Transsexual who won't see black clients? Racist or Safety Measure?

[arnie666]

Take it from me with what I do for a living and also being a white man , I have no idea what goes in the states with your Blacks, but in the UK, the worst crimes on prostitutes on my patch involving violent assault ,murder and often sexual violence , the offender was a white man. Robbery and giving the girl a slap is more a Black/Asian man kind of scene but for real sick 'I hate the whores kind of violence ', look to a middle aged white man going through a mid life crisis.

[pasta2000]

Ts dont like black men.

True, only some black Ts's deal with black men.

[pasta2000]

Why throw bombs on purpose on HA, tglover???

THe #1 suspect in the murder of Stacy, from Philly, was a 'hulking WHITE man' seen leaving her rowhouse.
The implication that trans-escorts are at a higher risk of violence from Black and non-white johns is intellectually dishonest.

For those girls who succumb to violence, I would assume most were victims of family members or close intimate associates ( non-professional).
This BS that ALL escorts would be safe from violent encounters if they avoided Black clients in delusional, IMO.
Still a girl should and MUST do whatever she can to be and feel SAFE, whether than means never seeing a client without someone you know close by, pre-screening clients, ( which I have been and makes perfect sense BTW!), having a taser or other weapon stashed in the room, etc.

But to say, hmm, 'John Doe's complexion is a little too dark, PASS,' is setting up a girl for having her head caved in by Beaver Cleaver because you cut his BJ short by a couple minutes.

From my understanding, the deaths in NJ weren't professional dates that went 'bad'. It sounds like these girls met these guys socially, possibly rejected these men, and they went off.
So does that mean a girl should avoid all Black men in any social situations???
Look, most Black people are victims of violence from other Black folks. I'm sure it's the case for other racial/ethnic groups also.
If a girl makes a habit of seeing DL thug types and fuccing with them, she's probably putting herself at risk. Or someone who's deeply closeted and has a difficult time processing even being intimate with a transgendered woman.

To simplify the problem and distill it to down to one superficial physical trait, one's skin color, is just dumb.

But really, do what you feel you must. A Black john might be initially offended for being rejected because of his race alone, but many of us could give a shit.

Just remember the first time you get roughed up by a white cop, or a puerto rican dude refuses to pay because the ass wasn't tight enough, or John Smith in the two-piece gives you drama and starts raising his voice at you, recall that the problem isn't about 'race'.

It's about personality type.

BTW, these type of threads every couple months do a lot for the drama quotient on HA, but they're a waste of time.

( I should delete this post!!!)

You're before you're time!

[sugdaddie69]

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[natina]

TIM WISE
talks about white violence because of the coping factor
http://stuffwhitepeopledo.blogspot.com/2008/10/suffer-from-privilege-induced-lack-of.html



Has Black Friday arrived in America? If so, are you prepared?

Actually, if you're a "white" American, there's a good chance that you're less prepared than other Americans. Emotionally that, is. And mentally. Maybe even physically.

As is so often the case, Tim Wise has explained well this common symptom of learning to be white:

Racism and white privilege/supremacy generates a mindset of entitlement among those in the dominant group. This entitlement mentality can prove dangerous, whenever the expectations of a member of the group are frustrated. Principally this is because such persons develop very weak coping skills as a result of never having to overcome the obstacles that oppressed folks deal with every day and MUST conquer in order to survive.

So, as a result, it is the privileged (the beneficiaries of racism, and also, it should be pointed out, the class system) who are ill-prepared for setback: the loss of a job, stocks taking a nose-dive (who were the folks jumping out the windows in the great depression–not poor folks and folks of color, but rich whites who couldn’t handle being broke!) Likewise, if you look at the various personal pathologies that tend to be disproportionate in the white community (and upper middle class for that matter), they are interesting in that they all are about control–controlling one’s anxiety, emotional pain, or controlling and dominating others–like suicide, substance abuse, eating disorders, self-injury/mutilation, serial killing and mass murder (as opposed to just regular one-on-one homicide), sexual sadism killings, etc.

Not knowing how the world works is dangerous. White privilege and racism allow the dominant group to live in a bubble of unreality. Most days that’s no big deal I suppose. But every now and then reality intrudes on you and if you haven’t been expecting it, the trauma is magnified. So, when 9/11 happened, millions of whites were running around saying “why do they hate us?” because whites have never had to see our nation the way others do–we’ve been able to live in la-la land.

But folks of color didn’t say this, because those without privilege HAVE to know what others think about them. Not to do so is to be in perpetual danger. So whites flipped out, and by virtue of being unprepared, pushed for a policy response (war) that folks of color were HIGHLY skeptical of from the beginning. But whites, enthralled by our sense of righteousness (itself a manifestation of privilege), pushed forward, convinced that the war in Iraq would go swimmingly. How’s that working out?
In other words, racism and privilege generate mentalities and policies that are dysfunctional, even deadly for whites as with folks of color. Folks of color are the first victims, to be sure, and the worst. But as someone else said, what goes around. . .
Privilege creates a false sense of security. Being the dominant group can set you up for a fall, can prevent you from building up the coping skills needed to deal with setback, because so often those skills are ones you just don't need.
Until you do, that is.


[This quotation is adapted from two sources: a comment Tim Wise wrote at Resist Racism, and one of his books, White Like Me: Reflections on Race from a Privileged Son. Lyrics for Steely Dan's song "Black Friday"]



This is a clip from The Pathology of Privilege: Racism, White Denial & the Costs of Inequality, the newly released video from the Media Education Foundation. The video is of a speech given by Tim Wise at Mt. Holyoke College, October 1, 2007.



The Pathology of Privilege: Racism, White Denial & the Costs of Inequality



http://www.redroom.com/video/tim-wise-creation-whiteness-clip


more complete video but has relatedlinks/urls and related to more of his speakings/lectures








Tim Wise-institutional racism, labor, prison education



affirmative action /school bias white people have affimative action to






“Colorblindness,” “Illuminated Individualism,” Poor Whites, and Mad Men: The Tim Wise Interview, Part 1


http://www.racialicious.com/2010/09/09/%E2%80%9Ccolorblindness%E2%80%9D-%E2%80%9Cilluminated-individualism%E2%80%9D-poor-whites-and-mad-men-the-tim-wise-interview-part-1/

[yodajazz]

Uh oh, we've gotten Natina started again! I told you all to keep your voices down.
(Actually the quote is good, but I cant tell anyone, in order to fit in with the crowd.)

[natina]

Tim Wise has explained well this common symptom of learning to be white:

Racism and white privilege/supremacy generates a mindset of entitlement among those in the dominant group. This entitlement mentality can prove dangerous, whenever the expectations of a member of the group are frustrated. Principally this is because such persons develop very weak coping skills as a result of never having to overcome the obstacles that oppressed folks deal with every day and MUST conquer in order to survive.








http://www.hungangels.com/vboard/showthread.php?t=50950

[alyssaluxor]

Take it from me with what I do for a living and also being a white man , I have no idea what goes in the states with your Blacks, but in the UK, the worst crimes on prostitutes on my patch involving violent assault ,murder and often sexual violence , the offender was a white man. Robbery and giving the girl a slap is more a Black/Asian man kind of scene but for real sick 'I hate the whores kind of violence ', look to a middle aged white man going through a mid life crisis.

British(white) guys in HK and Shanghai are usually one of the guys who gives us TS girls who escort a lot of trouble. We need to be very very careful whenever meeting British men!

[PomonaCA]

Take it from me with what I do for a living and also being a white man , I have no idea what goes in the states with your Blacks, but in the UK, the worst crimes on prostitutes on my patch involving violent assault ,murder and often sexual violence , the offender was a white man. Robbery and giving the girl a slap is more a Black/Asian man kind of scene but for real sick 'I hate the whores kind of violence ', look to a middle aged white man going through a mid life crisis.

Well of course. What's the point of a half-assed violent assault? Remember the words of George Michael who said "If you're gonna do it do it right!".

Go all out. That's what I say.

[rockabilly]

Escorts steal!

The black girl stole my Air Jordans

The asian girl swiped my Nintendo DSi

The latino girl took my wallet

The native american girl ran off w/ my iphone

The white girl ... well she never showed up.

:eyeroll: