help please,first timer dating a transexual?

[alyssats]

by the way most of my post op friends will never tell anyone they are born as a boy. i think the best thing is be honest with each other if youre sure shes a post op and not your type just move on and look for other girls just that simple

[eclipsemint]

Even if she did lie which is never good to do. I dont get why it would matter if she is post op or not.Cuz if u had real or strong feeling for sum one would sumthing about there past really change how u felt.Besides a person is made from their life experiences and through interactions with others in their past.In other words persons past is what makes them into who they r in the present. For tgirls that road called life ain't a smooth ride.If u still dont believe or accept her for who she is just let her go gently.U both will be better off that way


p.s .This could be a your fish that got a way.

Yeah...climb every mountain, ford every stream...

[peggygee]

thanks, I appreciate that

the bottom line is though that I don't want a post op, period, and if she is, then she's lying, so i would like to find out

i'm guessing that a post op could keep this secret pretty well if she wanted to and I'll find out through my own means sooner or later but I thought it would be easier with some feedback from "experience" by members here

going through some of these threads however is leading me to believe that alot of that "experience" consists of fantasies and tranny porn

and I'm sensing that some people here are jealous, and also that i am not treating this person with respect

well I HATE being lied to more than anything by a girl and that to me is the ultimate form of disrespect, I'll give her the benefit of the doubt for now and I am definetly going to pursue this

btw, I have always treated every person I've been with like a queen, including my ex wife who cheated on me with many men from our engagement onwards and throughout our 7 year marriage untill I found out by pure accident, all the while I was working, paying bills, and helping raise her daughter that her baby father walked away from,

so I know how to respect, and I know how it feels to be disrespected, but I don't anything about disrespecting women

if a girl is lying to me about her situation, then she is a liar, period, this type of thing doesn't fall into the "little white lie category"

in any case, I'll post back after our date in a week, I like this board but I don't have too much private pc access, getting a new smartphone soon with net access so hopefuly I can check back more often

peace

Dion, perhaps I was too obtuse in my post upthread, and you didn't get
my intent and sentiment.

I am a post op woman.

If I am casually dating someone, I usually do not divulge my herstory.

If there is serious realtionship potential I would do so.

From your statements I surmise that your intent is to casually date this
woman.

Since you are soliciting input from people on this board, I would suggest
that you sever the relationship as you feel that a post op woman isn't
someone that you would be interested in.

You go on to say that you "will find out through my own means sooner or
later."

From that and other of your statements I get the sense that you will be
conducting an investigation into the woman every moment that you are
with her.

No woman, be they trans or natal wants to feel like they are under a
microscope 24/7.

For the sake of the woman, cease and desist, please.

[MacShreach]

thanks, I appreciate that

the bottom line is though that I don't want a post op, period, and if she is, then she's lying, so i would like to find out

i'm guessing that a post op could keep this secret pretty well if she wanted to and I'll find out through my own means sooner or later but I thought it would be easier with some feedback from "experience" by members here

going through some of these threads however is leading me to believe that alot of that "experience" consists of fantasies and tranny porn

and I'm sensing that some people here are jealous, and also that i am not treating this person with respect

well I HATE being lied to more than anything by a girl and that to me is the ultimate form of disrespect, I'll give her the benefit of the doubt for now and I am definetly going to pursue this

btw, I have always treated every person I've been with like a queen, including my ex wife who cheated on me with many men from our engagement onwards and throughout our 7 year marriage untill I found out by pure accident, all the while I was working, paying bills, and helping raise her daughter that her baby father walked away from,

so I know how to respect, and I know how it feels to be disrespected, but I don't anything about disrespecting women

if a girl is lying to me about her situation, then she is a liar, period, this type of thing doesn't fall into the "little white lie category"

in any case, I'll post back after our date in a week, I like this board but I don't have too much private pc access, getting a new smartphone soon with net access so hopefuly I can check back more often

peace

Dion, perhaps I was too obtuse in my post upthread, and you didn't get
my intent and sentiment.

I am a post op woman.

If I am casually dating someone, I usually do not divulge my herstory.

If there is serious realtionship potential I would do so.

From your statements I surmise that your intent is to casually date this
woman.

Since you are soliciting input from people on this board, I would suggest
that you sever the relationship as you feel that a post op woman isn't
someone that you would be interested in.

You go on to say that you "will find out through my own means sooner or
later."

From that and other of your statements I get the sense that you will be
conducting an investigation into the woman every moment that you are
with her.

No woman, be they trans or natal wants to feel like they are under a
microscope 24/7.

For the sake of the woman, cease and desist, please.

+1

[mickey]

Anyone know what the outcome of the schmuck's dielema was ?
Did he give up his Inspector Cluseau impression and go with the flow ?
Did his intended confess, kick him in the nuts and walk out ?
Holy SHIT, was she a GG all along ? Would serve the pompous asshole right !

[xon]

thanks, I appreciate that

the bottom line is though that I don't want a post op, period, and if she is, then she's lying, so i would like to find out

i'm guessing that a post op could keep this secret pretty well if she wanted to and I'll find out through my own means sooner or later but I thought it would be easier with some feedback from "experience" by members here

going through some of these threads however is leading me to believe that alot of that "experience" consists of fantasies and tranny porn

and I'm sensing that some people here are jealous, and also that i am not treating this person with respect

well I HATE being lied to more than anything by a girl and that to me is the ultimate form of disrespect, I'll give her the benefit of the doubt for now and I am definetly going to pursue this

btw, I have always treated every person I've been with like a queen, including my ex wife who cheated on me with many men from our engagement onwards and throughout our 7 year marriage untill I found out by pure accident, all the while I was working, paying bills, and helping raise her daughter that her baby father walked away from,

so I know how to respect, and I know how it feels to be disrespected, but I don't anything about disrespecting women

if a girl is lying to me about her situation, then she is a liar, period, this type of thing doesn't fall into the "little white lie category"

in any case, I'll post back after our date in a week, I like this board but I don't have too much private pc access, getting a new smartphone soon with net access so hopefuly I can check back more often

peace

Dion, perhaps I was too obtuse in my post upthread, and you didn't get
my intent and sentiment.

I am a post op woman.

If I am casually dating someone, I usually do not divulge my herstory.

If there is serious realtionship potential I would do so.

From your statements I surmise that your intent is to casually date this
woman.

Since you are soliciting input from people on this board, I would suggest
that you sever the relationship as you feel that a post op woman isn't
someone that you would be interested in.

You go on to say that you "will find out through my own means sooner or
later."

From that and other of your statements I get the sense that you will be
conducting an investigation into the woman every moment that you are
with her.

No woman, be they trans or natal wants to feel like they are under a
microscope 24/7.

For the sake of the woman, cease and desist, please.

I mean no disrespect watsoever in saying this but dont u think the other person has a right to know who he/she is actually dating?? also it might actually be dangerous telling a person later, u never know what he/she might be capable of....some people might take the news in a diff way than u you would expect

i do agree 100% that he should not try to find out via sneaky means...he should just have a chat wid her if hes actually planning on bein serious



on a side note i dnt think we should be quick to put him down just coz he has preferences....he doesnt want a post op woman, i dnt see it any diff from a person not wanting to date people who are for example asian...theyr just preferences as long as he means no disrespect to that race or watever then its all good in my books...
"different strokes for different folks"

I personally have never been wid a post-op woman and to be honest i dnt know what id think of it...but i guess if shes a nice person and everything i might give it a go hehe

[dlon]

update

all woman, very sweet girl

evidently rumours of her transgender-ness were greatly exaggerated....

was looking to try a shemale, will settle for a beautiful woman instead, for now, lol

had she been a post op, I know I would have maintained a good friendship and treated her with respect

thanks to the few who supported me, lots of anger here for real, I try to keep that kind of negativity out of my life, hence my absence from here

any cute she males wanna link up, let me know
peace

[worldbro]

pics or it didn't happen

[tgirlzoe]

I would have loved to been there for that conversation:

"So, uh, the guys at work think you're actually a man."

Yeah, transsexual or not, you're getting slapped and probably worse.