do you make it public that you like tgirls?

[Helvis2012]

Making it public, i.e making it public knowledge, not hiding the fact from anyone

I think Ed has it right. Unless not hiding it means putting a full page ad in the Times.

[nonnonnon]

if someone asks if she's trans, what do you say?

[Infern0]

if someone asks if she's trans, what do you say?

i'd probably say ask her and let her handle it how she wants tbf, its not for me to confirm or deny it is it?

[nicebrn]

Yeah, that should have already come up early in the relationship. In my experience, you find out real quick whether she wants you to reveal her status to other people or not. If she doesn't, I wouldn't feel comfortable revealing it under most circumstances. Though I've never had any serious involvement with a girl who wasn't comfortable with me admitting she was trans if I were asked.

After meeting the one girl who I brought along to visit my family, I was asked (with some confusion) "if that was a man." I just wanted to see their reaction since I was still considering whether to out myself yet. It was about what I expected: immediate denial and disapproval--mostly because I let them read between the lines. (They knew as well as I do that any girl I bother to introduce to them is either a girlfriend or soon to be one...which also implies that we're fucking.) Though it did take another couple of years before I admitted everything about my preferences. Since then they don't really care to expose themselves to that part of my life, but I've learned to live with it.

[Infern0]

Yeah, that should have already come up early in the relationship. In my experience, you find out real quick whether she wants you to reveal her status to other people or not. If she doesn't, I wouldn't feel comfortable revealing it under most circumstances. Though I've never had any serious involvement with a girl who wasn't comfortable with me admitting she was trans if I were asked.

After meeting the one girl who I brought along to visit my family, I was asked (with some confusion) "if that was a man." I just wanted to see their reaction since I was still considering whether to out myself yet. It was about what I expected: immediate denial and disapproval--mostly because I let them read between the lines. (They knew as well as I do that any girl I bother to introduce to them is either a girlfriend or soon to be one...which also implies that we're fucking.) Though it did take another couple of years before I admitted everything about my preferences. Since then they don't really care to expose themselves to that part of my life, but I've learned to live with it.

i hope for her sake they didnt say that in front of her.

[nicebrn]

No, it was the next day over the phone after I'd gotten back home. She was very thick-skinned and secure and it wouldn't have bothered her anyway. I come from the typical conservative black family, so she was already prepared for the worst-case scenario. But they treated her like any girlfriend they'd met, so it was a surprise to her (though not me) when I told her about the shitstorm that was going on behind the scenes.

[lftsgf]

I haven't told any1. But I plan to.....

[SirDrake]

Y should I get on a bull horn and make an announcement?

[a994]

I would treat any woman whom I was dating the same. I would not keep her a secret.

Now I'm not going to tell anyone that she's a transsexual, unless she wants me to (if asked). Otherwise, it's no one else's business.

[horndog]

Infern0

A valid question for HA members...

I was in a serious two year relationship (It's been a few years ago now...) with a wonderful TG gal. In fact, up until that point in my life I would have to say that she was the most "perfect" woman I had ever met. This including my ex wife, whom I did love at one time.

All of my family and friends met her, got to know her. Even though I know the term is way over-used around here, she was that passable as a GG. Out of all the people, men and women that she met, only my ex, thought there was something unusual about her.

She was (is) a very discrete and intelligent person. To my knowledge she still hasn't done SRS. She may never, I don't know.

She could make a ton of money doing porn or escorting, it's not for her, she makes GREAT money as a hairstylist for rich people.

Let me get to the point. After a couple of years together, she "rightfully" asked me where WE were headed. She wanted a commitment out of me. This forced me to consider whether I was ready to back her up in ANY situation/questions that may have come up about her "nature"... She's an upfront type of gal, and she wanted to be able to be honest with my friends and family. I admit to you all, that I freaked a little, and yes, turned chicken-shit too. I could not handle this at the time.

I broke her heart and that was that. It hurt me too, but that's the way it came down.

If this had happened to me now, MAYBE, I wouldn't care if folks close to me found out I was with "a dude with implanted tits" to put it crudely. Because that is the way my circle of family and friends (for the most part) would view it...

OK, let me put on the FLAK gear...