Transexual Occupations

[SexxxyJade]

Its no secret that the majority of Tgirls are escorts, and im sure that everyone understands why. Society hasnt fully accepted us yet, not enough to welcome us into the work force.
Escorting isnt the best job in the world, and actually some girls are ashamed of the job that they do..understandably. I get questioned every singke day... "why do u escort". So can some one tell me what other options do tgirls have to make a living? What other occupations have you seen tgirls working in? And how can a tgirl get into the work force without experiencing some type of discrimination or prejudice?
Alot of girls start escorting temoorarily, to get on thier feet, pay for scoll, or just for sum quick cash, but after a while the money gets addictive and you do it so long that you find yourself stuck. You wake up one day and find that you have been doin it for years.
Initially I started escorting part time, to help pay for my schooling, when i was living in Moami. After a while i took off a semester to escort full time thinking i would just save up all that money and start back. Unfortunately it has been 4 yrs and I havent stopped escorting or started back school.
As of late...realization has set in that if I dont make a change, if I dont do something, that I will be doin this for the rest of my life, and honestly I dont want that. I would love to have a regular job, live a regular life, and not let my day to day activities not revolve around my cell phone and clients.
This may be funny coming from me, a girl who seems so zealous and dedicated to my profession. But this is the reality. Idont wanna wake up at 30 still answering my cell phone and setting appointments. Is there hope out there for me? Is it possible to live a normal life after escortung for so long? Or do I need to give up and accept my fate and just try to make the most of the cards life has dealt me.
Sorry, but like every other girl im sure, I go thru emotions sometime, Im just thinking about my future, Im still young, but that doesn't last long.

Kisses,

[rvince]

Save as much money as you can and/or invest it in a mainstream business...
One TS I work with is currently setting up (with the money she's getting from escorting) a very nice mainstream business that should allow her to get a real nice income in a new or two from now...

[alfredog]

Not to sound like your high school counselor, but I can't imagine you failing at anything you put your mind to. You sound as intelligent and self-aware as any woman I know. And you're gorgeous besides. With some degrees under your belt, I can't see you being "trapped" in any situation.

Damn, can we date?

Lemme calm down.

[TomSelis]

Jade, it's really cool that you are open about this and I hope the guys stay supportive.

Here's the way I look at it. When I was in college, I quit for a year. I felt it was too hard, I wasn't making any money, I was broke all the time, my friends were making (what seemed like good money). So I quit, I got a crappy job working 80 hours a week (just to make decent money). It sucked. I almost joined the Marines (would've too, if the recruiter wasn't trying to fuck me over). I talked to my mother and she said something that stuck with me ever since: "It's easy to say, fuck it, but nothing worth getting is easy." So, I re-enrolled and I graduated with high honors. My attitude changed completely and somehow, I went back more mature than the kids that hadn't dropped out.

I'm not saying, you're saying fuck it. You seem stuck in a rut. I'm sure the money you make from escorting and your website is very good. At this point, I'm imagining you're making enough money to pay for a few college credits. You should just go ahead and take them. Once you start, you can keep going from there. You're going to have to sacrifice something in order to do it though. If you're just trying to save up to go back, that might not be a good idea because things happen in life and you'll start to say, "I can't do it right now" but you'll look up and five years have passed you by.

Working sometimes sucks. I'd imagine way more than escorting, but I'm sure that has some things that suck about it too. Everybody faces difficultly in the workplace. You being a TS is just another thing, but you can't get fired for it.

I said all of that to say, it's on you what you do. Sometimes doing what's right for you isn't easy. I don't think escorting and school mix very well. You have a plus though, you have your website and that's some kind of income.

The TS girl I'm dating right now (yes, I'm dating a TS) is kind of in the same boat. She lives in subsidized housing, she won't go back and finish beauty school or go to school for anything else. That doesn't feel very good to me. Eventually, it'll put a strain on our relationship. Sure, she gets to live in a nice spot for cheap, but there's more to life than that. The alternative is not as comfortable. But, I know she can do it, she's just not doing it. Guys like me that want to have a "normal" relationship, that kind of lifestyle isn't very acceptable. Some sacrifices have to be made.

You can do it if you try. Just try though.

[hondarobot]

Honestly, I know quite a few transexuals, and I can't think of one who works a regular "job type job". I'm sure it's probably fairly common, but I just know the other types of tgirls. Even the drag queens I can think of off hand don't do the 9-5 thing for the most part. But then again, you have to consider if you'd really want to. I myself couldn't go from maintaining a big nightclub to punching a clock, sitting in a cubicle, and blabbing by the water cooler. I'd go nuts.

So what would be a fun, legit, lucrative option for a shemale? I don't know why this hasn't happened yet, but why isn't there a strictly tgirl strip club? Start-up would be easy, it would be considered a glbt club and they get liquor liscenses pretty easy (city councils don't like to appear prejudiced). Might not even have to get a permit for topless dancing. From the goofy legal perspective, that probably only applies to genetic girls. Tgirls can dance pretty wild while tucked, I've seen it done thousands of times. I know there are clubs where tgirls dance topless, but I've never heard of a bar that offers it exclusively, seven nights a week. I know for a fact that LA and NYC could provide a large clientelle base.

Table dances would probably require booty shorts or something. There's quit a few girls I can think who would have a hard time staying inside their panties once they got turned on, but that would the big draw. A guy gets a lap dance from a rock hard tgirl wearing a pair of those girly tighty whiteys or something, that guys gonna come back every week and throw hundred dollar bills at her.

So that's my idea. I'd start a club like that myself, but I don't have the cash to do it. It would make tons of money though, strip clubs are money machines. Buy a case of beer for $10, sell each beer for $8. Don't even have to pay the staff anything beyond minimum wage, they work for tips.

I'm saying, money machine. Anybody with a cool million dollars for start-up sitting around let me know (actually, it probably wouldn't cost that much), I'll get it up and running.

Oh, and yes, I'd hire Jade if she wanted a job.

[Man Fuck It]

Its no secret that the majority of Tgirls are escorts, and im sure that everyone understands why. Society hasnt fully accepted us yet, not enough to welcome us into the work force.
Escorting isnt the best job in the world, and actually some girls are ashamed of the job that they do..understandably. I get questioned every singke day... "why do u escort". So can some one tell me what other options do tgirls have to make a living? What other occupations have you seen tgirls working in? And how can a tgirl get into the work force without experiencing some type of discrimination or prejudice?
Alot of girls start escorting temoorarily, to get on thier feet, pay for scoll, or just for sum quick cash, but after a while the money gets addictive and you do it so long that you find yourself stuck. You wake up one day and find that you have been doin it for years.
Initially I started escorting part time, to help pay for my schooling, when i was living in Moami. After a while i took off a semester to escort full time thinking i would just save up all that money and start back. Unfortunately it has been 4 yrs and I havent stopped escorting or started back school.
As of late...realization has set in that if I dont make a change, if I dont do something, that I will be doin this for the rest of my life, and honestly I dont want that. I would love to have a regular job, live a regular life, and not let my day to day activities not revolve around my cell phone and clients.
This may be funny coming from me, a girl who seems so zealous and dedicated to my profession. But this is the reality. Idont wanna wake up at 30 still answering my cell phone and setting appointments. Is there hope out there for me? Is it possible to live a normal life after escortung for so long? Or do I need to give up and accept my fate and just try to make the most of the cards life has dealt me.
Sorry, but like every other girl im sure, I go thru emotions sometime, Im just thinking about my future, Im still young, but that doesn't last long.

Kisses,

Sometimes Why takes 2nd to How. Even though i've never escorted, i've done some pretty shitty things to get me through some rough situations, some i'm not so proud of. I've sold crack, robbed, shot, and stole. I also paid my way through college with the prior mentioned. Being 16, in the ghetto and raising 3 younger siblings, you pretty much do what you do to survive. Like escorting, living the thug life becomes addictive to some. Fast money (the shit ain't EASY), girls, cars, clothes...you come to idolize the material wealth that the lifestyle brings. However, there was something deep inside of me that wanted more. I knew that I couldn't retire slinging dope and that I was just a small clog in the governments crack machine. I knew that I couldn't raise kids or have a family doing what I was doing.

But then reality sunk in. I also knew that the likelihood of a minority getting a decent-well paying job in America is still very sketchy. I had experienced discrimination and racism in some shitty jobs i'd taken while in school, trying to leave the d game alone. It was then that I realized that discrimination and prejudice isn't going to fade away on any job you go after. Wether it's outfront or latent, it's still there. The constantly getting the "You speak very well" comments come to mind.

Sometimes you just have to step out there and see what God has in store for you. That's what I did. I knew that working for someone 9-5 wasn't for me. I'd been a leader all my life. So I stacked my paper, saved up $30K and invested in starting my own company. That's the only way I knew I could really get the most out of life for myself.

OWN YOURSELF!

[Ecstatic]

Good questions, Jade. Right up front, I'd say that you shouldn't escort if you don't enjoy it, and you should continue to escort only so long as you do. My impression from your posts that you do enjoy it but you find it limiting and not something you want to continue doing for a long time.

There are alternatives out there to escorting: you're already pursuing one with your own paid website. Some girls do quite well with web and other adult-oriented enterprises (just ask Allanah). But outside the escort/adult entertainment arena there are options as well. A TS friend of mine who escorts is also co-owner of a hip restaurant which is doing very well. She saved enough money from escorting for the investment, and it is paying off--though she admits she has to work more hours for less pay than escorting allows her. But she's looking at the long-term picture. Another girl I know is in school for interior design, and yet another has invested in real estate.

However, I disagree with the assumption that "the majority of Tgirls are escorts": the majority are relatively invisible to society. Estimates run from a low of 40,000 to as many as 400,000 or more TS in America today, and most of these women are not escorts, but are working 9-5 gigs. (Counterpoint: it may be true that a far higher percentage of truly hot and beautiful Tgirls escort or work in adult films simply because their beauty makes this more accessible to them.)

My advice (if you want it) is to escort so long as you enjoy it and save, save, save to invest the money in a long-term plan (owning a business, real estate, getting a degree, whatever).

[Quinn]

Jade,

It’s never easy to change the direction of your life, but I can identify with what you are going through. Most of the guys I grew up with are dead, in prison, or, most recently, in Mexico attempting to avoid one of the aforementioned outcomes. In my earlier days, I was among the very worst of their number and should have, by all rights, shared a similar fate. Had I not chosen to go to school for computers – which eventually helped to bring me to NYC (via PA) where everything really changed – that is exactly what would have happened.

To make a long story short, today I am able to live in a manner I would not have believed possible for someone with my background. Making this change was the hardest thing I have ever done. For a long time, I was afraid and full of doubt, but I stayed the course because I really wanted to change everything.

What’s the bottom line here? Look, the fact that you made such a heartfelt post shows that you have a genuine desire to really change things for yourself. It won’t be easy, but the hardship you experience while changing things will help to make you a better and ultimately more successful person. And don’t be frustrated or surprised if you are unable to initially make a clear break with the parts of your life you desire to change. I don’t believe it’s every that simple. Still, so long as you are working on a long-term alternative and sticking with your plan to get there, what you are doing now will merely become a vehicle to help you get to something better (rather than an end in itself). Not to sound like an after school special, but with discipline, ambition, and an education, anything is possible.

I know you can do this and wish you the very best of luck in your journey.

-Quinn

[GMan]

Its no secret that the majority of Tgirls are escorts, and im sure that everyone understands why. Society hasnt fully accepted us yet, not enough to welcome us into the work force.

To quote the Mythbusters, you are wrong, wrong, wrongity, wrong. I was in a relationship with a TS who worked a full time job as a social worker for the State DHS, and she's working on getting her masters degree. While it is true that society hasn't fully accepted, and believe me, when out on a date, I always made sure that I had my ASP and KeyDefender, thank God I never had to use it, but yes, she was afraid that someone would find out and try to cause trouble.

I think escorting is like a drug...you try it once, "Hey, made some good money in less than an hour." And you get hooked on it, not that I'm judging, you just can't stop doing it. It's part of your lifestyle now. Actually..I really can't even start on this topic, because if I get started, I'm not gonna stop.

[Caleigh]

I think it's a myth that you have to be "stealth" to have a decent job. Being stealth also means worrying that you will be outed. Go to school, get some skills and be a positive force wherever you go. Most employers don't really care if you are straight/gay/trans/hairy/short as long as you have the skills they are looking for and seem to be prepared to do the work. To do a good job and to be a positive contribution to the work situation.

This is experience talking.