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11-06-2008 #51
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meow!
wanna see what i'm up to this week?
http://www.youtube.com/tsntx
http://www.gayborhood.tv/shows.cfm?view=2
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11-06-2008 #52
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Originally Posted by tsmandy
All of you girls, who post here, and have webcams, pay websites, parties, shows and all that, have been blessed and talented enough to know what you want and go through with seeing it to realization. A lot of girls need guidance, and might not even know the resources that are available to them.
The real Trans World goes by the "Land of Opportunity'' mentality, It is a highly competitive world, and just like in the capitalistic world, Some Products become household names, while others are never noticed or no light is ever thrust upon them.
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11-06-2008 #53
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Mod, with all due respect, If you have learned it is a total mood killer, then stop asking! Duh!!
"I like poetry, long walks on the beach and poking dead things with a stick"
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11-06-2008 #54Originally Posted by KiraHarden
~Kisses.
HTG
HURDLE #1: If guys would learn to stop over complementing, and not compliment every tranny (or girl) they see and talk to (so a girl would feel it was sincere and that she's special), maybe they'd get somewhere but a dead end! lol
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11-06-2008 #55
It's sad that whenever any male brings up a valid point, it gets dismissed with various sorts of sidetracking, rather than dealt with seriously. Usually with some sort of "you can't know anything because you're not a transsexual" quip, or, as in this case, merely dismissed - as if there's no thread drift on 87.43% of the threads on this site.
And any girls who go out every nite, go clubbing, do drugs, have no real job except for porn and/or prostitution (or even derive any substantial portions of their incomes from such) aren't leading "normal" lives.GMAFB - all one has to do is look at this site and EVERY DAY see girls who are living in the alternate T universe. You'd probably have problem finding a single page where there wasn't at least one thread on it evidencing this.
And ask anyone who has to deal with these divas on a professional level (like producers), and I can't think of a single one who would tell you that in general T-pornstars ( or GG pornstars either) have any real sense of reality.
Or even ask any of the party promoters about the reliability of booked performers showing up, or the responsibility they take towards their bookings.
Just because you don't know about it, it doesn't mean it doesn't exist: http://www.hungangels.com/board/view...=asc&start=158
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11-06-2008 #56
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Re: What's the big deal with a tgirl's boy name?
Originally Posted by flabbybody
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11-06-2008 #57
When somebody asks us our "real" name, is basically a way to delegitimatize our personalities, label us in their minds and disregard our transgender situation (which is that WE WERE BORN WOMEN with body and social challenges).
Contrary to what they would say (you know, the "sure, I respect you"), the intriguing questions come from their deep and subconscious believes that we are not the women we portray to be, that we are not "real", and that all this time it has been a dude orchestrating our transformation behind scenes.
So No, I will not tell anyone. How on earth will I set myself up for failure? Being accepted as a woman cost me everything. Should now step backwards for the sake of a relationship? Trust me, I have seen it. As soon as the name is out... EVERYTHING changes. Mistakes in pronouns, double name, blah blah blah...
Xoxoxo
Julie
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11-06-2008 #58Originally Posted by slinky
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11-06-2008 #59
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I cant understand why you would want to know there boy name, just sounds stupid to me.
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11-06-2008 #60Originally Posted by Hara_Juku Tgirl
Some of the conservative judges in upstate NY were, FOR YEARS- running around requiring girls be POSTOP first in order to get a name change. If they were married to a GG, these judges demanded (without legal basis for this demand) to get divorced first. The ACLU had to step in, at least a couple of times- to fight it, and one time it was with a FtM who passed so well that the judge was out of his mind in expecting him to go postop first.
A lot of this I blame on judges not always being lawyers, there are a lot of judges who are probably good people- but simply are clueless when it comes to the law. In MOST STATES getting a name changed is really really cut & dry. As long as you're 1) an adult, 2) not a sex offender, 3) not changing your name to defraud someone- you can pick just about any name you want. I could, in theory, tell a judge I want my name to be "Shit For Brains" and- although insane, as long as I am not doing it to hide off of sex offender lists, or to try to sneak my way out of a pile of debt- then that's all the law actually cares about. The law is not there to be my mommy, they're not there to make sure "its a normal name"- and in virtually all cases, the law doesn't have any extra procedures or steps for people who happen to be trans.
As far as the letter of the law is concerned you don't need a letter, don't need a therapist, don't need to be single, don't need to have a formal diagnosis, don't need to be fulltime, don't need to pass, don't need to be on hrt. Yet a lot of judges feel the need to inject themselves in there anyway, either due to ignorance or spite (or both).
My name change experiences weren't ideal, I actually had to MOVE to get my name changed. I couldn't even file where I originally lived, the clerks kept throwing the petition out behind my back after I'd leave (as in the form would go right in the trash and never got onto the legal record). When I did file, in another state- the judge was polite but grilled me on a bunch of things the law doesn't care about (stuff like whether i had kids, whether I am married, whether I am fulltime, how long i had been on hrt, etc etc etc). I have no idea what the judge would have said if I had "given the wrong answers." I can only imagine what would have happened to a girl seeing that judge who had a full family of 4, GG wife, didn't pass, didn't have a diagnosis, or wasn't fulltime yet... but my case was so "nonsensationalist" that it wasn't hard outside of all the irrelevant questions, to get the petition granted. The judge was comfortable seeing me get the name changed, and I think that was a big reason why it went so smoothly.
After I went through that part, I was given a very long lecture that I really didn't need about being fulltime. The judge made this long argument that the name change process exists to avoid confusion in the public record, and that it would be legally wrong for me to add confusion to the picture by alternating what name I use or how I present myself... for me it was a moot point, I've been fulltime for years and that's not going to change in the future- but the judge was, as far as the letter of the law was concerned, injecting stuff that really wasn't in there. No state OR COUNTRY, as far as I know, cares whether a trans citizen is part time after getting their name changed. The implications were that I would be breaking the law or the court order by alternating either, there was no legal basis behind that but I wasn't about to argue with the guy (even if the law had allowed him to place a stipulation like that into the court order, which he didn't -this was just an oral lecture- I'd have agreed with it, not like I'd ever be presenting any other way).
I anticipated the judge would assume "the process is different if the person is trans" and had the letter of the law printed out and with me when I went to the hearing. I didn't end up using it, and it probably would have angered the guy if I had (no one likes being told they're wrong, especially authority figures). I advise anyone out there who wants to change their name, but hasn't yet- to do the same (have the law on hand to show the judge you meet all the requirements, and that there are no other requirements based on whether your trans- but only use it as a tactic of absolute last resort).
I would also say, if you want to try stealth life- file in a state that does not require public notice. In some states in order to change your name as an adult, you have to place an ad in the legal section of the newspapers to say "so in so was __, is now ___" (paraphrasing, not exact). No one in their right mind reads all those legal notices anyway, so its not like people will see them BUT it does risk people finding your old name by googling you. The paper might not be online today, but there is an effort all across the US to digitize newspapers going back decades and put them online for free browsing via text searching. Some states might also require it go in a paper that is popular in the jurisdiction, which would increase the odds of the information getting online.
And maybe its easier to withdraw from life
With all of its misery and wretched lies
If we're dead when tomorrow's gone
The Big Machine will just move on
Still we cling afraid we'll fall
Clinging like the memory which haunts us all