A poll for the girls here

[Dino Velvet]

Sorry to stick my head where it doesn't belong. I just want to say that I admire you ladies and respect your bravery. You all have taught me very much.

[Jamie French]

My entire family is way cool... I was a strange little fucker coming out of the gate so no period of adjustment was necessary. If your mom still makes birthday tacos for you at 32, you know the family is solid about who you are.

[Stavros]

I think this is one of the key topics for individual transexuals, certainly the ones that I have known, for all of whom their family was of huge importance. I can only think of one person who had little or no contact with her family but I can't say I knew her well. Of the ones I have known who had brothers, they seem to have had a harder time accepting the transition than the parents. Has hostility from the family at any time persuaded the person to stop transitioning? Not among the girls I have known but that is hardly a representative sample. I think that is one of the more interesting issues to discuss. I also wonder if transitioning is easier in recent times than before, say the 1980s or 1990s. Assuming that parents today are more liberal in social attitudes than they used to be; and probably in the Western world rather than in, say Africa or the Middle East.

[SammiValentine]

Has hostility from the family at any time persuaded the person to stop transitioning? .

It hindered me at a young age 15/16 - delayed the start of my transition by a few years.

[Nicole Dupre]

I think this is one of the key topics for individual transexuals, certainly the ones that I have known, for all of whom their family was of huge importance. I can only think of one person who had little or no contact with her family but I can't say I knew her well. Of the ones I have known who had brothers, they seem to have had a harder time accepting the transition than the parents. Has hostility from the family at any time persuaded the person to stop transitioning? Not among the girls I have known but that is hardly a representative sample. I think that is one of the more interesting issues to discuss. I also wonder if transitioning is easier in recent times than before, say the 1980s or 1990s. Assuming that parents today are more liberal in social attitudes than they used to be; and probably in the Western world rather than in, say Africa or the Middle East.

I was always told by older trannys (who transitioned pre-90's) that it was expected you make a commitment to being post-op from the day you told a shrink that you felt like "a woman/girl trapped in a man's/boy's body". So the first thing they did was push you into getting an orchiectomy ie remove your testicles. If you wanted to keep your dick and balls, you ran the risk of getting labelled nuts. Trannys who were attracted to women were/are considered "secondary" according to the HBS. Older trannys still refer to being post-op as being "complete". I think shemale porn, among other things, changed that situation a lot.

But as far as family goes, I was never close to my brothers anyway. Especially my one brother, who was really into sports and cars. I never gave a crap about stuff like that. I know almost nothing about cars. lol I was into fashion and art. They never hated me or anything, but we never had anything in common. My parents were actually more open-minded than he is. He was always a jock. But my parents were always pretty cool that way. There was no hatred for people who were different, no racial bigotry, etc. I think growing up so close to Manhattan had something to do with it. My mom's side is from Hoboken, just across the Hudson River. My dad's side was from Newark, before the riots. And my parents did cool things with me as a kid, like we went to see shows on Broadway, to museums, etc. NYC was always part of my life. And it was cosmopolitan enough to be ahead of the cultural learning curve, in many ways. In NY, people want to know what you're good at, and how hard you'll work for things. No one gives a shit about what your religion is, or who you have sex with. Being gay was passe years ago in NYC. lol

[trish]

My Dad was a tough sell. I was a pretty confusing kid very early on and Dad feared the worst (there were transgenders all over Jerry Springer back then). He did his best to indoctrinate me into the ceremonies of manhood. Cub Scouts. Little League. Basketball. Shooting. Hunting. Fishing. We tried them all together. My Mom finally intervened and Dad reluctantly gave up on me. Some of my brothers were pretty tough on me. For awhile there it seems I was crying every other day over something they said or did. But we're all adults now and pretty cool with each other. Aunts and uncles, and spouses of brothers and sisters are another thing entirely. I've never been asked to accompany my brother's wife to the powder room

[BigDF]

Sorry to stick my head where it doesn't belong. I just want to say that I admire you ladies and respect your bravery. You all have taught me very much.

That pretty well sums up how I feel about the subject, too, Dino. I to all of the ladies on here.

[tsnajwa]

My family hates me. I had to run away from home. Last year I went to visit other relatives in another state for the first time and to them I was a curiosity that needed to go back where I came from.

Anyways, I like being alone.

awwwwwwww :huggs:

I will say that being from a middle eastern family I'm soooo lucky I was never outright disowned by my family, I can still talk to them but they're generally pretty unaccepting and it's something that's not discussed. They just treat me exactly the same as before I started transitioning in high school, except with a few rules that I can't have guys as friends or be alone with a guy..
My parents have told me they'll accept it when I get surgery and get married. I do think that it just takes time though.

I just wanted to bring a human element up. Because I sometimes feel like I have to remind potential guys that we're people and we have lives not just a fantasy
xx

[BellaBellucci]

My parents have much bigger problems than my being trans. Dad is a selfish philanderer with middle-child syndrome and Mom is a co-dependent bi-polar prescription drug addict, so even though Mom says she accepts me and Dad says he doesn't there's actually no way to know for sure since either of them or both of them could be lying. Even if they both did, the real question is whether or not I would accept them. My brother is an outright asshole and he's proud of it.

Everyone else in my life either doesn't know or care that I'm trans.

(there were transgenders all over Jerry Springer back then)

'It's a MAAAAAAAAAAAAN, Maury!'

Girls, please stop going on those shows. We don't need them anymore and arguably never did.

~BB~

[Silcc69]

awwwwwwww :huggs:

I will say that being from a middle eastern family I'm soooo lucky I was never outright disowned by my family, I can still talk to them but they're generally pretty unaccepting and it's something that's not discussed. They just treat me exactly the same as before I started transitioning in high school, except with a few rules that I can't have guys as friends or be alone with a guy..
My parents have told me they'll accept it when I get surgery and get married. I do think that it just takes time though.

I just wanted to bring a human element up. Because I sometimes feel like I have to remind potential guys that we're people and we have lives not just a fantasy
xx

Middle eastern fam eh? Are they muslim?

ANyways there is some interesting stuff in here and I always love to hear from the ladies on here regarding these things.