Anybody else struggle with this Tgirl thing?

[Quinn]

I don’t worry about it at all. Seriously, I sleep with transsexuals and women, but not with men. Does that make me strait, bi, gay, or something else? Who cares. If sleeping with men actually turned me on, I would do it and still not care about any of this. The fact is that I am the same man regardless of whom I choose to fuck. From my perspective, defining yourself by your sexual preference, much less turning it into an entire “lifestyle,” is a mark of insecurity and self-loathing. Define yourself by something that’s important because this isn’t.

-Quinn

[Ecstatic]

Well said, Quinn.

[4DegreesWarmer]

Definitely...

Anytime something such as a sexual preference can manage to define you as a person, I'd say your world is rather small.

As for struggling with tg attraction, I think everyone goes through that phase...some heavier than others. The typical "fuck this insanity, I need to stop" and you'll go on some warped spring cleaning like binge and delete every piece of tg porn you have. You feel purged and "clean," then a few weeks later you're back into old habits(And pissed you got rid of everything, haha). In the end you like what you like...you have to accept yourself as is. The worst feeling in the world is justifying your thoughts and feelings to yourself...once you realize this isn't a big issue, you'll probably feel less stressed.

[scipio]

I don’t worry about it at all. Seriously, I sleep with transsexuals and women, but not with men. Does that make me strait, bi, gay, or something else? Who cares. If sleeping with men actually turned me on, I would do it and still not care about any of this. The fact is that I am the same man regardless of whom I choose to fuck. From my perspective, defining yourself by your sexual preference, much less turning it into an entire “lifestyle,” is a mark of insecurity and self-loathing. Define yourself by something that’s important because this isn’t.

-Quinn

Amen.

[Hugh Jarrod]

Not to be a dick or anything (maybe a smart ass) but if you do a search with phrases like "Is it gay" "Is it straight" "I'm I gay" "Is it gay to like transsexuals" or similar phrases, you'll find this topic. Which gets posted about 2 - 4 times a month or so.

[NYCe]

This is probably the most posted topic on this forum, but from doing outreach work its probably the most asked question.

There's basically no support system in place for males attracted to transsexuals. They're thrown to the wayside and expected to figure things out for themselves. I estimate that at least a handful of guys have committed suicide because of this (no proof of this but trust me on this). Its a heavy cross to bear especially if your not prepared to deal with it.

While doing outreach work at a program here in NYC, I remember looking at some sent emails from the person who I replaced. Anytime a guy wrote in on this topic he was directed to the nearest tranny bar (nowbar, edelweiss, etc). There was absolutely no support system or network in place for males attracted to transgendered women.

[DJ_Asia]

Many good views here...

Been into TS since I was 14 or so..hated myself for it for about 18 years..Finally I just realized that me liking TS wasnt a bad thing,and wasnt hurting anybody by doing it,except for myself and the self loathing I was putting myself through.

Now I make my living shooting pics and vids w/ TS girls and have had many beautiful girlfriends,and gotten to know many on a very good friendship level.

Most of us go through it,but like I said in a nother post...

Relax and enjoy what you enjoy.

DJ Asia

[dajuicy]

yea....no doubt in my mind, there are many many of us out there, and for those that have "issues", which a lotof us do, there is no place, cause we are, a widely misunderstood group of dudes, thats for sure...even among ourselves, tops/bottoms, there seems to be a wide gulf in understanding, and thats why, this little place, ha is for me damn important, even when its just a bunch of bull flying, i check in almost daily to see what the dilio is....i find it refreshing to note, that some of the younger guys, seem more at ease with the situation and more comfortable with who they are. im older and more in the closet than that....i find, at work, hangin with the fellas, most hetero guys think anything related to shemales is "strictly for fags"....kinda thing...but when i kinda invite them to take a walk on the "wild side"..they are excitably curious, and also kinda afraid they might like it...ha....

[DJ_Asia]

thats because most men are at least curious,some much more than just curious about TS girls,but will never admit it.
The guys who yell "Fag" the loudest are the ones who will go for it if given the chance.

I have had much contact with alot of the girls in the community,and it seems some of the girls esp. when they were younger enjoyed going out to straight clubs,picking up on men,and not divulging the "surprise"until they were alone and in private.
3 girls told me about this,but im sure that many more have done it.One of the girls was a very well known american porn girl,and the other 2 were unknowns,but pretty and quite passable.Between the 3 they claimed to have had close to 2,000 encounters like this(yeah....2,000!). Out of 2,000 guys who thought they were hooking up with a GG,and then realized that the girl was slinging cock....only 1....ONE guy got up and left w/o any further contact when he saw cock instead of vagina.

I have told this story before and im always met with skepticism,but I have no reason to doubt the girls stories..each was told to me individually and was told w/o any type of bragging or bravado.

If these numbers are correct,then the conclusion I draw is that if a guy thinks he wont get caught,and has the chance....he will hook up w/ a TS...and then the next day at the office call anybody who likes TS's a "Fag"

DJ Asia

[hwbs]

my friends have seen the maury type shows and stuff and they confided they would hook up if given the chance .... btw , they are big fans of vanity and danielle foxx....hmmmnow i know what to get them for christmas