A poll for the girls here

[Nicole Dupre]

There are extreme horror stories regarding family situations for trannys. Sometimes being rejected is far better. I have a friend whose mom (widowed) accepted it and tried to protect her from her bullying bothers constantly. She left home at 16, and had to sneak back in for quality time with her mom. Her one brother would physically assault her if he found her there, forcing her mom to call the cops and make things even more complicated.

My attitude with my parents was always "see ya later". I started running away at 13, and stayed away from about 16 on. They always seemed to want me back, but had meltdowns within a few days over the reality of who and what I was. It was either DADT or major friction. But DADT only works if you're gay.

My parents literally would watch MTV to try to understand what the whole punk-rock/tattoo/couture phenomenon was. lol But that didn't work. lol So they started seeing a shrink, and luckily the shrink broke it down in plain English: "He's not just... 'gay'." lol

I came in for these group session things they arranged. By the time I was 20 or so, they accepted me being "genderfuct", as long as it was not under their roof. That was basically our truce. It lasted until I told them I was changing my name and getting tits. lol And that's when that 9 or 10 months of little or no contact began.

[Yvonne183]

[QUOTE=Nicole Dupre;991816]There are extreme horror stories regarding family situations for trannys. Sometimes being rejected is far better. I have a friend whose mom (widowed) accepted it and tried to protect her from her bullying bothers constantly. She left home at 16, and had to sneak back in for quality time with her mom. Her one brother would physically assault her if he found her there, forcing her mom to call the cops and make things even more complicated.

What you write Nicole sounds so strange to me,,, cause this me that is in your words, OK you didn't know me but what i mean that girl you write about,,, is me.

I tried to go back and see my mom but there was so much fighting with my bros and sis that it got very rough, to the point the police came and took me away. It was even written in the report that I was mentally unstable, yes, my sisters wanted me put away, or get some phsyc treatment.

I love my mom, I love my dad,, they just didn't understand me, they were old school, but the others can go to hell.

Again, I am happy all alone.

[ValerieNelson]

The only family members in my life now are my daughter and ex-wife's family. The rest of my family doesn't speak to me, and most likely will never accept me.

[Nicole Dupre]

There are extreme horror stories regarding family situations for trannys. Sometimes being rejected is far better. I have a friend whose mom (widowed) accepted it and tried to protect her from her bullying bothers constantly. She left home at 16, and had to sneak back in for quality time with her mom. Her one brother would physically assault her if he found her there, forcing her mom to call the cops and make things even more complicated.

What you write Nicole sounds so strange to me,,, cause this me that is in your words, OK you didn't know me but what i mean that girl you write about,,, is me.

I tried to go back and see my mom but there was so much fighting with my bros and sis that it got very rough, to the point the police came and took me away. It was even written in the report that I was mentally unstable, yes, my sisters wanted me put away, or get some phsyc treatment.

I love my mom, I love my dad,, they just didn't understand me, they were old school, but the others can go to hell.

Again, I am happy all alone.

I understand, sis. Assholes don't really differ very much, beyond their fingerprints. That's why they're dime a dozen assholes.

xoxo

[robertlouis]

[quote=Yvonne183;991864]

There are extreme horror stories regarding family situations for trannys. Sometimes being rejected is far better. I have a friend whose mom (widowed) accepted it and tried to protect her from her bullying bothers constantly. She left home at 16, and had to sneak back in for quality time with her mom. Her one brother would physically assault her if he found her there, forcing her mom to call the cops and make things even more complicated.

What you write Nicole sounds so strange to me,,, cause this me that is in your words, OK you didn't know me but what i mean that girl you write about,,, is me.

I tried to go back and see my mom but there was so much fighting with my bros and sis that it got very rough, to the point the police came and took me away. It was even written in the report that I was mentally unstable, yes, my sisters wanted me put away, or get some phsyc treatment.

I love my mom, I love my dad,, they just didn't understand me, they were old school, but the others can go to hell.

Again, I am happy all alone.

Like Dino, I almost feel like I'm intruding here, so apologies first and foremost. But I've found the posts on here both intensely moving and inspirational. Too many guys here stop at the penis or the boobs and don't attempt to see the person behind the image (yes, it's porn, but....).

And Yvonne, I hope that I know what you mean about being "happy all alone", but you should rest assured that there's a lot of love and respect for you here from girls and guys alike. In that sense at least, you're not alone.

[Ineeda SM]

How sad is it that in a world with so much prejudice and hate, that parents can push away their own flesh and blood kids for doing what makes them happy? I can't even pity them.

[TSMichelleAustin]

Also my dad refused to see me for 3yrs. I would go to family functions before he was there or after or he wouldnt show. Then one year for Fathers Day I wrote him a letter that I published in a trans magazine I wrote for at the time. Telling him that it wasnt his fault that I was this way. That I was always different and at that time he was transferring home videos to DVDs and started seeing me as a kid. It all made sense to him then, that I was meant to be a female. My father raised myself and 2 brothers on his own for many years before re-marrying my step mom. I honestly think my step-mom had a lot of influence on my father in accepting me too. From the minute she found out she was there for me, even when he wasn't. She has always treated myself and my brothers as her own. She loves introducing me to friends and stuff as her daughter, shes proud of me. And my father is too! Before ever getting to porn I did a lot of and still do a lot of help in the trans community. Teaching seminars, writing columns in magazines and educating people about the transgendered community. They see that and are proud of me.

[Nicole Dupre]

Honestly, the people who abandon us are ultimately emotional dead weight. If they come around, great. If not, fuck 'em. (not literally, of course. lol)

When I was a little kid, I thought my gender issues must've meant that I was from outer space or something, until I was about 7 or so. That was when I saw a tranny on television for the first time, and said to my grandmother, "That's what I am." But she already knew. lol

So I'm used to looking at society as "the others".

"Greetings, earthlings. I am from a distant Trani-verse. Don't make me zap Uranus." lol

[tsnajwa]

Middle eastern fam eh? Are they muslim?

ANyways there is some interesting stuff in here and I always love to hear from the ladies on here regarding these things.

sunni muslim family

[robertlouis]

sunni muslim family

Thanks for starting this thread, Najwa. Timely reminder of the kind of things you girls have to go through to become the person you've always been inside.