do you think relationships between ts girls and guys work?

[BrendaQG]

Have those of you who had bad experiences with transwomen considered that you simply choose the wrong women?

Let me put it this way. If you choose a woman GG or TS who is beautiful, glamorous and has expensive taste, and cosmetic surgery, and is highly educated... what do you expect? A woman who spends that much on maintaining herself, is going to expect allot of a boyfriend.

It would be like me getting in a relationship with a man who has bad hygiene and expecting him to change. People don't change for relationships. You can't make a ho into a housewife, she has to become one by herself.

[peggygee]

If your hanging around HA, most of the women who post here are here for the business. You have to look in other places, and not just places where TG hang. You would be surprised how many transgendered women are looking for someone nice, like any other woman. ANd they turn up in places other than bars.

You can't make a ho into a housewife, she has to become one by herself.

I try to tell the guys this all the time.

True definition of insanity, doing the same thing over and over
and expecting different results.

[muhmuh]

True definition of insanity, doing the same thing over and over
and expecting different results.

maybe theyre trying to be scientific about it
http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/the_difference.png

[MrsKellyPierce]

yes! they do work1

[MrF]

I think raybbaby is right and you can't take a few experiences with TG and make a generalization that TG act mostly in a certain way. But it sure is tempting ! Like the OP, I feel it may be simpler with GG -- on the average -- in that the chances of things going smoothly are better. That's just been my limited observation.

[Magic8Ball]

Sure they can work, if both individuals are willing to put in the effort. TG or GG relationships are about trust, respect and honesty. I've never been in a relationship with a TG, and I'm sure that there are plenty of complications, bug GG's aren't exactly simple either. When it comes to relationships thought, I think if both people are honest and open then it can work out.
A friend of mine who's an unabashed romantic told me once that all relationships end... except for "The One". I don't necessarily believe in "The One", but I think she's got a point.

[lochaber]

not exactly clearing things up here, but I think two questions are necessary to throw this into perspective:

1.) how do you define 'work'?
is it based on a set amount of time 'together'?
is it based on some arbitrary level of commitment?
-get married?
-move in together?
-something else?

2.) do you think relationships work?

not to come across as facetious, but how many relationships work, period?(gg/m, m/m, gg/gg, ts/m, ts/gg, ts/ts, whatever combos omitted...)

You frequently hear the stat (no idea about the accuracy of it...) that ~50% of marriages end in divorce. but, for each marriage, there was likely a handful of relationships preceding that marriage (for either partner) that didn't 'work'. And even after that, ~1/2 of those marriages don't 'work' (and who's to say that every couple who doesn't get divorced has a 'working' marriage?)

Not trying to pick fights or anything here, so please don't take this that way. I'm just reminded of my time in college, when I had a couple friends in 'open' relationships. No one every really said anything directly to them, but behind their backs, it was frequently whispered that open relationships don't 'work'. I was still a bit sheltered at the time, so this made sense to me then, but later when I looked back on it, I don't think any of the nay-sayers remained in a relationship with the same person, so I began to wonder if any relationship 'works'.

Again, not trying to pick a fight or cause trouble or anything, but to a certain extent, I think the OP's question needs some qualifiers in there...

[jaycanuck]

Oh I think I'll just sit back and watch this one.

[andyuk]

not exactly clearing things up here, but I think two questions are necessary to throw this into perspective:

1.) how do you define 'work'?
is it based on a set amount of time 'together'?
is it based on some arbitrary level of commitment?
-get married?
-move in together?
-something else?

2.) do you think relationships work?

not to come across as facetious, but how many relationships work, period?(gg/m, m/m, gg/gg, ts/m, ts/gg, ts/ts, whatever combos omitted...)

You frequently hear the stat (no idea about the accuracy of it...) that ~50% of marriages end in divorce. but, for each marriage, there was likely a handful of relationships preceding that marriage (for either partner) that didn't 'work'. And even after that, ~1/2 of those marriages don't 'work' (and who's to say that every couple who doesn't get divorced has a 'working' marriage?)

Not trying to pick fights or anything here, so please don't take this that way. I'm just reminded of my time in college, when I had a couple friends in 'open' relationships. No one every really said anything directly to them, but behind their backs, it was frequently whispered that open relationships don't 'work'. I was still a bit sheltered at the time, so this made sense to me then, but later when I looked back on it, I don't think any of the nay-sayers remained in a relationship with the same person, so I began to wonder if any relationship 'works'.

Again, not trying to pick a fight or cause trouble or anything, but to a certain extent, I think the OP's question needs some qualifiers in there...

i think people look for differnat things
but if like me your looking for a serious relationship,then it is a lot more simple to find it with a gg.
not knocking anyone on here,but that as been my expericance.
for example,most of the asian girls are after money or visas.
and the few ts girls i have met over here,hvae not really loved themselves,so i dont see how they could love anyone else.
the others are mainly escorts,and i could never date a escort,just would never work.
i know the 1 ts in america who is the most beautifull girl inside and out,now if i met someone like that then im sure it could work,but i cant help feeling that is a rare thing .

[buckjohnson]

I am involved and feel that both GG's and TG's have emotional issues and personal journeys that effect how they approach personal interactions. Chasing demons is almost always losing battle.