NICE GUY?

[Solitary Brother]

thank you guys (some) and especially all the girls that emailed me with your love and wisdom..and boo to all the guys that don't understand the full capacity of the ts life. there seem to be a lot of blame that the girls are working and that's the problem. i know many girls that never worked their whole life and one that only been wtih 2 guys period her whole life. i can assure you the issue is deeper beyond your notion..sometimes we feel to realize that 9 of 10 plus ts girls are escort. that is a social imbalance. guys who likes ts girls should understand that going in. you can either pay and benefit the sex or jump into that world if you want to date one...however understand that when dating a ts you are now apart of the ts obstacle. i guess im asking where are the guys that are not waiting for the lottery of that perfect girl. born gorgeous and not needing money for surgery or hormones..happend to have a great supportive family etc..
and sorry i didn't proof read or spell check...

Did you mean what you said?
You said "9 of 10 plus ts girls are escort".

"Guys should understand that going in"

hmmmm

I hope some of you that got on me read that.
Im not saying it she is.

I never getting any credit for anything on this board.

Have a good day.

[Legend]

thank you guys (some) and especially all the girls that emailed me with your love and wisdom..and boo to all the guys that don't understand the full capacity of the ts life. there seem to be a lot of blame that the girls are working and that's the problem. i know many girls that never worked their whole life and one that only been wtih 2 guys period her whole life. i can assure you the issue is deeper beyond your notion..sometimes we feel to realize that 9 of 10 plus ts girls are escort. that is a social imbalance. guys who likes ts girls should understand that going in. you can either pay and benefit the sex or jump into that world if you want to date one...however understand that when dating a ts you are now apart of the ts obstacle. i guess im asking where are the guys that are not waiting for the lottery of that perfect girl. born gorgeous and not needing money for surgery or hormones..happend to have a great supportive family etc..
and sorry i didn't proof read or spell check...

Did you mean what you said?
You said "9 of 10 plus ts girls are escort".

"Guys should understand that going in"

hmmmm

I hope some of you that got on me read that.
Im not saying it she is.

I never getting any credit for anything on this board.

Have a good day.

Shut up and mind your freakin buisness.

[DL_NL]

Why are all T-girls looking for a guy half a planet away?

[Bone Dry]

ladies, so where can a girl find a nice respectable, sweet guy that is not afraid to be with a ts woman, passable or not. sometimes i feel like i can't wait to meet that person and run to the end of this square planet, only him and me holding on, keeping each other from falling off the edge. the longer i'm in this community, the longer i feel that he's not out there...i feel i decently new to the scene so mothers, sisters...what say you.

Ever have one of those days, when you're feeling so good, crossing a street, driving your car, shopping at the mall, when, from a distance you see a complete stranger, with a kindly face, and you simply can't help yourself from whispering a silent "I love you..."?

Cool, because there has been many a time, in many a place, when some unknown face whispered the same to you....

Hang in there Ms Lee, I am sure you will meet the right guy, probably when you least expect it.

[Justawannabe]

Sorry if I came across all fucked up Yasmin... the timing was bad.

I'm not down on the girls who work in the adult industry. It's a perfectly valid way for a girl to make the money she needs, but I do see where it will cause problems for a potential boyfriend. Especially escorting, as sharing an image is one thing, sharing the actual physical person is harder.

Your lovely and you seem sweet enough on the board. Lots of guys would love to be with you, me included just from what I've seen and read. But by turning sex into work, you take it out of the special category to some degree. Relationships are already hard, that just weaknesses things.

All this means is you have to work harder to make the man feel special. Make him feel he is chosen, and that you will never change your mind. This is hard in normal relationships, when you are sharing sex, which normally is one of the big binding activities... well it's harder. What physically separates what you do for your man from what you do for others?

Men are often in the 'show me' category. So how do you show rather than say he is The One?

Anyway, I'm rambling, touchy subject for me, given the ex calling me for help and offering her love as part of the deal to help her out... (I'd have helped her out as a friend, but offering false affection like that...) so I apologize if that bitterness spilled into your thread. You ask a real question, I'm trying to give you a real answer about it. There is a reason men get bitter, and nice guys that I've met have no time for the game.

They want someone who is looking to settle down with them, party with them, etc. Having to watch, imagine or hear about your girls exploits with other men... just plays into to many things we're hard wired for. No matter how enlightened, you need to compensate for that.

Sean

[Ponyboy]

I think beatmaker made a very good point - most GG sex-workers have trouble with relationships. I can imagine any guy meeting Yasmin would be in awe and would have to change his mindset as he got to know her. I can imagine if I met Yasmin I would go through a number of emotions. Some guys would first see her as a pornstar - perhaps feeling intimidated, perhaps feeling they're in a fantasy and not dealing with the deeper emotional aspects of a relationship. Then there are questions of jealousy or even feeling inferior next to her. I can immagine there would be alot of weird emotions floating around for the guy to contend with.

If they see her as a fantasy, what happens when reality settles in?

Of course, everybody has trouble finding their soul mate but I can imagine being a pornstar makes it worse. Then when you add in the complexities of being a tgirl, I can understand why Yasmin feels the way she does.

I wish I could one day meet you Yasmin - you would probably find me too short, but I would worship you

[yosi]

Hang in there Ms Lee, I am sure you will meet the right guy, probably when you least expect it.

we never met , yet , Ms Lee

[wombat33]

ladies, so where can a girl find a nice respectable, sweet guy that is not afraid to be with a ts woman, passable or not. sometimes i feel like i can't wait to meet that person and run to the end of this square planet, only him and me holding on, keeping each other from falling off the edge. the longer i'm in this community, the longer i feel that he's not out there...i feel i decently new to the scene so mothers, sisters...what say you.

Dear Yasmine,

Though I am not a lady, I would like to answer if that is ok.

For me, I was once in love with a ts girl and very much wanted to make her my partner for life, my wife, my bride. I wanted to take her everywhere, show her off, just as she is, to my family reunions, to my best friends, and proudly walk with her everywhere. I would stand beside her no matter what. I wanted to spoil her for life, do all the little things that made her happy, and spend my spare time making her feel as special as I felt she was. I was completely ready for the commitment.

Is was SHE who did not commit because she wanted the whole package. I am a "regular" looking guy I suppose. Big, strong, football player type I guess. Not a hot looking model type. I did not have shit loads of money, but made a good salary. I was 9 years older than her, but a good looking,, in shape, well presented guy. She wanted a veryfinancially well off guy, who lookked like a model more than she wanted to be truly loved for who she was.

I find many of the girls on here are the same way. VERY picky and VERY superficial at times. They even admit it over and over again. They might be looking for "Mr. Right" according to the chipendale's calendar, rather than thier true soulmate.

Also...........and I say this because I think you areone of the sweetest people I have ever heard from on here and have SO much class.............think about where you are looking for him!!!!! At a club? A TS Club? Most guys are there hiding from who they really are or thier wives. Most of them will not be out and about with a TS woman and lover her and stand proudly with her as they are out in public.

What about going to museums, libraries, the aquarium, cultural events and parades, volunteer to feed the homeless, do something OUT OF THE ORDINARY to look for that some one special. CHANGE WHERE YOU ARE LOOKING AND HOW YOU ARE LOOKING!!

YOU TOTALLY DESERVE TO BE HAPPY!!!!

I for one could handle a relationship with a girl that is a ts and even in porn. Not a problem for me. I love GG woman and TS women the same. At this point in my life it happens I found the woman for me in the GG form. Best of all is she knows all about me and my TS interest and supports me fully. I am happy to be with some one so special.

Mr. right is out there and some one so beautiful and special like you will find him. You will.

All the best to you on your search Yasmine!

[SXFX]

I don't know if this has been said;
You girls are affraid of the "nice guy" and call him a troll or a TS chaser or what ever. Well affraid isn't the right world. Just not interested. Why? Because he's an easy catch!
Now the a-hole who will treat you like shit and hit on your best friend! OOOOH now that's a keeper right? He's the challange! He's not pussy whiped! You can change him!

You TS girls are so much like every other GG girl you don't even know. I bet your brain waves are almost identical.

[SXFX]

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