Nights like this......

[BeardedOne]

Im not sure if some guys are still a little insecure about thier attraction to TS, but when a guy says he wants to "chill" more than likely they are talkin about sitting at your house all night and doing whatevrs clever. Rarely does chiling involved going out ( dinner. movies, resturant) something I luv to do. I figure it like this, if a guy likes me and wants to spend time with me, then show me, earn my respect and admiration, by doing things that i like to do, not just sitting looking at the walls until our diks get hard.
Ive never been the type to persue men, so if a guy really likes me then he needs to persue me, until it gets to the point where i see that he sincerely likes me. Then I will fall in step by showing my attraction for him Thats just the way I am, and if he truly likes me, he will deal.

Becoming a bit of a hermit, I've lost touch with a lot of the social games and 'rules' thereof. When someone says 'chill' I think of it as spending some time with a viddie and more company than just the cat (The latter being my usual evening in). In a lower form I envision the basement scenes from That Seventies Show (And I have =lived= that scene), sitting around, looking at the walls, and wondering if someone's dick is getting hard somewhere else.

If it's a pursuit thing, going out to dinner or a real movie with *Shudder* people and everything, then it steps up to the level of 'dating'. 'Dating' doesn't equate with 'chilling' in my pocket dictionary, but I'm old and unenlightened.

I don't get a lot of respect and admiration. In fact, I think the last time I got any of either was in 1983 when a young kid looked at me with wide eyes and said "Wow! This is =your= comic book store?!?". It's been downhill since then. All in all, though, I don't think too much is required to watch me drink cwawfee and chat (Which I have been known to do in public as well). I mean, really, I adore my cat, but all she sez is "Meow, mrowl, mow-mow. Purr? Fssst!". There are times I'd actually like to hear a human voice say "So, see any cool stamps lately?".

Thinking about it, I wouldn't mind hearing a human voice saying "Meow, mrowl, mow-mow. Purr? Fssst!" either.

Now, if it's just a let's-go-somehwere-nice-to-eat-and-chat thing, I'm an easy touch for a lazy dinner. Does that count as 'chilling'?

[SexxxyJade]

If the guy is trying to persue the girl for something besides the occaional booty call, then yes thats definately considered as "chillin".

[Ecstatic]

"Chillin'" is actually not a part of my vocabulary; as slang, it's well after my time, and like many slang terms I may not use it correctly. But the sense in which I mean it is just hanging out with a friend, no agenda, no expectations. Going out to dinner, sitting and talking, going shopping, to me that is "chilling." I think my friend was playfully testing me a bit to see if I went for her cock, or if I really was there because I enjoyed her company and not because I was looking for a freebie. Now of course, I'm a guy, and if a freebie is in the offering, well, you know. But it wasn't why I was there and I really did enjoy just spending some time together. Sex doesn't have to be part of the equation.

So Jade, if you're ever in Boston and want some company to catch a movie or to have dinner, let me know.

[flabbybody]

chillin means staying in your house. when you chill with someone, you're in your house with someone. It's doing the things you do in your house WITH someone. Watching TV (ideally an NFL playoff game if she'll put up with it), ordering chinese food, and basically goofing off doing nothing. when you're chillin with someone you care about, it's the greatest activity in the world.


btw ecstatic, I think you're right. her offer at the end of your night was a test and you passed with flying colors. she'll always trust you now.

[BeardedOne]

when you're chillin with someone you care about, it's the greatest activity in the world.

Yah, I have a recollection of that.

I spent a day with an escort last year and after we...uh...took care of business, we spent much of the day just lazing around and watching movies and talking. I was quite happy just to hang out and be social (Which is pretty much why I went for the day rather than just an hour or two). If shedules/energy levels had been right, we might have gone out and hit the mall or done a nice dinner out (I had been driving for a couple of days and she had been doing the party circuit the night before, so a day of being couch patatas was about all we cared to do at that point).

She was a bit out of touch at first (Perhaps she hadn't had a day-long client before, or maybe my idea of a 'fun' day wasn't quite what she expected), but warmed to the idea and, I think, enjoyed the 'down time' that our day provided. I think she was especially happy when we tried to 'outgeek' each other with some tech talk (She's a sharp cookie and may not have the opportunity to show it as often as she'd like). She's the one that introduced me to JibJab.com.

On reflection, that wouldn't count as 'chillin', though. The meter was running. *Shrug*

[soul4real]

chillin means staying in your house. when you chill with someone, you're in your house with someone. It's doing the things you do in your house WITH someone. Watching TV (ideally an NFL playoff game if she'll put up with it), ordering chinese food, and basically goofing off doing nothing. when you're chillin with someone you care about, it's the greatest activity in the world. .

This is my defention right here. Perfectly said. Doing other things as far as movies and such are going out type things. Which is fine and dandy too, just not the same. I think for plans to go out both parties should show and intrest. I mean if someone never calls you or wants to spend time how do you know this person is intrested at all?

[Ecstatic]

chillin means staying in your house. when you chill with someone, you're in your house with someone. It's doing the things you do in your house WITH someone. Watching TV (ideally an NFL playoff game if she'll put up with it), ordering chinese food, and basically goofing off doing nothing. when you're chillin with someone you care about, it's the greatest activity in the world.

btw ecstatic, I think you're right. her offer at the end of your night was a test and you passed with flying colors. she'll always trust you now.

See, I knew I was way out of date. Twenty-three skidoo, bee's knees. But according to Answer.com, the slang use of the intransitive verb "to chill" means:

a. To calm down or relax. Often used with out.
b. To pass time idly; loiter. Often used with out.
c. To keep company; see socially. Often used with out.

None of these specify or even imply "at home" or "in the house," so once again the language moves faster than the dictionaries can keep up. I guess I was current in my usage maybe 10 years ago?

Thanks for the positive reinforcement, flabby. That wasn't easy to walk away from.

[soul4real]

Hmm chill really isnt a that new or that much of a slang word. Lets chill from guy came out in the 80's lol

[Ecstatic]

Chill has been a slang term since the mid-1800's, however the meaning keeps shifting. "Let's chill" means "let's relax"; "chill out" means "calm down". At the turn of the 20th century, to chill meant to have complete mastery over something. "Staying in your house with someone" is a newer usage, a refinement of chill meaning to kick back, kick it, cold chill, etc., all of which are documented in the excellent Flappers 2 Rappers, the best book of American youth slang I've ever read (Tom Dalzell, Mirriam-Webster, 1996), covering more than a century of slang up through the mid-90s. But while the sense of "chill" meaning "kick back" is similar to flabbybody's definition in the sense of whiling away the time, just hanging out, there's no particular emphasis on where that takes place.

[soul4real]

Chill has been a slang term since the mid-1800's, however the meaning keeps shifting. "Let's chill" means "let's relax"; "chill out" means "calm down". At the turn of the 20th century, to chill meant to have complete mastery over something. "Staying in your house with someone" is a newer usage, a refinement of chill meaning to kick back, kick it, cold chill, etc., all of which are documented in the excellent Flappers 2 Rappers, the best book of American youth slang I've ever read (Tom Dalzell, Mirriam-Webster, 1996), covering more than a century of slang up through the mid-90s. But while the sense of "chill" meaning "kick back" is similar to flabbybody's definition in the sense of whiling away the time, just hanging out, there's no particular emphasis on where that takes place.

Wow you took that too deep