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12-02-2009 #21
Well I am not sure how tall a woman it should be... I do have a little problem accepting than I am kinda short... I am 5'3" and usually I wear 4" heels so I can get to be average, when I go out I like to look a little tall as other woman since I just do not feel comfortable with my height, my Man tells me it is the right height but who knows...
When I used to participate in beauty pageants I always was the shortest girl in the pageant and used the platforms shoes to stand close to the other contestants, lol. Oh well , men love us when we are petite but some girls want to be a few inches shorter and other like me need at least a couple inches more... just my two cents
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12-02-2009 #22
Height can influence blending but no more or less than anything else.
For someone who is borderlne passable, anything that makes them stand out in public is going to increase the odds of being clocked. The taller someone is, the more likely they're going to have people in public notice them.
That's true for everything. The more unusual you dress the more you're going to stand out in public. The crazier your hair is, the more you're going to stand out in public. The more revealing you dress the more you're going to stand out in public. Anything that makes you stand out of a crowd is going to make passing harder because it will get people to look at you, when normally they wouldn't notice your existence.
But if someone passes well, then they're still going to get looked at, it will just be no more than "wow, that girl is really tall" instead of "wow, that girl is really tall... er wait a minute, I wonder if she's a guy." For someone who doesn't pass well, the best thing they can try to do to cope with it would be to try to keep from standing out; meaning staying away from tall heels when tall, not showing a lot of skin, not wearing bright colors, dressing age appropriately, etc.
Tall girls also flock to tall girls. If a tall girl sees another tall girl, she'll almost always walk up to the other girl and be like "wow, it's so nice to see another tall girl around here" and then start making small talk. So you're going to have to be able to deal with that. If they come up to you to make small talk and they get the impression that something is odd about you, that could raise questions. I think a lot of trans people early on can't handle it when situations like that happen, a lot of people who haven't been fulltime long (or not yet at all) aren't usually able to deal with having strangers come up to them like that. For instance one of the typical ways girls interact with each other is they'll make a quick smile towards another when passing in a hallway or in a restroom, with the expectation that they'd get the same in return. If someone is so worried about passing that this makes them nervous instead of naturally reacting the way a GG would, that's going to come off as strange.
That's one of the reasons why confidence is so important to passing. If you feel like you're not supposed to be in the restroom, scared that you're going to get clocked, you're going to look out of place and get clocked.
Originally Posted by Nowhere
Then shoe selection plays a role in how much taller trans people appear to be in public. The really large shoe sizes, like over 12, don't have a lot of selection so it's hard for a girl who is tall to shop based on heel height. If you want a pair of a specific type of boots in 14, you might not be able to find a pair with less than a 3" heel. Do the math here, if you're 6'2 and put on a 3" heel you're going to be 6'5, about a foot taller than the average GG is w/out heels. If you're 6'2 and wear 4" heels you're going to be taller than most guys in public.
Plus the shoe industry assumes any really large size (like 14s, 15s, 16s) will mostly be bought by TV's or guys who want them for halloween costumes, so the selection is pretty limited to crazy heel heights. So if someone is really tall (over 6') and has a shoe size in the extreme range, they might end up being left with either really tall heels, or having to pay to have shoes custom made for them ($$).
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12-02-2009 #23
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12-02-2009 #24
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Originally Posted by TsJANIRA
I will say I saw this tgirl years ago that had to be about 6'7". I'm sure she got alotta odd looks but kudos to her for being confident enough to do that. So that should be your first step, developing confidence. Alotta guys will be insecure around girls taller than them, but they don't represent every man. Hey remember there are girls in the WNBA taller than you, so you can still do this!
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12-02-2009 #25
i have to say the woman on here are some of the most amazing people you've all been extremely supportive
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12-02-2009 #26Originally Posted by mons147
I am a girl who transitioned later in life, starting 15 months ago at 43, but have no regrets because I had to dedicate myself on establishing a good work career, taking care of my dad until he passed away & being a fulltime caregiver are some of the reasons why I delayed it until recently.
You are still young & hope all the posts here have given you hope to take this next step forward.
You seem really genuine on asking all of us for advice & guidance & God bless. I sent you a private message & keep in touch.
Take care.
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12-02-2009 #27Originally Posted by Carissa00031
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12-02-2009 #28
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Lisa, why do you say you are shrinking?
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12-02-2009 #29Originally Posted by Floyd R
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12-02-2009 #30Originally Posted by lisaparadise
Appreciate the compliment & you look amazing yourself. I never had any surgeries done yet, but plan on getting breast implants sometime next year. I am going to be 45 years old on April 24 & feel young inside like I do outside.
Oh yeah, I forgot to mention my height....I am 6'1" tall.
I have been at this height since I was 15 years old & just seem to have stopped growing.
I am glad to see another older girl here & hope we can become friends.
Take care & wishing you a good afternoon.
Thanks, Carissa