Would you date her publicly, and be open about her gender

[bighicknyc]

Now if one were lucky enough to have a ts whom you get along well with in bed and in the privitecy of your home why would you not want to be seen in public with her? Isn't it a huge part of a relationship holding hands and pinching butts in public?

[NaughtyJane]

OK, What I was politely trying to say when I stated that all trans women are noted at some point as 'different' in hetero-centric social, or professional life...that only the man spinning his wheels inexperienced in dating trans women would bother considering the fantasy of non detection. It happens to us all, usually with no consequence... except for a half heart man's insecurities. Caring more for his contrived social stance than his potential sex partner. If a suitor did that to me on a date... no drama, I'd excuse myself and simply disappear... I date men, not boys.

Go jerk off. This tenet is so ignorantly offensive... it is comedic.

No hostility, as I said before I'd never date a timid pussy boy with rocks for brains. I'd say the same thing to any guy's face, laugh and suggest he look up his companionship on the eros guide.

I'd further caution guys that most of us gals are expert at the behaviors men present to get up our skirts, we evolved in our world and paid dues you will never know. I am always surprised by a man that thinks I am naive, and he is smart or perhaps merely clever... most of us see you coming as well.

[archineer]

haha

I'm hardly a closet case. Nor am I going to post personal pics on this site.

[GentsPreferTS]

It's up to the girl. If she wants to be public about it, that's cool, if not, that's cool too. It's not the man's decision with this subject.

[south ov da border]

lady's choice. I will only talk about what she's comfortable with. I'm not worried about my rep/how I'll be treated. I'd be concerned about who she wants to be seen as and treat her as she likes...

[Bobby Domino]

Gender isn't a usual topic of conversation in most social circles. That's weird. And if asked, I'd refer to my TG GF as a female anyway. What if your BF/GF had 11 toes, big nipples or sickle-cell anemia would you yell it from the top of a mountain? No. Shit, she's gotta be seen with me, too. I call that even, lol!!!

[dderek123]

Yes I have. 'Tis fun.

[robertlouis]

No matter who the girl is, people do discover she is 'different' in hetero-centric social circumstance.

I submit that this whole 100% passable thing is a myth, from someone neck deep in this scene their whole adult life.

In my life I go about my affairs striving for nothing more than being authentic in my nature, true to myself, my internal framework of expression about myself... Generally people are unaware of my 'difference'; but when they are aware of my difference, I am so casual, self assured, friendly and polite and very real- I never have encountered any hostility or social censure... once I figured out how not to be a cartoon of a female. Certainly the early days of all trans women's lives are awkward and comedic.

My point of view is I'd never date a man insecure about what might arise with me on the social frontier...

Jane, straightforward and dignified common sense as always.

Any man who would not be comfortable with having a transgender girl on his arm simply doesn't deserve her.

[robertlouis]

You guys are confusing physical sex and gender again. Her gender is female.

As far as passability, as long as one is mostly (naturally) feminine and/or very attractive, it's usually a non-issue, at least here in SoCal (even Orange County). It has nothing to do with percentages.

~BB~

Thank you Bella. Yeesh, you guys.

[mtbazz]

I'd have no problem dating the girl in the OP publicly.

I could personally care less who sees me with whom, and who thinks what.

If someone wants to make judgements on me based on who I date, than they are not worth my time.