do you make it public that you like tgirls?

[Boardwalkempire]

No I cant say that I have...

[phobun]

I was in a serious two year relationship (It's been a few years ago now...) with a wonderful TG gal. In fact, up until that point in my life I would have to say that she was the most "perfect" woman I had ever met. This including my ex wife, whom I did love at one time.

All of my family and friends met her, got to know her. Even though I know the term is way over-used around here, she was that passable as a GG. Out of all the people, men and women that she met, only my ex, thought there was something unusual about her.

She was (is) a very discrete and intelligent person. To my knowledge she still hasn't done SRS. She may never, I don't know.

She could make a ton of money doing porn or escorting, it's not for her, she makes GREAT money as a hairstylist for rich people.

Let me get to the point. After a couple of years together, she "rightfully" asked me where WE were headed. She wanted a commitment out of me. This forced me to consider whether I was ready to back her up in ANY situation/questions that may have come up about her "nature"... She's an upfront type of gal, and she wanted to be able to be honest with my friends and family. I admit to you all, that I freaked a little, and yes, turned chicken-shit too. I could not handle this at the time.

I broke her heart and that was that. It hurt me too, but that's the way it came down.

You will regret your selfishness for years to come.

[giovanni_hotel]

IF you're posting on this board, trust it's public.

[amberskyi]

Infern0

A valid question for HA members...

I was in a serious two year relationship (It's been a few years ago now...) with a wonderful TG gal. In fact, up until that point in my life I would have to say that she was the most "perfect" woman I had ever met. This including my ex wife, whom I did love at one time.

All of my family and friends met her, got to know her. Even though I know the term is way over-used around here, she was that passable as a GG. Out of all the people, men and women that she met, only my ex, thought there was something unusual about her.

She was (is) a very discrete and intelligent person. To my knowledge she still hasn't done SRS. She may never, I don't know.

She could make a ton of money doing porn or escorting, it's not for her, she makes GREAT money as a hairstylist for rich people.

Let me get to the point. After a couple of years together, she "rightfully" asked me where WE were headed. She wanted a commitment out of me. This forced me to consider whether I was ready to back her up in ANY situation/questions that may have come up about her "nature"... She's an upfront type of gal, and she wanted to be able to be honest with my friends and family. I admit to you all, that I freaked a little, and yes, turned chicken-shit too. I could not handle this at the time.

I broke her heart and that was that. It hurt me too, but that's the way it came down.

If this had happened to me now, MAYBE, I wouldn't care if folks close to me found out I was with "a dude with implanted tits" to put it crudely. Because that is the way my circle of family and friends (for the most part) would view it...

OK, let me put on the FLAK gear...

thats extremely sad.i feel for her because i went through this in june.
it really sucks when someone who you really love and think you can trust with your heart breaks it for some idiotic reason like cowardice.
its kinda just makes me want to stop trying...
fuck boys,get money!

[wendell]

I appreciate your honesty Horndog it takes guts to admit when you when you think you were wrong or behaved poorly. For the record I think you made the wrong decision, two years. That is a long time with someone you love to end it for any reason least of all one that doesn't affect the quality of feelings you have for each other. I don't want to beat you over the head with the decision though as you seem to feel contrite for it and I do empathise with your situation I can understand your family fears, but if ever there was a time to throw caution to the wind it is surely in pursuit of a long term loving relationhip.

[dolce__vita]

Infern0

A valid question for HA members...

I was in a serious two year relationship (It's been a few years ago now...) with a wonderful TG gal. In fact, up until that point in my life I would have to say that she was the most "perfect" woman I had ever met. This including my ex wife, whom I did love at one time.

All of my family and friends met her, got to know her. Even though I know the term is way over-used around here, she was that passable as a GG. Out of all the people, men and women that she met, only my ex, thought there was something unusual about her.

She was (is) a very discrete and intelligent person. To my knowledge she still hasn't done SRS. She may never, I don't know.

She could make a ton of money doing porn or escorting, it's not for her, she makes GREAT money as a hairstylist for rich people.

Let me get to the point. After a couple of years together, she "rightfully" asked me where WE were headed. She wanted a commitment out of me. This forced me to consider whether I was ready to back her up in ANY situation/questions that may have come up about her "nature"... She's an upfront type of gal, and she wanted to be able to be honest with my friends and family. I admit to you all, that I freaked a little, and yes, turned chicken-shit too. I could not handle this at the time.

I broke her heart and that was that. It hurt me too, but that's the way it came down.

If this had happened to me now, MAYBE, I wouldn't care if folks close to me found out I was with "a dude with implanted tits" to put it crudely. Because that is the way my circle of family and friends (for the most part) would view it...

OK, let me put on the FLAK gear...

Coward. However you're no different than any man I've ever met.

[LibertyHarkness]

try dating a genetic girl as a transsexual its just as insanely hard

[horndog]

I'll take all the bitch slapping quietly...

It was cowardly, I agree.

It also hurt my heart too.

As the song goes, regrets, I have a quite few.

After my ex and I divorced (I was the broken-hearted fool in this...), I told myself that I would never get in a SERIOUS relationship again. Of course this was self-delusional. So when I met HER, it was a bit of a "re-bounding" situation for me, she came along at the right time.

I NEVER, ever, led her to believe that we were headed for "permanent" residency. In fact, I considered it a perfect relationship because we enjoyed each other's company so much without the traditional "pressures" that men and women put on each other...

I would NEVER have intentionally hurt her. If she had been a GG and put that ultimatum on me, it's highly likely that I would have said the same to her, why ruin a good (from my point of view at the time...) thing.

Of course without the additional add-on of standing up, or not, to family, friends and possibly, those who hold the reigns of your particular career, and how they feel about your being with a TG woman.

I work in a very "conservative" business, I do believe that it would have poisoned my career once the word got around that I was with a TG on a full time basis.

In a socially-evolved world, none of this would matter, but we don't live there yet. Probably not in our life times...

It's easily justifiable (especially for you gals) to throw rocks at me, it was something I had to think HARD about, making my living out in the world that is OUTSIDE of HA.

Heh, I could go on and on but I'll finish up here. Obviously I visit HA from time to time. I have never used an escort, or even been to a TG club. There you have it.