Confessions of a Tranny Chaser

[soul4real]

Yeah im over here smoking and sipping on patron and I felt as though this is a good place to vent lol. Fellas are you personally happy with yourself as a tranny chaser? Assessing my goals for the new year, and falling off my daily to do list today, has me doing a lot of self reflecting. I and to put it frankly I'm not to happy with myself as a tranny chaser.

Sucks to say. Many guys will hem and hall and not agree. But I feel like somewhere about 4 or 5 years ago now maybe longer i slide down a slippery slope of sexual escapades thats opened a Pandora's box I never intended to peek into. issues of( dealing with a girl who escorts, knowing your girl is fucking other guys, health risks associated with it, hell with the fact that all this behavior more "high risk" period weather playing safe or not, the fact your girl does porn, or the introduction into gay culture and acceptance of her friends, the issue long term of children, marriage ) I'm not sure how many other guys have had this "regret" feeling. I've heard girls say all straight closeted dudes trip as soon as they bust a nut. But for me it goes deeper.
Pre-Tranny chasing i was sexually open, orgies, swinger parties no male play guys never were attractive to me, then i was in Vancouver and met a TS in a club. Threw me off because she was beautiful and she told me at the club, i didn't get with her, but i still felt attracted. By chance of seeing some ts porn i was more drawn.. the rest is history so to speak..


But I really feel like i have to admit the "chase" aspect does play a part, us guys spending time admiring transsexual women online puts them on a pedestal that wack. For lack of a better words i feel like I really lost my swag fucking with TS women.
I'm sorry if it sounds childish or immature but i feel like i was much more of a "player" pre tranny dating. In the sense of not just playing the field with women, but the aspect of a man must first be assure of himself, respect himself and demand respect from others. That may go over a lot of lame dudes heads but your tricks to begin with. But for my real G's you are kidding yourself to say after admiring these women the way we do you don't lose a sense of your self dignity, as oppose to GG dating.

This is not to degrade the ladies, because that's where my biggest duplicity comes in at is, that i dont feel a regret out of disgust or shame. I feel like i genuinely have met some of the most beautiful people I've met in my life that are transsexual. One i would really consider a close personal friend. To understand the hardships of dealing with transdysphoria, growing up with bullying, family isolation, society criticisms, and to find the strength and swag to pull through all obstacles with or with out a support system and become beautiful enough that us dudes lust after, takes strength that most people don't have. Its sad that most of us spend so much time lusting over these women but wouldn't take the risk of being seen in public with one in front of strangers we don't even know in fear of being judged. Yet we expect to be entertained when we through have ass lude comments.

This is far from a let me shit on dudes and big up ladies for love from the women on the boards. its a deep introspective look at myself and who I am, and who I want to be. Socrates most important lesson was "know thy self". I've been with a couple ladies here, some famous, some the envy of a lot of you, and i must say that even though I've been in a semi relationship and loved the woman. I've never fully committed my heart to a transsexual woman. Manly out of the fear of society, family, friends and so fourth, and that is so unfair and selfish. The fact that even though I think sunsyhne monroe, is beautiful, funny and charming, and would be more then proud to risk these things for the chance at real love. But would i honestly be able to show her the love she deserves? being ready for that step with one person. Then lets say the relationship goes bad, your life has been changed forever, and she moves on. (hopefully not we'd be boo'd up for life lol) But the cycle goes back to to many of these ladies we are just "tranny chasers" . I don't know exactly where im going with this rant..

Thanks if you read, please chime in with your views.
Sounds like a depression post, but actually I'm feeling better, taking better care of myself then i have in a long time. and the more I do focus on myself the more it makes me question my affinity for transsexual activities. I guess to judge meeting and dating someone outside of the "e-porn world" is a different scenario. it just sucks this is still the primary place to meet ladies. hmmm

[Jericho]

paragraph is your friend.

[soul4real]

let me know i to start those paragraphs indented for you good sir

[Jericho]

excellent!

[RallyCola]

Very interesting post.

I take away from that post, that there is a line between fantasy and reality, between internet obsession and real time fun that you feel, in crossing, you've done something wrong or lost something.

You said...

I'm sorry if it sounds childish or immature but i feel like i was much more of a "player" pre tranny dating. In the sense of not just playing the field with women, but the aspect of a man must first be assure of himself, respect himself and demand respect from others. That may go over a lot of lame dudes heads but your tricks to begin with. But for my real G's you are kidding yourself to say after admiring these women the way we do you don't lose a sense of your self dignity, as oppose to GG dating.

so if i am understanding you, you are likening the chase of a GG and the hurdles you go through to PAYING a tgirl for sex. I admit there is no chase with a tgirl that wants your cash. There never has been for any girl that is selling ass...g or t. But that's the point...you are just a client so why feel badly about it.

escorts sell a product. you didn't make them sell it but you want to buy it. if that is a level of involvement you want...there is nothing wrong with it.

you said...

Its sad that most of us spend so much time lusting over these women but wouldn't take the risk of being seen in public with one in front of strangers we don't even know in fear of being judged. Yet we expect to be entertained when we through have ass lude comments.

to which i defend the point of view that anyone providing or selling a service is treated the same. that's the reality of most people who enjoy str8 or ts porn...its entertainment. i am not saying its right...but just that 95% of men that like pornstars (str8 or t) will never meet one of them. there is a disconnect for them as pleasure seekers.


If what you are saying is that you feel badly that you have not pursued a real relationship, not just a financial one with a tgirl, then i WOULD understand your point, but you muddy it up with...

that even though I've been in a semi relationship and loved the woman. I've never fully committed my heart to a transsexual woman. Manly out of the fear of society, family, friends and so fourth, and that is so unfair and selfish. The fact that even though I think sunsyhne monroe, is beautiful, funny and charming, and would be more then proud to risk these things for the chance at real love. But would i honestly be able to show her the love she deserves? being ready for that step with one person. Then lets say the relationship goes bad, your life has been changed forever, and she moves on. (hopefully not we'd be boo'd up for life lol) But the cycle goes back to to many of these ladies we are just "tranny chasers"

I submit to you what is the difference between a relationship with a ggirl YOU love and a tgirl YOU love. Aren't you just a ggirl chaser if a relationship sours and you have to move on? Moreover, if you really did love someone then you'd want to be with them. If other factors play a role in your decision to love and be with someone then I submit that you really didn't love her in the first place. You loved yourself and comfort far more. Its not like you are black and her father is a racist and will shoot you on site for coming on his land. Its not like you are a regular guy and she is a spastic quad in a wheelchair with a severely retarded IQ and pica disorder where you always have your cock in the mouth of a girl who clearly doesn't know any better. If you truly love someone, it shouldn't matter what she has between her legs or what your parents or friends think. if your friends make fun of you for jerking it to tranny porn, its one thing, but to do it when you are in love and in a healthy relationship...its another and as cliche as it sounds...if they are the latter, then they aren't really your friends.


the fact remains that you are labeling yourself a tranny chaser...and that's the real problem. i'm not a tranny chaser...i'm very clear on who i am. you just need to figure out if you are indeed a chaser (whatever that really means) or if you have the ability to not be exactly what you are being...a bit of a hypocrite. you can't condemn yourself or anyone else for using or abusing the products tgirls sell us, be it photos, videos or their bodies...but you also can't feel as if you value them so very much but then admit that you can't marry them because they can't have kids or your friends/family will object...or you will get stared at in Walmart.....you just can't have it both ways.

[GrimFusion]

That sounds overcomplicated as all hell. You miss the thrill of running game because there's no point in doing that with escorts; you'd rather be in a relationship, but you can't hold it down because you're too worried about what other people might think or the drama it could cause, even if you don't necessarily want to admit it.

You've lost your swag because you're not secure about being with tgirls, and in turn, began to question your sexuality... and that's thrown your self-image for a loop. If you really have to question if you can provide the kind of love a transgendered woman needs in a serious relationship, you either can't, or you have some serious reflection to do. That question shouldn't need to come up in any relationship unless some shit is seriously awry.

If I could offer some advice, it'd be go back to the drawing board. Lay some game down on some bitches until you get it back in your system, and if you still want to give tgirls a shot, go into it knowing what to avoid the second time around.

For the record, it's "hem and haw", and I can't remember the last time I've heard anybody use it. Props.

[RallyCola]

That sounds overcomplicated as all hell. You miss the thrill of running game because there's no point in doing that with escorts; you'd rather be in a relationship, but you can't hold it down because you're too worried about what other people might think or the drama it could cause, even if you don't necessarily want to admit it.

You've lost your swag because you're not secure about being with tgirls, and in turn, began to question your sexuality... and that's thrown your self-image for a loop. If you really have to question if you can provide the kind of love a transgendered woman needs in a serious relationship, you either can't, or you have some serious reflection to do. That question shouldn't need to come up in any relationship unless some shit is seriously awry.

If I could offer some advice, it'd be go back to the drawing board. Lay some game down on some bitches until you get it back in your system, and if you still want to give tgirls a shot, go into it knowing what to avoid the second time around.

For the record, it's "hem and haw", and I can't remember the last time I've heard anybody use it. Props.

why not stop paying for tgirls and try laying game down on them seriously. if you want to be a player...with ggirls...that means you aren't interested in a LTR...so just do the same wit ha tgirl if you think that being a client has lost its luster. Either way its up to you to break the cycle one way or another.

[soul4real]

That sounds overcomplicated as all hell. You miss the thrill of running game because there's no point in doing that with escorts; you'd rather be in a relationship, but you can't hold it down because you're too worried about what other people might think or the drama it could cause, even if you don't necessarily want to admit it.

You've lost your swag because you're not secure about being with tgirls, and in turn, began to question your sexuality... and that's thrown your self-image for a loop. If you really have to question if you can provide the kind of love a transgendered woman needs in a serious relationship, you either can't, or you have some serious reflection to do. That question shouldn't need to come up in any relationship unless some shit is seriously awry.

If I could offer some advice, it'd be go back to the drawing board. Lay some game down on some bitches until you get it back in your system, and if you still want to give tgirls a shot, go into it knowing what to avoid the second time around.

For the record, it's "hem and haw", and I can't remember the last time I've heard anybody use it. Props.

yeah i was zoned out when i wrote this it was definitely overcomplicated.. But I think what you said for the most part is on point.

[FreddieGomez]

danm my nigga this is too much to read. lol

but hell naw i aint happy with being a "tranny chaser" for several reasons. i don't think any of these dudes are unless they're some chump who believes anything these chicks say.

first you can barely find one that isnt in the sex industry because if i were to be with a tranny, i don't want one that's been with 1,0000 of men. I'd never date a genetic chick who's trickin so why would i date a tranny who is?

i find it best to just look and not touch. Maybe my attraction isnt as strong as other dude's or maybe i can control my desire?

I feel it's best to never get involved with a tranny due to all the drama and negativity they create for themselves.

[soul4real]

danm my nigga this is too much to read. lol

but hell naw i aint happy with being a "tranny chaser" for several reasons. i don't think any of these dudes are unless they're some chump who believes anything these chicks say.

first you can barely find one that isnt in the sex industry because if i were to be with a tranny, i don't want one that's been with 1,0000 of men. I'd never date a genetic chick who's trickin so why would i date a tranny who is?

i find it best to just look and not touch. Maybe my attraction isnt as strong as other dude's or maybe i can control my desire?

I feel it's best to never get involved with a tranny due to all the drama and negativity they create for themselves.

Fam Patron and sour and realizing instead of being out I'm on HA will have you venting lol

But yo i feel you my dude you end up accepting things with TS's that you wouldn't except in a GG relationship.. Shit throws ya whole swag off.
I'm not even gonna front my dude I feel like hollering at TS threw me way off the GG game. So instead of getting at Tahiry's and Yaris's and love and hip hop chicks. Nigga is to worried about them sheeba's and sunshynes and sexyjades lol