Ladies - Are you Lonely???

[rockabilly]

now im not trying to sound picky, picky, picky or picky, but peronality just isnt EVERYTHING. even guys agree.

But a great personality helps. If i had a choice between a gorgeous tgirl w/ no personality or a homely Tgirl who has a great personality ... I'd go for homely. Beauty fades

[MrsKellyPierce]

now im not trying to sound picky, picky, picky or picky, but peronality just isnt EVERYTHING. even guys agree.

But a great personality helps. If i had a choice between a gorgeous tgirl w/ no personality or a homely Tgirl who has a great personality ... I'd go for homely. Beauty fades

and there are surgeries to fix ugly lol

[JHANIAH L0VE]

WOW

[rockabilly]

Hi Kelly , Good one lol

[JHANIAH L0VE]

a man with extensive cosmetic surgeries is not for me.

[MrsKellyPierce]

a man with surgeries is not for me.

I guess I differ in that aspect I plan on staying young looking and better as I grow older, I hope my man feels the same way. Which mine does, and I am grateful for that. I believe in staying in shape, looking good, and staying healthy.

[JHANIAH L0VE]

a man with surgeries is not for me.

I guess I differ in that aspect I plan on staying young looking and better as I grow older, I hope my man feels the same way. Which mine does, and I am grateful for that. I believe in staying in shape, looking good, and staying healthy.

happy for you

[harri10]

It's obvious though that Danielle has just not met the right guy yet to give her the attention and support she needs.

I think Danielle needs a trip over to this side of the pond!

[SarahG]

Danielle, you are lucky that he only bitched you out over the phone and didn't physically harm you. There are men, one in CO actually, who will beat a girl to death when they find out she was born a man. Honesty is always a good policy, or if you're going to lie make sure he can't google the lie and find you out (I assume you told him your porn name for some silly reason)

And there are guys who wouldn't "need" sexual contact to set them off violently like that.

It would be absurd to believe that every trans girl who is ever murdered, is murdered because she "tricked" the guy she was with.

Fact is, like it or not- a lot of the guys who commit these crimes fully knew the girl was trans and then either:

1- continued to date her, and then days/weeks later decided to kill her for whatever homophobic reasons
2- didn't get involved sexually or emotionally, but then decide to kill her anyway for sport thinking no one would ever care about it enough to send him to jail for it.

Every time a stranger "knows," the risk for violence goes up. Just look at the Angie Zapata case. Before the trial, everyone on here was talking about how she must have "tricked him and had it coming." But you know what? Everything about that case shows that the guy knew, and he knew for weeks on the day that he decided to kill her.

Then after he killed her, the psychopath stole all her credit cards, her blood stained purse, her cash, her car, and a list of other valuables and went on a week long shopping spree. Then to top it all off, he gave the blood stained purse to his GG girlfriend as a "romantic gift."

As Johnny wrote:

I watched that court case and what's interesting about the Colorado guy is that for someone who didn't know she was transgendered he sure did go to govt. officiated buildings with her weeks before..........

Yea that whole case reeked of stuff that just made the whole guy's argument sound more and more absurd.

The even more tragic part of the whole thing was that, at the trial, the defense were allowed to try to use transphobia to win the case.

They knew, KNEW that gay panic was going to be a stretch (given the reality of the case). So appealing to the belligerence & intolerance of the jury, the defense spent the entire case using the wrong name, the wrong pronouns, even going on long off topic tangents about whether or not she was born as a normal guy and what she was called at birth. They even managed to trip up some of the girl's family into using the wrong names & pronouns.

But, stretch or not- in these cases gay panic usually is successful. Juries give guys a get out of jail free card; all they have to do is LIE and say they were "tricked," and then they get off- regardless whether or not that's what really happened. The abnormality of the Angie Zapata case is that the guy was convicted. Usually this never happens; and the truly violent, transphobic guys out there know it.

Danielle,, It's funny that you mention this, a few days ago i posted a blog on my Myspace about something so similar....It is called LONELY IN A CROWDED ROOM[/b]..:[b]As crazy as it seems, it does happen. You go out to mingle with friends, have a few drinks laugh remminess on old times, giggle at certain charcaters of the night and prance around. , making eye contact with certain indiviuals who happen to catch your eye and you know the rest. .....
But tonight I felt so , I dunno, outta place. I felt as I was in a place where I didn't belong, I felt extremely lonely in a crowded place , sure I got the usual "

Oh I know this very well, I am a shy introvert in-person, which makes it very easy to become lonely in a crowded room, even if I know everyone in a room or at a party well.

But, I think personality isn't as important in situations like that as feeling like you have something in common with whatever crowd you're in. The more you feel like an outsider, the harder it is to interact. I loathe small talk with a huge passion, and so if I'm in a room with people with seemingly nothing at all to talk about, it just perpetuates the "well, I think I'll just sit here and watch what's on the tv over the bar." I know its usually more difficult for me to relate to people my age, that's why I usually only date older guys... and that's what a lot of loneliness is, not being able to relate to whoever you're with. It becomes "what can I talk about, that actually matters with this person," or even "can I trust him to talk about serious stuff?" The reason why I usually tell guys eventually in my relationships isn't because of safety fears, but because I want to be able to talk about literally any topic without worrying about it. It might only be something that comes up every 3-6 months or so (I mean really, how often do we talk about trans stuff in person?) but those moments can be important.

[Nicole Dupre]

now im not trying to sound picky, picky, picky or picky, but peronality just isnt EVERYTHING. even guys agree.

But a great personality helps. If i had a choice between a gorgeous tgirl w/ no personality or a homely Tgirl who has a great personality ... I'd go for homely. Beauty fades

Hmmm. I'm not into that 'one or the other' thinking. I can't see geting too comfortable with half of what I want. lol