Ladies - Are you Lonely???

[tstv_lover]

Danielle,

Responding to your OP, there's no reason that you can't enter into a meaningful and lengthy relationship.

The fact that you have a few "dark pages" from the past shouldn't be an issue. Anyone who hasn't made mistakes hasn't really lived. It's all about learning from those dark pages that create character and determine who we are today.

The fact that you were born male but have undergone SRS may put some guys off, but that says more about them than it does about you. You've been faced with the harsh reality of gender reasignment, and have undergone the emotional, physical and social pains associated with making you a wonderful person. If a guy can't accept you for who you are then he doesn't deserve to be part of your future.

I would say that continuing in the porn industry, in whatever capacity, will make some guys nervous. Always best to be honest. If you're role is purely behind the camera then it may be easier for the relationship.

It's clear that you are a beautiful, intelligent, resourceful and driven woman. What do most guys look for in a relationship? They look for the same as you - an emotional, intellectual and physical union that works. Girls only looking for money from a relationship are prostitutes on a lifestyle rather than transactional basis. From what I read in your OP this is not the key driver for you.

So, although you may feel periods of loneliness at times, you have as much chance as anyone - indeed more than most - in finding a meaningful long-term relationship that meets your emotional, intellectual and physical needs.

The people I feel sorry for are those who are in a committed relationship yet still lonely.

[Hara_Juku Tgirl]

Had some additional thoughts over dinner:

1. Realized that I hadn't answered the original question about being
lonely.

While I'm not in a relationship at the moment, I would say that I'm
far from lonely.

2. I don't feel jaded or fearful that I won't find a suitable mate. I've
been in loving, quality relationships and I'm optimistic that it will happen
again.

3. Upthread the conversation digressed to the issue of telling your trans-
status. I've posted my philosophy on this many, many times.

When I was pre op, the person and I would get to know each other well
before I would divulge my status and / or before we became intimate.

As a post op, if it's a casual encounter I may not confide. If it's headed
to something serious then I would divulge that information.

However, in most instances, the person and I get to know each other, and
I tend to avoid meaningless sexual encounters.

Great post Peg! Especially the one's in BOLD.. :P

~Kisses.

HTG

Thanks Hara.

How have you been sweetie?

You're welcome! I've been good..thanks for asking. Just been busy as a bee working crazy long hours. How are you hun? I haven't really seen you on her as much lately.

~Kisses.

HTG

[Hannibal Lecter]

Controversial and contradictory ignorant bastard as i am, i'm gonna say something:

ehm..

There is a difference between straight men and straight men. A straight plumber
thinks totally different from a straight well educated man with good job
and social status. A plumber-kind-of man generally speaking thinks in rudimentary
simple terms and has most likely hardly red any book throughout his entire life.
So, simply speaking, while straight savage not only is incapable of accepting some
facts that it's mind cannot absorb but even potentially can be very dangerous for
your existance in general, the straight humanoid can accept you as you are, to much
higher extent (although not without difficulties). Please observe that i'm not talking
about involvement in porn industry, but only about the "T" thing in it's essence.

So, be carefull in your choices. You are not a superficial girl. So avoid superficial
men as well.


My thought.

[peggygee]

ehm..

There is a difference between straight men and straight men. A straight plumber
thinks totally different from a straight well educated man with good job
and social status.

A plumber-kind-of man generally speaking thinks in rudimentary
simple terms and has most likely hardly red any book throughout his entire life.

"Hey, I resemble that remark."

[peggygee]

You're welcome! I've been good..thanks for asking. Just been busy as a bee working crazy long hours. How are you hun? I haven't really seen you on her as much lately.

~Kisses.

HTG

Great to hear.

Ditto on the busy, work and other obligations have been keeping
me tied up.

[Nicole Dupre]

Minus the nonsense posts, from whoever that HungDevils dweeb is, the two basic replies here seem to be either "Don't settle" or "You're a tranny porn star, so you get what you deserve. Deal with it."

Well, I'm suggesting that she never "settles", and that anyone writing her off as some 1-dimensional slut, based over her porn career, is just plain retarded.

That's exactly why so many guys who start getting to know us as models and/or providers are at a disadvantage. They can't put their fantasies in the proper perspective.

I see the way some of you comic book-brained bitch-asses think! Well life is not a coloring book, with dirty naked pics of shemales. If you're just a retarded fan boy, buy your porn and behave yourselves. You're lucky any hot trannys are even posting ANYTHING for your anonymous jizzed-on asses to read, you goddamn geeks. Keep it cute. lol

Of course Joe Six-Pack can't fathom the depths of a tranny who did porn. JFC. That's why he can't hook up with a GG either. He's a dim bulb in the marquee of life. lol WTF are we? Consolation prizes for sexual retards? I don't fuckin' think so. lol

[rockabilly]

I can look at her pics and porn and fantasize all day, but i would enjoy meeting the real her ... not the porn star. There is more to a relationship and life in general than just sex.

[blonde_sweetheart]

Is it fair that I should have to settle or be lonely? Is this what I deserve?

[rockabilly]

Nobody should be alone. And you shouldn't have to settle. But dont pass on a good guy because you think a better one is around the corner.

[Distance]

Is it fair that I should have to settle or be lonely? Is this what I deserve?

Stop searching. You are very young, come on now. You are 18 only. Guys will come to you.