Trans-girls and relationships.....

[goku]

Great Op and thread. I'm sure I don't have as much experience as Goku, but I agree with a lot of what he says.

I've been mostly disappointed with TGirls for relationship material, and sadly admit that some have found me disappointing too. It takes a lot of understanding, patience and even courage to make things work, which were qualities I didn't always have.

If you do find someone you really like and can relate to, realize how rare and precious it is; hang on to her, value her friendship, and try to learn from her. That would be my advice.

The catch 22 is that in order to find Transwomen, you must either look online, or go where they go. This leads to being called a Tranny chaser.


I find it to be best to just hang out without making advances. Let people see what you are about. Once you have established yourself, and people can see what you are about, you will find more doors opening for you. Now, this doesn't mean it will be easy. You still have to deal with all the trust issues and such, but it's nec to get your foot in the door.


I do not try to fuck everyone. When I roll in the spot, I say my hellos, and keep it moving. The girls are used to seeing me, and know that I come in peace. If you are a decent looking dude, this can be hard to do, as girls will hit on you. However, don't just jump on the first girl that hits on you. Think past the nut. How will you feel about her after you have sex? If the answer is "I won't wanna talk to her", then keep it moving. Jumping from girl to girl is the quickest way to end up a "Daryl Washington", as they say around here(Yes, Austin has picked up on the Dallas saying too).

[fred41]

The catch 22 is that in order to find Transwomen, you must either look online, or go where they go. This leads to being called a Tranny chaser.


I find it to be best to just hang out without making advances. Let people see what you are about. Once you have established yourself, and people can see what you are about, you will find more doors opening for you. Now, this doesn't mean it will be easy. You still have to deal with all the trust issues and such, but it's nec to get your foot in the door.


I do not try to fuck everyone. When I roll in the spot, I say my hellos, and keep it moving. The girls are used to seeing me, and know that I come in peace. If you are a decent looking dude, this can be hard to do, as girls will hit on you. However, don't just jump on the first girl that hits on you. Think past the nut. How will you feel about her after you have sex? If the answer is "I won't wanna talk to her", then keep it moving. Jumping from girl to girl is the quickest way to end up a "Daryl Washington", as they say around here(Yes, Austin has picked up on the Dallas saying too).

Dude..if within this past year you slept with more than two TS....you are a Chaser...live with it...lol.

[CR0NUS]

It's a tough world as you well know Natasha.


I can see why some guys end up like Daryl. You come in determined to be respectful and committed, only to find girls who are only interested in your pockets, or getting some quick dick. LOL

The crazy part is the older girls are schooling the younger ones in the "ways" too, so almost everyone is doing it. That's how you get young girls, like a few on here, talking the way they do about men. Meanwhile, they really have no experience with it, they are just taking on the persona of their teacher.

It takes a lot of mental fortitude to navigate these waters.

Exactly, so they are automatically shutting the door to a real man that might actually love and accept them for who they are. Who knows, that man might actually have a good job and be able to take on the majority of the finances as long she is working a legit job and paying her personal bills. Not cheating on him for a living and saying it is ok because there are no emotions with clients and whatever else non-sense. So since the older girls put it in their head that everyone is bad they go down the usual path. I guess it is partly boths fault, the men that are interest in them up seeing them as sex objects because that is how most are and how most behave. And the girls close the doors to guys because they get used so often and when a good guy does come along it is just too complicated to open that door.

[goku]

Dude..if within this past year you slept with more than two TS....you are a Chaser...live with it...lol.

lol, I don't mess with TS as much as you think......obviously.

[blckhaze]

The catch 22 is that in order to find Transwomen, you must either look online, or go where they go. This leads to being called a Tranny chaser.


I find it to be best to just hang out without making advances. Let people see what you are about. Once you have established yourself, and people can see what you are about, you will find more doors opening for you. Now, this doesn't mean it will be easy. You still have to deal with all the trust issues and such, but it's nec to get your foot in the door.


I do not try to fuck everyone. When I roll in the spot, I say my hellos, and keep it moving. The girls are used to seeing me, and know that I come in peace. If you are a decent looking dude, this can be hard to do, as girls will hit on you. However, don't just jump on the first girl that hits on you. Think past the nut. How will you feel about her after you have sex? If the answer is "I won't wanna talk to her", then keep it moving. Jumping from girl to girl is the quickest way to end up a "Daryl Washington", as they say around here(Yes, Austin has picked up on the Dallas saying too).

Cosign this as well
The best approach if youre genuine, go simply to be friends. Do day time things.
Best way to not get labelled a chaser, have a character witness.

[fred41]

lol, I don't mess with TS as much as you think......obviously.

Just picked that number arbitrarily...lol..


...but we will always be considered Chasers...if you're a regular on this site...if you're a regular at gay bars where the girls hang...if you know more than three girls by name (i made that one up too)....it's just the way it is...

...the girls with good heads on their shoulders sometimes call guys like us that too...but it's not in a mean spirited way...they understand the differences.
...but you do sometimes have to prove yourself a bit more...nothing wrong with that.

and to the guys that want to make a good relationship with a TS last...take her away from the "community" as often as possible...the "community" can become poison to a relationship...not always...but often.

[dderek123]

Dude..if within this past year you slept with more than two TS....you are a Chaser...live with it...lol.

Two is all it takes???

[fred41]

Two is all it takes???

Yup,...it's in the bible.

[peggygee]

Have read through the thread, alot of good points have been made, and
the basic premise was well articulated.

But, I can't say that it is %100 accurate, and may be dependent on
where you seek your mate at.

If you tend to meet in pay for play encounters, gay and tranny bars, porn
forums, etc., then there may be one set of results. If you meet in
different venues, under different circumstances, then there may be a
different set of results.

Bottom line, I personally don't identify myself as a jaded, hard-hearted
female with a victim complex, and would not tell younger women to vilify
men.

But then again maybe because I am older, have done alot of work on
myself, but never thought I was an

[AmberTS]

Its sad to hear when anyone is put off dating by pre-conceptions. For every bad person there is one good out there - you just have to stay true to yourself and never give up.