NICE GUY?

[bipoker]

Yeah, he said:

Unfortunately, transsexuals trying to find "true love", is like a circle trying to fit into a square world. It's possible, but it seems to be uncommon, especially for those who escort and do porn.

[beatmaker]

The truth of the matter is, you have two impediments going against you Yasmin: you're a transsexual in a homophobic world and you're a porn star. Many GG porn stars don't have sustainable relationships, due to the nature of their work. Shyt, it's hard for the local GG stripper to have a sustainable, meaningful relationship with a "good man", who takes her seriously. As a result, they end up with losers, pimps and thugs. Men tend to have this wife/mother vs. whore/jumpoff dichotomy, where they have women who they feel are marriage material, who will make good mothers and role models, then you have the woman who are built for sex only. That's real talk, whether it's fair or not. Most transsexuals that I see, out and about in NYC with their boyfriends looking happy and fulfilled, tend to be at least 90% passable, so they don't illicit stares, ignorant comments/ridicule and they don't work in the sex industry at all. I remember a Latin TS, I would see in Midtown NYC with her boyfriend afterwork on a regular basis. She wore 9-5 business attire, but her large, veiny hands and big, pumped-up silicone booty gave her away to the trained eye. Most people couldn't "clock" her and those that did look, where looking at her huge ass. Since, I'm into TSs, I can usually spot one, even one who is really passable (most of the time). I remember I saw Babydoll years ago, walking down 8th Avenue and dudes were just sweating her, they had no idea she was a TS. I wouldn't clock her either, except I saw her in one of Joey Silvera's movies. I saw Jennie aka J-Lo, who dances at Sunny's party at the Puerto Rican Parade Festival this year and the same drooling response from guys in the streets, even though her face is a bit masculine, the body is all woman. Men do care what their fellow "mankind" thinks of them, so to be called "faggot" because you're out with a TS, even when you have ZERO attraction to physical men, makes most guys take pause. It's analogous to men who are attracted to fat women. They creep in the background with them or use the internet to fetishize these women and get their rocks off. There's White men who are very attracted to Black women, but will never date one in public, because their upper class WASPY family and friends think Blacks are beneath them. So, they get on some Hugh Grant shyt, cruising around looking for some Devine Brown, Brown Sugar whatever!

Back to good men, a "good guy" tends to have certain moral principles and codes, that might make them apprehensive about having a true, romantic relationship with someone whose sexual exploits are a mouseclick or DVD away. People tend to gravitate towards like-minded people. A women with a Master's Degree and high-powered corporate job, probably would not want to have a serious relationship with a guy with a GED working for UPS. Look at Barack and Michelle Obama or Bill and Hillary Clinton. All four are Ivy League Law School Grades (Bill & Hillary @ Yale and Barack & Michelle @ Harvard). At most, these types of women would use blue collar dudes for some sex gratification, when they get horny and are sick of the vibrator. I'm in my early 30's and have no children, do I really want to date a woman with 4 kids, by 2 different guys out of wedlock? She could have a heart of gold, but I can't swallow that pill, since I'm waiting to start my family until I get married and I'm a guy.

Unfortunately, transsexuals trying to find "true love", is like a circle trying to fit into a square world. It's possible, but it seems to be uncommon, especially for those who escort and do porn. Also, as a transsexual ages, her physical masculinity tends to become more pronouce and harder to camouflauge, without having excessive plastic surgery and looking like a cartoon character. Men won't be honest, but this is also a fear in the minds of many, when it comes to having a long-term romantic relationship with a TS.

P.S: I was channel surfing Sunday night and saw the World's Heaviest Man, who weighed over 1000 pounds on the Discovery Channel. This dude had a devoted girlfriend, who would come by his house and take care of him (enabler to the Nth). She wasn't unattractive either, just an average looking Mexican women, who was slightly overweight, but not fat. If this guy can do it, you can do it Yasmin. Shyt, he can't even leave the house or whip his own ass and he got someone to love him. Like the old saying "There is somebody for everybody".

WTF, can anyone here decipher this

First off, I just posted this like a two minutes ago, which means your dumbass couldn't have read the whole thing that fast. You see I posted an spelling correction right away and it's under your post.

And yes, people with average to above average intellects can decipher what I said. People who can think about things with some forethought. You're just here to look at pictures of cocks, so shut the fuck up and go to the "Huge Cocks" thread, where no intellect is required, just some vaseline and your hand.

[slinky]

For the most part, i have to agree with beatmaker.

[JamesHunt]

You're just here to look at pictures of cocks, so shut the fuck up and go to the "Huge Cocks" thread, where no intellect is required, just some vaseline and your hand.

Talkin from experience there beatmaker?

[beatmaker]

You're just here to look at pictures of cocks, so shut the fuck up and go to the "Huge Cocks" thread, where no intellect is required, just some vaseline and your hand.

Talkin from experience there beatmaker?

James, you're a real comedian (rimshot)! A Regular Riot! Now go away and play somewhere, grow folks are talking.

[speck]

What is it you are really looking for Yasmin?

[JonnyT]

from my perspective i'm not looking specifically for a tg woman but if i were to meet one that i was attracted to i wouldnt hesitate to take her out and do "normal" things with her because if i cared for her what other people think would not stop me or concern me. my point is i would treat a gg or tg the same otherwise whats the point. from a sexual point of view i feel that if i was attracted to the person as a whole then how we choose to please each other is our business and our business alone. being fairly new here i can see that people become jaundiced looking for and at only 1 dimension of a 3 dimensional human being. In the end thats what youll get, a cock with boobs. that will get old real fast or youll become obsessed jumping from one ts to another. its a dead end path. id rather fore go the sex and find a real person that attracts me and let the sex just come as a natural part of a growing relationship. yasmin ask yourself, what are your priorities in looking for a mate? once you can put those priorities in the correct order your search will be successful and you will find happiness nice guy or not. good luck to you. you are a beautiful woman and appear to have a good heart. you will make someone very proud to stand by your side no matter where you are.

[Justawannabe]

Us nicer guys can get a bit bitter over time. Get used enough times by the girls and you start to turn into the jerks the girls usually go for as a matter of survival.

Guys don't generally like to share, and when you start off having to share your girls with a lot of guys who are jerks... just not worth the pain. Easier to find a girl you maybe not even as attracted too (brains and bod here) because you won't have to deal with some asshole talking smack about what he did with your girl.

Sean

that's all disjointed, but I'm tired, so not going to clear it up... the ex- wants me to help her and love her while she's off whoring it up in New York with the girl she took off with two years ago... why the fuck would I want to support someone who like that?

and yeah, I'm bitter as hell right now...

[YasminLee]

thank you guys (some) and especially all the girls that emailed me with your love and wisdom..and boo to all the guys that don't understand the full capacity of the ts life. there seem to be a lot of blame that the girls are working and that's the problem. i know many girls that never worked their whole life and one that only been wtih 2 guys period her whole life. i can assure you the issue is deeper beyond your notion..sometimes we feel to realize that 9 of 10 plus ts girls are escort. that is a social imbalance. guys who likes ts girls should understand that going in. you can either pay and benefit the sex or jump into that world if you want to date one...however understand that when dating a ts you are now apart of the ts obstacle. i guess im asking where are the guys that are not waiting for the lottery of that perfect girl. born gorgeous and not needing money for surgery or hormones..happend to have a great supportive family etc..
and sorry i didn't proof read or spell check...

[slinky]

i guess im asking where are the guys that are not waiting for the lottery of that perfect girl.

That knife cuts both ways.