Old question....Dating a T-Girl?

[pasta2000]

ive been in a relationship going on 17 months now. Hes my world and we're both head over heels for each other. While most other guys make me feel like an object, he makes me feel like a person. He's young, attractive, intelligent and everyday we challenge each other and learn from one another. Being with him i have learned how to be a better person. i typically get bored of guys reallyyyy quick, but he maintains my interest, keeps me laughing and i have never been more attracted to anyone. When i first met him, he wasnt even my type, but it's because of his actions that i feel so deeply for him.

i am his first ts relationship. Being out in public was never an issue for us, maybe for me a little because of the height differnce im 5'10 he's 5'6, but i dont even notice it anymore, i actually like that hes shorter than me. after a month he introduced me to his family. He had randomly called them one day and told them about me before this, so that i wouldnt be put in an uncomfortable situation. They loved me immediately, and now i speak with his mom and his sister everday almost, (and sometimes flirt, or yell at his father) and his sister is willing to have a kid for us. We are talking marriage, and i will be leaving the escort business in May 2011 to pursue a more positive path in life.

if he were the type of guy that were concerned about what his friends and family thought, we woulnt be together today, because it's a huge turnoff for me when a "man" doesnt live his own life. My bf is the leader of the pack. He brings me around his friends, he doesnt concern himself with whether they will know, or accept his decision, because he really feels no need to have to explain himself to anybody. and his friends wouldnt dare question him about it either, cuz he'd shut them down! If you involve yourself in a relationship with someone, you have to be willing to put their feelings before your own. If not, then you have no business being in a relationship. And i strongly feel that it takes a man to live his own life, if you're still concerning yourself with other people's opinions, then you are nothing more than a little boy in my eyes.

That seems like a more rare occurrence than most, much power to you and yours, serious ? Does his family know, and/or mind what you do for a living?

[DarylWashington]

He hates on transsexuals, gives me the right to call him a nigger. Those who live in glass houses should not throw stones.

I love transsexuals, and being called a nigger during sex turns me the fuck on!

[blackrob]

It cant cost that much and then I want some of that tight ass

id bust that tight ass open there

[RubyTS]

yeah like i said he called his family to tell them about me. First his sister, then his mom, then his uncle and cousin. i actually broke the news to his father, they didnt really get along, i played mediator and helped to rebuild their relationship. Theyre both really stubborn.

[FIRSTTIMER]

I think one of the reasons why T-Girls have problems with relationships is that a lot of the guys who like them seem to spend most of their time worrying about what everyone else thinks and not about the relationship. Firsttimer says he would worry about losing the respect of his family. He should be more interested in keeping the relationship alive - surely it would be nothing to do with the rest of his family. I'm not having a go specifically at him - he just started the thread. The comment though is one that is thrown into the arena by numerous people on here. Perhaps these people should carry on their lives the way they really want to and ignore other peoples opinions/attitudes. Just a thought.

Giovanni Hotel - totally agree with you - Freddie should be banned for that remark. Just proves what a complete tosser he is

if he were the type of guy that were concerned about what his friends and family thought, we woulnt be together today, because it's a huge turnoff for me when a "man" doesnt live his own life. My bf is the leader of the pack. He brings me around his friends, he doesnt concern himself with whether they will know, or accept his decision, because he really feels no need to have to explain himself to anybody. and his friends wouldnt dare question him about it either, cuz he'd shut them down! If you involve yourself in a relationship with someone, you have to be willing to put their feelings before your own. If not, then you have no business being in a relationship. And i strongly feel that it takes a man to live his own life, if you're still concerning yourself with other people's opinions, then you are nothing more than a little boy in my eyes.

I completely agree with both of you on this.When you are in a relationship or maybe even before the relationship when you think about asking the person out on a date stuff like this probably should not be on your mind but the reality of it is that it does for alot of people.This can go for any kind of realtionship or the start of one,not just dating a t-girl.

Am I my own man? Yes I am,and I always take responsablity for my actions.If I were to ever date a t-girl I would not hide her for who she is and would introduce her to my family and friends.But that doesn't mean that there could be a loss of respect from some even though something like this should show the same amount of maybe even more respect.

I just think that this is one of the big reasons why some guys who think about dating a t-girl have a problem with.And maybe why some just like to see escorts other than looking for a relationship with one.

Ruby,I am glad that you found a man who can see the person for who you are on the inside and outside.I truly hope that this is true love and that all things work out in the long run of life.

[RubyTS]

thank u =)

[LaCosa]

yeah like i said he called his family to tell them about me. First his sister, then his mom, then his uncle and cousin. i actually broke the news to his father, they didnt really get along, i played mediator and helped to rebuild their relationship. Theyre both really stubborn.

Wow. That's worthy of a novel there: male-to-female transsexual dating a young man, functions as mediator between the young man and his father, ultimately helping to rebuild their father and son relationship.

That defies conventional wisdom. Most people would think a transsexual would end up furthering the wedge between the two.

[RubyTS]

what can i say i have a gift with people =)

[LaCosa]

what can i say i have a gift with people =)

Apparently so.

[transcebu]

thank u =)

Congrats to you both Ruby,
I'm also in a serious relationship and wouldn't want it any other way.

In fact, I've started a website for what I call transoriented men, www.transoriented.com where we're hoping to provide many testimonials about such relationships from the viewpoint of the men, transwomen and their friends and family.

TC