Relationships-Brazilian Style

[yodajazz]

Here is a translated version from Portugeese, of an essay on men and trans relationships. The author is a well known travesti name Aleika Barros. I think the text translated pretty well, unlike other things I have read. Some differences here is that the word travesti was translated as "transvestite", where would would probably say "pre op transexual". In other sentences the word "cross" was used, where we might use tgirl or something. I think that Brazil has an even more macho culture than the US. But the fact is this all sounds pretty familiar:

It is in daily contact with the cross that many relationships come easily and passion for t-girls. We all know the head and think how much of the society about them. I know many cases of trans relationships with boys, but in few cases clearly see the clarity of the facts in the social life of two and the presence of friends and family in this union, much of these relationships, it is very secretive, especially by male part of the relationship, usually the guys who never have anything for the family, who never speak openly to friends and etc ... Most of them do not have the courage to take that out with the t-girls, sometimes for fear of society, sometimes by worrying too much about what others will think and talk too! It's really complicated, in 100% of cases these relationships that I know, only 20% actually take living with a cross. When a guy tells me that you date or live with a t-girl, I think one of the first questions that comes to my head and I do for him is whether his family knows? Because I know that many of them are not able to take the fact that relationship. Which one of you topariam tell your family who are dating or living with a transvestite? It's complicated ... Moreover, much of the t-girls working as escorts and that makes it more difficult to acceptance by the family of her boyfriend, let alone the prejudice, discrimination and all that the two will have to go together, come by often part of their family, own friends and all others. It is not easy huh! But when something is true and real, it all fits with the passage of time, I know some cases of this type of relationship that has lasted for 6 to 18 years and sometimes even more ... But I confess that it is rare, it is difficult and very hard to find, because there are still all these obstacles in the social life of two young pigeons. I must also make clear here that the topic is well outside it easier to find a young Italian, Spanish, Swiss, Portuguese in any country of Europe, which takes you date more easily in fact with a t-girls and really like it, that here. With Brazilians is much more rare, perhaps the mentality and culture of the country. The worst is that it is increasingly difficult to find a relationship between a boy and a cross that really goes well and that their relationship is very open, both for friends and for the family of two. Do not know if it's because of the machismo that pervades literally here today or what would be the real reason that hinders the durability of these relationships. You know? The truth is that when it happens naturally all becomes much easier and less complicated the lives of two. After all, it's so boring you to sleep with someone you love and having to go through life lying to family and saying that he lives with a woman, many of the boys sometimes even require the transfer to contribute to them lying and deceiving his family, so that the couple becomes more respected. I think everything is taken much more within the normal range when the game is opened. Now it's with you guys here can leave your comments on the topic.

[yodajazz]

Another thoughtful article.

[i]Today I totally understand the fatal attraction for many trans men, most of which previously had romantic relationships with girls in a totally hetero relationship, they now draw on that side very feminine, sensual and seductive that exists in many of our t-girls. The truth is that every year the emerging new generation of trans and every day more beautiful, more feminine and seductive that it's almost like an impulse to the desire of men, so much beauty for the male attention that is immediately ready to discover the pleasures of the third sex and having a new experience. The most amazing of all is that in many of these emotional entanglements with our t-girls, many boys become fans, and some other friends to boyfriends or lovers true. I think what most excites the imagination of men is exactly that figure highly feminine, very sensual and curvy, often more beautiful than the women themselves and even with a male, it's something else that they have no means implies some attraction in that many of them feel for them ... Many are halfway hassled and confused, thinking and analyzing whether they are gay or not and sometimes have even ask for us on this, but honestly now believe that they are not! Because many of them never topariam a relationship with another guy they like. This universe trans attract much curiosity and imagination in men know something different, other than conviction in anything to be gay or homosexual. The gay he is born, no one becomes gay because she came out with some trans or felt attracted to any of them. In life we are always trying to figure out, new costumes, new esperiencia, our sexuality is born into the well defined us since our first years of life. Everyone enjoyed their fantasies and desires of their own way and every particular, all our wishes should be respected. Through this first contact with the t-girls that often all together great novels, great loves, so everything is totally valid. After all, that would be annoying to wonder what flavor of the apple without ever having tasted it.


By Aleika Barros.