I'm confused.....

[Devilboy]

I don't know if this is the appropriate section for this, please move if it's in the wrong spot.

Let me start by saying that this forum is the first place that I have read comments from transgender girls, and as I am a brand new member I don't really know much about the lifestyle or what is generally accepted. This forum has been a real eye opener, and has actually made me more confused than ever. I hope someone can help me figure all this out.

I am attracted to women. Nothing about a guy is attractive to me. I found this place as I have become more and more interested in transgender girls. However after reading some of the comments here, I don't think my assumptions are reality. I am not trying to offend anyone and I apologize for my coming generalizations, but I am just putting my thoughts out there. I thought that I would match well with a transgender girl, because- in my experience- I find that the GG I have been involved with use sex to get to relationship stability and then dial it back. The GGs that I have been involved with that have a high sex drive have also been less than faithful...it seems that they desire sex not for the release but for approval...so I wind up with a partner that does not satisfy me, or one that satisfies me, and everyone else.

I had never seen a transgender girl until I saw one in porn. She was so hot I thought she was a GG until she revealed she wasn't. I was pretty shocked. Like I said I like pretty girls, and this chick was hot, I had no problem with her plumbing...I have it too. After seeing more and more hot transgender girls, and having my own issues with GGs, I thought: "maybe dating a transgender girl would be for me"...My misguided thought process had me thinking that a transgender girl would be more sexual- because they would have more knowledge of a male sex drive, but that the sex wouldn't be based off approval like so many GGs. I know I am generalizing but bear with me.

So now I read here that if you like transgender girls you are a "tranny chaser" and then they don't like you. I don't have any interest in being topped or blowing anyone, but I am a pleaser by nature so if a girl wanted oral I would be ok with it, but then I read that if I did that then some girls wouldn't want anything to do with me. The plumbing isn't what attracts me, but what does seems like it was manufactured in my own head. Confused.

[Nikka]

no way I am going to read all of this

[Yvonne183]

Join the club, cause I am confused as well.

Maybe after I think for a little bit, I can give a better answer.

[Foggy]

The OP just realized that he's gay.

[loveboof]

As you said, you're generalising. Everyone has different needs and expectations from a relationship - and they can change over time. Don't write off girls because of past stuff, and don't be worried about your attraction to tgirls. You're only a tranny chaser if it's just sex you want anyway, and that doesn't seem to be what you're suggesting...

[Devilboy]

To Yvonne- look forward to your thoughts.

To Foggy- I am not attracted to men. Whatever I am, i am. I am attracted to beautiful women regardless of their gentiles.

To loveboof- thanks. Learned something new, didn't know "chasers" were just interested in sex.

[LittleGuy]

Ts make you pay for sex

[Yvonne183]

As you said, it's confusing and it is just as confusing to me. For me it got more confusing when I came online and started reading other people's ideas. Ideas from all over the world and much different than what I thought of in my little corner of the world.

It seems that you won't be able to please everyone with your ideas and labels, there will always be someone to disagree with you or call you a bad name.

This will sound corny and all, but you just got to do what you feel is right. If you like tgirls and someone calls you a chaser, but you are happy, then so be it.. forget what others think. There are many different types of people in the world, you'll always find someone who fits your desires, it might take a bit of searching.

Desiring tgirls is not much different than desiring other girls, we are all human with similar needs. With some tgirls you just got to tred carefully with what words you use but that could also be the case with other girls as well, you probably had the sad opportunity to say the wrong thing to a girl and you're in the dog house, even though you don't know what you said that was wrong. The phrase, " I don't know what women want from me" can be equally used to describe tgirls.

Also as Little Guy said, some make ya pay for their time. You just got to find the ones that don't.

[BellaBellucci]

tl:dr

~BB~

[Anubis1779]

no way I am going to read all of this