Trans-girls and relationships.....

[mbf]

Its sad to hear when anyone is put off dating by pre-conceptions. For every bad person there is one good out there - you just have to stay true to yourself and never give up.

Despite the fact that I am a bitter hater myself most of the time, I appreciate the positivity in this post by AmberTS

[BeardedOne]

Just picked that number arbitrarily...lol..


...but we will always be considered Chasers...if you're a regular on this site...if you're a regular at gay bars where the girls hang...if you know more than three girls by name (i made that one up too)....it's just the way it is...

...the girls with good heads on their shoulders sometimes call guys like us that too...but it's not in a mean spirited way...they understand the differences.
...but you do sometimes have to prove yourself a bit more...nothing wrong with that.

and to the guys that want to make a good relationship with a TS last...take her away from the "community" as often as possible...the "community" can become poison to a relationship...not always...but often.

Good and accurate points.

And it's made worse if the guy (I'm speaking from experience here) is so jaded/damaged from previous relationships that trust is almost non-existent. I'm not talking about the classic who/what are you sleeping with tonite variety of jealousy and possessiveness so much as the loss of trust that occurs when you realize that the person you're in a relationship with is not in any way, shape, or form, the person you started out with.

My own situation is twisted by the fact that I am genuinely pansexual and poly as relates to my partners/relationships. Add to that my open view of the adult-entertainment culture (Models, escorts, vid stars, etc.) and it seriously narrows my list of potential long-term mates.

I've often worried about whether or not our ladies here view me as either a chaser or a stalker and have asked them, via chat or in person, how they see me. I'm happy to say that they, unanimously, at least pretend that they are comfortable with me. Still...

True, about the affect of the community on an individual. Tough, that, as it is their individual communities that provide safe haven for most.

My greatest sin, of late, was poisoning a potentially decent friendship with a commercial offer. Not sure who to blame more, myself for making the offer, or the lady for accepting it. I'll say that it's definitely me. I'm old and broken and have so tired of the mating game that any possibility of an express route is fair. Well, to some, an offer of a lot of 'roses' changes the logistics quite a bit. We get on well (So it seems), share some interests, and the mechanics are fucking phenomenal, but with the light of day, I am still nothing more than a client (By my own hand) and that stings a bit.

Heh. Thinking about that a bit...Is it possible that the dysfunctions of some of the guys/fans/chasers/stalkers is a result of the community mind as well?

[ed_jaxon]

If you been with more than two TS in a year that makes you a catcher, not a chaser.

[Odelay]

If you been with more than two TS in a year that makes you a catcher, not a chaser.

LOL

But does the ratio of TS:GG have any effect on the term? Or even TS:Gay men, for that matter.

If the ratio yields infinity, i.e. you're only catching TS's, then that smacks of chasing. If the ratio is closer to 1 then it seems to me you got the playa label going for you.

[alyssaluxor]

its my dream to have a boyfriend, anyone out there?

no drama involve only all good FUCKIN all day and night please *wink wink*

[dderek123]

The best thing about being in a monogamous relationship with a TS besides the day-to-day companionship is the lack of condom use.

[nonnonnon]

its my dream to have a boyfriend, anyone out there?

no drama involve only all good FUCKIN all day and night please *wink wink*

don't you travel the world? I would be lonely

[Deja Vu]

just give up while ya ahead.

[alyssaluxor]

don't you travel the world? I would be lonely

i travel around Asia sometimes visit me here and lets FUKC

[AmberTS]

Thank you - someone has to keep up the positivity levels! xx