How do I know if Escorting is right for me ?

[Nicole Dupre]

It's all moot. No one here will ever be in a healthy relationship with a pre-op TS anyway. Freddie's just more honest. But Dino will never have a GF of any kind. Neither will OMK. Most guys on HA are damaged goods. Any guy who spends time here has serious issues. The only guys with a glimmer of hope might fall in love with a pre-op DESPITE the cock. But they wouldn't ever hang out here. You guys are all closet cases to one degree or another. If you weren't, then why are you here? Wouldn't you be on a TS dating site?

[FreddieGomez]

Wait I thought you liked hips and thighs she has no hips and thighs though.

she looks good that way.

most trannies who get hips look peculiar because it's like 2 beach balls on pencil legs. genetic women don't look like that.

[FreddieGomez]

It's all moot. No one here will ever be in a healthy relationship with a pre-op TS anyway. Freddie's just more honest. But Dino will never have a GF of any kind. Neither will OMK. Most guys on HA are damaged goods. Any guy who spends time here has serious issues. The only guys with a glimmer of hope might fall in love with a pre-op DESPITE the cock. But they wouldn't ever hang out here. You guys are all closet cases to one degree or another. If you weren't, then why are you here? Wouldn't you be on a TS dating site?

true for some dudes. i may post here quite frequently but i don't really chase after anybody. i just like to conversate.

[Tyler___Durden]

Originally Posted by Tyler___Durden View Post
For all the personal cost that successful transition brings,
and where a high degree of being assumed to be a bio-woman, by the world and his wife.....
99% of us would never ever want that.
This would just NEVER OCCUR.

Right, you only want the finished product. Forget about a girl just starting or partially through who cannot afford surgeries yet. She's supposed to suck dick or fuck for the cash to support herself and her transition while you sit around posing, thinking you're cute and compelling like mommy told you that you were. Then once she's "100% passable" she's supposed to pursue you, because God forbid a man pursue a woman (dudes are the new bitches) and then she's supposed to quit escorting or sex work because you couldn't date a woman like that.
And then you get to suck dick and get fucked and it's your big secret that nobody knows. If you admit it or not, this is most guys fantasy on here.
Then if she ever gets clocked, like my friend did at a bar when the guy she was talking to's friends said "Thats a dude!!" she gets punched in the face by the guy and he runs out. Thats what tranny chasers do! Thats why I'd NEVER mess with one at all!!

(grin) Er, I'm a trans woman.
The point you make though is 100% spot on with most men into trans.
They want the 'finished product', so to speak.
A few friends of mine are in long term relationships, where their men started dating them during their very early transition phase. That bit where we look out of place, we stick out. We don't 'Pass' {I hate that term. The society shit that holds us to some hypothetical standard of femininity} Anyway, a guy prepared to step out with us in those early days is a real man.
That's a big deal on both sides.
And if right, can bring a lifelong relationship.
I wrote this on another forum but it goes right to the heart and agrees with your spot-on observation:

See the fabulous trans-women on here and other sites?
Well firstly, most trans don't look anything like that.
We actually cover the full spectrum of appearance,
just as “Day-One” women do.
Old, young, fat, thin, ugly, beautiful, average, (actually, a lot of average )
Plus the big deal-killer for most men: We will have some remaining male characteristics. Obviously this will vary hugely in obviousness from trans person to transperson, but there is always something.
Oh, just say you did date one of the top trans models.
You ok with her plucking prickly hair from her jaw line, some mornings?
Just asking.

Right you guys, here are some of the hard facts about us.
Transsexual females are very rare.
I think numbers come in at around one in six thousand people.
Oh, that's for both pre and post op transsexual females-
Of all ages and looks.
So the chances of you meeting any transsexual female, pre or post op
are pretty rare.
Factor in your Trans-date wish-list (in no particular order)
We Pass {can you handle your family / friends / work colleagues knowing 'That thing'?}
This objectifies us in itself, but I'll come back to that later. Very few trans women truly pass (as in 98%+ of the time)
We Look attractive / very attractive
We are single
And open to the possibility of an “interaction”, from casual date to a lifetime partner

My friend, you are looking at a very tiny demographic of people you would consider dating.

Trans porn is a fabricated fantasy.
In real life we have bad hair days, sometimes our skin is yuk.
Oh & when we go to bed, most of the time we wear flannel snuggy pants and tops and woolen socks.
The sussys are for shoots or a special treat for our partner.
And partner....A high % of trans women identify as gay.
That means for a lot of trans-women, unless you are female, it's just not gonna happen!

Next,
What exactly are you looking for?
“I want to date a hot shemale”
Well the first thing is that your sentence seems to show a full intent of
sexually objectifying us rather than looking upon us as people.

Now early transitioners are cool about that. It's a validation thing.
“You're a straight guy, you want to fuck me”
“Therefore, I must be a woman”
After a while we get an internal self assurance and then neither want or seek a validation fuck.
That means your desire for us, on it's own, is meaningless..
{We get lots and lots of interested men, all the time}

So, what are you bringing to the party?
I'd think about your appearance and social approach.
Be interesting and engaging.

Having a transsexual history for most of us is not something we are particularly happy about. A suitor wanting to date us specifically because of that very thing we generally loath about ourselves, is just not a good thing.
{It's a bit like you saying:”You suffer from deep suicidal depression, I like that in a woman, lets date”}
We see ourselves as female, which of course we are.
It would be nice if a person wishes to date us for who we are as a person rather than because we are trans.

[Nicole Dupre]

true for some dudes. i may post here quite frequently but i don't really chase after anybody. i just like to conversate.

I didn't call you a chaser, Freddie. lol But you would date Gizelle X? C'mon. She's an Xtravaganza. Their T is very public, whether she get's clocked or not; their House is LGBT royalty, pretty much. But you would date any pre op? No way. No girl would deal with being trapped in the closet as your dirty lil' secret. I think you can get a GF, yes. Most guys here are too weird to even date a GG. But it would never be a TS GF for you; not one with healthy self esteem. I don't see it happening. I respect you for being honest, but guys like you are not BF material for us.

[Nicole Dupre]

You guys can enjoy your porn and your escorts, but let's can the bullshit. There are no Prince Charmings hanging out in a zoo like HA.

[Silcc69]

I didn't call you a chaser, Freddie. lol But you would date Gizelle X? C'mon. She's an Xtravaganza. Their T is very public, whether she get's clocked or not; their House is LGBT royalty, pretty much. But you would date any pre op? No way. No girl would deal with being trapped in the closet as your dirty lil' secret. I think you can get a GF, yes. Most guys here are too weird to even date a GG. But it would never be a TS GF for you; not one with healthy self esteem. I don't see it happening. I respect you for being honest, but guys like you are not BF material for us.

Well he's in NY and there really isn't a shortage of cute trans up there. Down where I stay at in Nashville it's like trying to find a needle in a haystack.

she looks good that way.

most trannies who get hips look peculiar because it's like 2 beach balls on pencil legs. genetic women don't look like that.

LOL man u flip flop to much. You was talkin about Kelly and slender body but like Gizelle who has an equally slender body.

[Ineeda SM]

It's all moot. No one here will ever be in a healthy relationship with a pre-op TS anyway. Freddie's just more honest. But Dino will never have a GF of any kind. Neither will OMK. Most guys on HA are damaged goods. Any guy who spends time here has serious issues. The only guys with a glimmer of hope might fall in love with a pre-op DESPITE the cock. But they wouldn't ever hang out here. You guys are all closet cases to one degree or another. If you weren't, then why are you here? Wouldn't you be on a TS dating site?

Aww c'mon Nicole. I am in a healthy relationship with a pre-op TS. And it is NOT despite of her cock. Her cock is part of her just like her nose. And I love all of her parts equally.

I hang out here to talk to people that won't judge me for my sexuality. This is just another open forum for discussion with others. And I have made some friends here including my GF, so it was worth it.

[amberskyi]

she looks good that way.

most trannies who get hips look peculiar because it's like 2 beach balls on pencil legs. genetic women don't look like that.

true..i dont have alot of hips just a bunch of ass lol...i refuse to get pumped

[FreddieGomez]

true..i dont have alot of hips just a bunch of ass lol...i refuse to get pumped

i prefer a tranny who isn't all pumped and more natural.