How many guys here would actually DATE a TS?

[kmersh]

I am happy to hear you have found each other and seem in a great place.

The way I wrote my message makes it sound like the dick is the only thing I'm interested in. That's not really what a meant I was just trying to describe my "type" of girl, and it is only a girl, I don't want to form a relationship with anyone other than a woman.

What comes first and foremost for me is that connection not from a physical perspective but and emotional one, I want to actually like the person I am in a relationship with (which is not the case right now for me), I want to enjoy spending time with them, I want us to share interests and laugh together and make the most of life.

You can't however just dismiss the physical side of things, if you are not sexually attracted to your partner there will always be problems down the line. That's where I was comin from here. I would love to form a relationship with someone that embodies all those attributes I mentioned above but is also someone that turns me on and I of course turn her on. My "type" is most certainly pre-op transwoman.

For the last few months I have been checking out dating sites, facebook groups other online resources (because frankly where I live, the trans community is non existent), for potential partners. But it is a exercise in frustration. I know how difficult it is for a trans woman to find a genuine guy who wants to for a relationship with her rather than just fulfill some kind of sexual fantasy, I really feel for trans women in this regard.

However I have learned that it is also hard for men who have those intentions to find that suitable partner too, most profiles out there are fakes with pictures of famous trans porn stars, you'll get a lot of girls you maybe don't recognise who'll strike up a conversation with you, send you a unsolicited risky picture, then two messages later ask how you want to send her money, paypal or apple pay. Finding a genuine trans woman who is looking for a relationship is next to impossible it appears.

So stories like yours are inspiring where you've both found what you are looking for, thanks for sharing

Where I live and have lived pretty much my entire life there is no Trans Community or so I thought, if I am completely honest, I always sort of considered Transwomen to be extremely rare, like Porn and Jerry Springer rare. I never expected in my life that I would ever meet a transgendered woman let alone a transgendered woman who happens to live in my hometown.

I am currently 45 and I lost my first wife to cancer about 15 years ago now, it took me a long while before I was ready to enter a new relationship and the first few dates I went on were all complete duds.

That was until I happened to randomly meet this woman online (I cannot remember the website at this point, I want to say it was Match.com, but it could have easily been another one), we talked on the phone a few times before meeting in person. It was amazing how we shared so many of the same likes, F1 (we had both been to a few of the F1 circuits throughout the world), Food and Wine, Travel, Botanic Gardens, Cars (especially E chassis BMWs) and just a number of other topics.

In fact we both got so lost in our conversations that it was only after we agreed to meet that she called me back to tell me that she was Trans and that she hoped I was cool with it. At first, I honestly was taken aback, partly because I did notice that she was Trans from her profile and partly because I did not know how to tell her that I find Transwoman attractive (I did not want her to think that I was a chaser).

So, I said the only thing that I could think of at the time, that we shared so many of the same likes we should at least meet, the worst is that we do not like each other, but being Trans is not a disqualifier at this stage.

She said that was more than fair, we hung up and the next evening we met for a dinner at a favorite Thai place of hers where she knew the owners personally. We ended up talking for the entire two hours and then went to a bar down the road where we ended up closing down the place because we talked so much, it was the most fun that I ever had on a date without question.

The rest is history, we had a number of dates before the Trans topic came up again and that is when she went into great detail about her being Trans, explaining to me what it meant for her and what I should expect if we continued dating.

We have been married for 9 years now (will be 10 in September) and I could not imagine my life without her anymore, we are not just husband/wife, we are also best friends.

My point, is that you might be surprised who lives down the street from you or a town or two away, I never expected to find a Transwoman in my town, it is not exactly a multi-cultural kind of place.

[obslam]

Where I live and have lived pretty much my entire life there is no Trans Community or so I thought, if I am completely honest, I always sort of considered Transwomen to be extremely rare, like Porn and Jerry Springer rare. I never expected in my life that I would ever meet a transgendered woman let alone a transgendered woman who happens to live in my hometown.

I am currently 45 and I lost my first wife to cancer about 15 years ago now, it took me a long while before I was ready to enter a new relationship and the first few dates I went on were all complete duds.

That was until I happened to randomly meet this woman online (I cannot remember the website at this point, I want to say it was Match.com, but it could have easily been another one), we talked on the phone a few times before meeting in person. It was amazing how we shared so many of the same likes, F1 (we had both been to a few of the F1 circuits throughout the world), Food and Wine, Travel, Botanic Gardens, Cars (especially E chassis BMWs) and just a number of other topics.

In fact we both got so lost in our conversations that it was only after we agreed to meet that she called me back to tell me that she was Trans and that she hoped I was cool with it. At first, I honestly was taken aback, partly because I did notice that she was Trans from her profile and partly because I did not know how to tell her that I find Transwoman attractive (I did not want her to think that I was a chaser).

So, I said the only thing that I could think of at the time, that we shared so many of the same likes we should at least meet, the worst is that we do not like each other, but being Trans is not a disqualifier at this stage.

She said that was more than fair, we hung up and the next evening we met for a dinner at a favorite Thai place of hers where she knew the owners personally. We ended up talking for the entire two hours and then went to a bar down the road where we ended up closing down the place because we talked so much, it was the most fun that I ever had on a date without question.

The rest is history, we had a number of dates before the Trans topic came up again and that is when she went into great detail about her being Trans, explaining to me what it meant for her and what I should expect if we continued dating.

We have been married for 9 years now (will be 10 in September) and I could not imagine my life without her anymore, we are not just husband/wife, we are also best friends.

My point, is that you might be surprised who lives down the street from you or a town or two away, I never expected to find a Transwoman in my town, it is not exactly a multi-cultural kind of place.

Great to hear, thanks very much.

I'm not sure the truth will reach the minds of the fantasists who like to tell us there are no trans people who live within a hundred miles of them, but those who know, know.

[Faenon]

Where I live and have lived pretty much my entire life there is no Trans Community or so I thought, if I am completely honest, I always sort of considered Transwomen to be extremely rare, like Porn and Jerry Springer rare. I never expected in my life that I would ever meet a transgendered woman let alone a transgendered woman who happens to live in my hometown.

I am currently 45 and I lost my first wife to cancer about 15 years ago now, it took me a long while before I was ready to enter a new relationship and the first few dates I went on were all complete duds.

That was until I happened to randomly meet this woman online (I cannot remember the website at this point, I want to say it was Match.com, but it could have easily been another one), we talked on the phone a few times before meeting in person. It was amazing how we shared so many of the same likes, F1 (we had both been to a few of the F1 circuits throughout the world), Food and Wine, Travel, Botanic Gardens, Cars (especially E chassis BMWs) and just a number of other topics.

In fact we both got so lost in our conversations that it was only after we agreed to meet that she called me back to tell me that she was Trans and that she hoped I was cool with it. At first, I honestly was taken aback, partly because I did notice that she was Trans from her profile and partly because I did not know how to tell her that I find Transwoman attractive (I did not want her to think that I was a chaser).

So, I said the only thing that I could think of at the time, that we shared so many of the same likes we should at least meet, the worst is that we do not like each other, but being Trans is not a disqualifier at this stage.

She said that was more than fair, we hung up and the next evening we met for a dinner at a favorite Thai place of hers where she knew the owners personally. We ended up talking for the entire two hours and then went to a bar down the road where we ended up closing down the place because we talked so much, it was the most fun that I ever had on a date without question.

The rest is history, we had a number of dates before the Trans topic came up again and that is when she went into great detail about her being Trans, explaining to me what it meant for her and what I should expect if we continued dating.

We have been married for 9 years now (will be 10 in September) and I could not imagine my life without her anymore, we are not just husband/wife, we are also best friends.

My point, is that you might be surprised who lives down the street from you or a town or two away, I never expected to find a Transwoman in my town, it is not exactly a multi-cultural kind of place.

That is a wonderful story, inspirational and inspiring. You are living the dream that we all have really, no matter which way you lean, we all just want to meet someone that is more than just a life partner, someone we are truly in love with. The fact that she is trans is inconsequential, which is perfect. You have found this after tragedy of losing your first wife too, I am so sorry for your loss.

I wish there wasn't such a stigma attached to men who are trans attracted, often just branded "chaser", I understand why it's there, I understand that a lot are just there for the sexual fantasy, but it just makes it hard for those of us that want more than a quick roll in the hay to date. If I ever get out of my dysfunctional marriage I will look to follow a similar route but doubt I would get as lucky as you have.