a morally lucid universe. There are a million shades of grey. I've also seen adverts by escorts saying they openly welcome married men. It's a more complex issue than many of the people posting here acknowledge.

My suggestion to Dark Passenger then is to try to save his marriage if he truly loves his wife and to seek help. These issues need to be worked through. He does not deserve condemnation. As Jesus said "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone."

[GroobySteven]

I'm with Prospero's first sentence and calling a big BULLLLLLLLLLLLLLSHHIIIIIIIIIIIT on this. I've seen so many troll posts like this. Who the fuck needs advice from a forum like this on a matter like this.
Fuck off.

[dogsandcats]

[daltx_m]

just show her the door and tell her to kick rocks.

[maaarc]

I'm with Prospero's first sentence and calling a big BULLLLLLLLLLLLLLSHHIIIIIIIIIIIT on this. I've seen so many troll posts like this. Who the fuck needs advice from a forum like this on a matter like this.
Fuck off.

agreed, this cannot be for real - was funny thou

[Dark passenger]

I dnt know what a troll is but fuck whoever dont know what im feelliig right now. And i never got caught fucking anybody. I was wrong definitely so thats on me and my personal issues are what I have to deal with. Thanks for the advice, helpful or not.