Confessions of a Tranny Chaser

[TsVanessa69]

yup!!!!!!!!

I am 5"10 with an hourglass shape. REAL men can handle it and all my boyfriends are shorter than me, but confident in their skills and the fact they had the swag to get with a sexy bitch like me. Its not your height, its if you a REAL man or not.

[Dpax]

Unfortunately, a lot of people and T lovers think we must be men.
And i'll tell you what, I am kind of entertained by that idea. Even though it's false. At least, in my case.
Why I like it?
That's because I want to be friends with men, and if giving them the false belief that I think like them, and understand them better helps with that; Why not ?

But!
Dpax...
Please listen.

You mention you dont want to compromise you masculine dignity.

But Tlovers ask for us girls constantly to compromise our female dignity. By thinking we have the brains of men, by assuming we have a masculine character, and desiring a masculine sexuality from us.

I dont think it's fair to expect those things from any Tgirl...while at the same time demanding that she's faithfull, submissive, nurtering and feminine.

If you desire a feminine submissive nurtering Tgirl who are not escorts etc... they are out there.

I am in a long term relationship and am monogamous and very submissive towards my boyfriend. Its the way I am wired, and have always been this way.

Therefor I needed a man that would appreciate that. And believe me, in this scene, they are very hard to find.

Cause in this scene, as a feminine Tgirl... Tlovers constantly ask you to compromise your female dignity.
Which is why I have learned to avoid most of them.

Serously... i think you guys really need to wake up.??
You have unrealistic expectations.

xx
Kitty

Thanks for the response Kitty Pride. I think we're actually closer to being on the same page with this thing than you think. I think that the part of what I've said that seems to be hard for the girls to reconcile with is that I've pointed out a difference between tgirls and genetic women.

Kitty if I gave the impression that these differences somehow make you "lesser than" when compared with gg's that was not my intention. Infact I think that most of what makes you special and different from gg's is good. But there are differences, there just are. Ok forget for a second the fact that yall were born as boys and the biological differeces. Just the fact that you were born as boys and had to transition into the women that you are today in itself is a VERY different experience than any gg will ever have.

I don't know what shapes us more but I know biology, genetics, and experiences all play a role. And for whatever reason, this combination (biology-"Mom, Dad, It's a boy!", genetics-"I got it from my momma"), and life experience is what makes men like us crazy about you.

I simply was pointing out some of the negatives that can be associated with all that I've just mentioned and how those can (not in all cases with all girls) manifest themselves in masculine ways.

But certainly if it was all negative or if all girls displayed these masculine traits, I certainly would have never met my ex let alone felt as strongly as I did for her.

So I don't think my expectations are unrealistic. I'm simply saying that there are girls out there who aren't escorting or doing porn. Girls who just want to live a regular life with a man who can love them, and girls out there who won't treat you like you're made of shit the moment they realize that that they aren't the only transsexual you've ever been attracted to.

[Tina Francis]

...Going through this thread makes me want to turn the lights low and put on some cool, slow, bluesy jazz...

[jm813]

I understand that this is a bit long but I think you need a bit of education.

This is part of your problem right there. In one breath you’re talking about being tired of the whole “my girl is an escort and fucking a bunch of people” and then you’re talking about the Sheeba’s, Sunshynes, and Jades of the world.

These girls aren’t hiding what it’s about with them so you can’t be upset after the fact. Instead if this is something that you find hard to deal with when in the situation then why put yourself in that situation?

I understand to a point because I do understand that it’s not like these girls are easy to find like there’s a good chance that the girl you meet at the grocery store tomorrow will turn out to have actually been born a boy. I understand how because of the lack of availability and the fact that they all seems to be in the sex industry in one way or another that a person would feel as though it just comes with the territory and to have any meaningful relationship with one of these girls it just comes with the territory.
This was my way of thinking really until not that long ago. This is coming from someone who was in a long term relationship with a transsexual years ago.
I’ve known a number of transsexuals as a result of that relationship and I think I’ve learned a little about what makes them tick throughout the years. (not that they are monolithic).

One thing you have to understand is that no matter how beautiful, or feminine she is, she’s still not a “naturally born woman”. Hormones are a beautiful thing and I am so thankful that they can be instituted in a way that creates such beauty, but there are things that no amount of hormones can change like the brain and particular personality traits. There is a vast difference in the way that the brain of a male vs. a female’s works and this is why you don’t have the same “swag” when it comes to transsexuals. It’s because her “swag” comes from the same traits as yours does.

I know this might be confusing but think about it. See people confuse the notion of femininity and think of it in terms of the way a person looks or acts. The certain way that a girl walks or how soft her voice is, when in fact these things are all illusion. Femininity has far more to do with specific personality traits.

I’ll give you a couple of examples. Because genetic women are the lesser physically of our species, they possess the instinctual feminine trait of being nurturing, but they are certainly not instinctively the “hunter gatherer”. Because of this they choose and love men based on their ability to protect them and provide. Much of this stems from the fact that women are able to bare children and it's that instinctual feminine trait that tells them to choose men that will give their offspring the best chance and survival and success in life. Their femininity tells them that when they find this type of man they are to “submit” to him as he is the dominant. There’s far more to it but essentially this is femininity.

Consequently the masculine trait is one of dominance. It is a trait that leads men to concur what he can when he can and far more value is placed on physical appeal and sexual gratification.
As feminine as a transsexual may be, because of the brain she was born with she will still exhibit traits of masculinity.

For example, how many of you have known a genetic woman that you knew maybe had been a little loose in her past or perhaps at one point worked as an escort or as a stripper at a certain point? She may possess the physical qualities that attract you enough for sex but 9 times out of 10 these aren’t women that we want to marry. The reason is because our masculinity rejects what we feel has already been concurred.

Now on the flip side, how many of you have met a transsexual who the moment they find out that you’re not a virgin with transsexuals they want nothing to do with you? They have a desire to only be with men that have never been with another transsexual because if you have then you have “already been concurred” so to speak. Your sexual past or the fact that you've even dated a single genetic woman is something that would never be a cause for rejection from a genetic woman because this is a masculine trait.

Physical attractiveness is something that is important to both genders but far less with females than it is with males and this too can be seen with transsexuals.

Genetic women as explained before are far more concerned with other aspects of masculinity than physical or outward masculinity because women are instinctively submissive to other traits. But for men physical attractiveness is usually at the top of the list. Because we are instinctively the bread winners we place value on women not based on their ability to provide but rather their beauty. We value women based on the appearance that they give us to the outside world and how their beauty our own image to outsiders.

If we can all be honest with ourselves every man knows that part of what attracts us to a woman is her “trophy status” and what we look like showing her off on our arm.

Many transsexuals will escort and take care of a man that does nothing. He’s exhibiting no form of masculinity that most genetic women demand other than the outward appearance of masculinity. He’s got to look good and have a nice body and that allows him to be her “piece” that she can show off to her girlfriends. This gives him a sense of dependence on the girl and places her in a position of dominance. These are masculine trait.

I’m saying this not to down transsexuals but to simply say that you have to understand them to know how to deal with them and what to expect.
The last thing I want to touch on has to do with the fact that you chose 3 women that all escort and do porn as your objects of affection. There is nothing wrong with admiring their beauty but to take it any further I’d have to say that you’re asking for trouble.

I too admire the strength of and fortitude that it must take to have to endure the scrutiny that transsexuals endure when going through the process of becoming who they are. However many people can’t go through that type of scrutiny without walking away a bit damaged. Have you ever seen a genetic girl on the strip escorting or Eros or in the strip club or in a porno and wondered “what happened in her life that this became her destiny”? Have you ever not thought that she was in some way damaged? So why would you not think the same of a transsexual who chooses these paths.

I understand that there’s a difference in the sense that transsexuals don’t feel complete and many feel that they have surgical procedures that will get them to where they want to be physically. But everyone has choice and there are far more ways than sexual to get there. I know women who have done it in ways outside of sex.

But again everyone has choice and the reason that this seems to be the dominant choice that transsexual women take has far less to do with lack of opportunity than it does with the same masculine traits that causes you to desire sex and money above most anything else. Imagine the combination for a moment and I’m sure you could get hard to.

So my advice would be that there are plenty of women out there who are just as physically appealing to you as the Sheeba’s, and Sunshynes, and Jades, but without the expectation that you accept what would be the unacceptable for a genetic woman.

They aren’t easy to find, but if you can’t I say like Freddie Gomez “look but don’t touch”. In other words appreciate them as objects of your sexual gratification and nothing else.

So damn true

[KittyPride]

You guys really need to learn that femininity is not caused by being able to give birth to children.

I find it really silly to go after porn and escort girls and then expecting them to be feminine and caring for you. In this way you make a fool of yourselves.

again: Try dating a regular girl.

[KittyPride]

Maybe a tranny needs to accept their unique situation and be comfortable about being a transsexual. Is it a bad thing if its open and clear? Over the gossip and hurt being in stealth could cause? "thats a man... etc"

Hmmm...

Yes I think that's true, at least it is for me.
I have no problem with being a TS. I am very open about it.
But in my experience a lot of guys into TS dont wont to be open about dating us.

[KittyPride]

A tranny is correcting natures error and transitioning into a physical woman. They cannot have children, there are some things science cannot adjust. I find this amazing and it it intrigues me. I cant help this, it always has. Theres probably some deep psychological scarring I have but I desire these people. The process to me is amazing for a man to change into a woman. Its sexually stimulating just thinking about the hard male form, being softened, growing breasts and going through the pain of corrective surgery. If i were to pluck up enough courage and pursue this woman as a partner I am called a tranny chaser and thats bad. I will be ostracised. .

I can understand your frustration. And you know, its true. I dont have many tgirlfriends because a lot of them were not able to come to terms with themselves and their situation.

For instance. if I were single. I would have no problem dating you. At least not for the reasons you put in your post... and I would not mind that you are a tranny chaser. I actually like that.

I am fascinated with men that like Tgirls... but still are masculine, both in their desire and sexuality. So that fascination would go both ways.

And from my experience; men that are into TS that are otherwise straight men, they can be really cool. Cooler in fact then a man that only would date GG's.

thats how I view it.

[slingblade]

I always thought you were shorter! You sure got a nice big booty for a tall girl

i bet you want some of that ass too dont ya?

[soul4real]

I'm disturbed how this post ended on hate on short dudes