A couple of TS party observations

[clarknog]

I had the good fortune of being off from work last night, so I went to Sunny's party and Allanah's party. I had fun at each, but felt the need to speak on a couple of things.

First off, let me just say Allanah is a sweetheart. Very genuine, and stunning to boot. I had the pleasure of talking to her for about 20 minutes or so. Very down to earth, not what you might expect from someone with a personna is grand as hers. Very refreshing. (OK, I will stop gushing.) I look forward to attending more of her parties in the future.

The other observation is bothersome. There are a large number of pros at the parties. And by pros, I mean escorts. I am sure this topic has been broached before, but since I am a newbie, allow me some lattitude. I understand it is a good opportunity for an escort to get clients, but Damn! I just want to have a couple of drinks, talk to a young lady or two and enjoy the night. I don't want every conversation to head to one of going someplace and spending a little (or alot) of money.

And I am sure every girl in the place is not on the clock, but after a couple of those conversations, you stop making eye contact and lay low. It gets to the point where you leave earlier than you want so you don't have to keep saying "I'm not paying for it." I was fortunate to have a cool conversation or two, but that was between the "No thank yous" and "Not what I'm looking for right nows".

Has this been anyone else's experience? Any tips on avoiding this? Anything I'm doing wrong? (Hate to think I look like a mark. LOL) And ladies, feel free to chime in with your opinions. All comments, solutions, jokes at my expense are welcome.

Clark - No glasses

[Crawler]

Fantastic.

[flabbybody]

probably cause you were a new face and the girls get a little excited thinking you could be an outta towner with some big cash to spend. being approached is part of the ritual.
you'll get less scrutiny the more you attend. and you'll find yourself becoming more imune to it when it happens

[slinky]

OK, if no one else is gonna say it I will: very few transsexuals go to these events looking to find a husband. Generally speaking, for them, they are going to work. While that's not 100% the case, it's close enough to it that you'd might as well assume it is and be pleasantly surprised if things turn out otherwise.

Now, this doesn't mean that some of these girls don't also hook up at these parties "not pay for play". If a girl is drunk, horny, and can't get a paid date, she may elect to grab some guy and throw him a freebie. And it happens fairly often (even if that seems to contradict my earlier statements). But that's not why they came to the party: their original intent was to work.

Depending on the girl, this can be more or less "hardcore". Some are just looking to make a few bucks giving lapdances and others are leaving for full "dates" half a dozen times a night.

Now on to the tips part: if you can deal with it, go to the parties reasonably often so your face gets known, and each time let it be known that you don't trick. At some point, the girls will get the point that you don't trick, and if they want to talk to you it isn't going to end up in a date. What will then happen is the one's who are only looking to talk to guys who are there to trick will simply avoid you, and the one's who talk to you (while they still might hope you'll change your mind and spring for a date) will know that if they sit and talk to you, they shouldn't expect it to happen.

I know that's the point that I'm at. I go to a ton of the events from just about all the party promoters and the girls pretty much know that they can flirt with me or whatever, but it's not going to end up with them getting paid. (Of course, my statements are slightly disingenuous because they have other ulterior motives since they all want free photos, and a lot have come to think I take better photos of them than anyone else does, so of course they are going to suck up to me even if behind my back they can't stand me. I don't know what to tell you about how you could deal with that part).

But one thing I always make sure of: I am always very cognizant of what's going on around me while I'm talking to the girls. And if I see a potential client making his way towards the girl, I immediately break off whatever conversation I'm having with her and allow her to engage a guy who may end up putting dollars into her pocket. I think this is a point which make a big difference, because the girls know that while they may not be making any $ talking to me, I'm also not going to stop them from making money off of anyone else. See, you have to understand that there is an opportunity cost of talking to you (and oddly enough, this seems to be the only time the girl understand that economic concept) and the girls know if they spend a lot of time talking to one guy and get no $, they could have spent that time talking to a different guy who would have done so.

Another tip: there's a bunch of guys who are regulars at these events. Make friends with some. The girls know that there are guys in these groups who pay and one's who don't, and it's fairly easy to get associated as one of the guys who comes to "hang out with the guys, talk to the girls, but that's it". Also, many of these guys have know a lot of these girls for years and will both tell you things you might want to know, and even introduce you to some of the girls.

[dan_drade]

Well said Slinky

[Jonny29]

Hey Guy,
It happens to everyone. You a guy. You a mark. When I go, I know who is working( 95% of the girls)
and I admit I am not friendly to someone I am not into who is working, yet they get offended. I am not sorry if I dont buy a girl a drink if i am not interested. What is the point? Then they quote a price instead of a drink .c.mon. don't go away offended , just go away.

Dude, if you are not looking to pay, you must be very very patient. Some gems exist but for me it has been at a ratio of 20-1

Hope you fair better

[billy67ny]

I've been to both Allanah's and Sunny's parties. Even though girls will always be girls I get more upset over the high priced, water-down drinks and the 8 to 10 dollar beers than anything else.
Drinks at Allanah's parties are pretty reasonable but Sunny's are pretty high.

[clarknog]

Gentlemen, some very good insight and tips in there. Thanks for that. And as for patience, I have the patience of Job. I can wait.

Any more insight is welcome, especially from the ladies. What's your perspective?

Clark - No glasses

[Dina Delicious]

i always strive for a very diverse crowd and im sure slinky will back me on this
I HAVE THE MOST DIVERSE CROWD THAN ANY PARTY

just be yourself and have fun
just say no !!! lol they will get the hint

DD

[harlemzfinest]

hey i've said no so many times but I have been lucky a few times where girls have been a)so upset that they aren't making any money, b) drunk to the point that they just want to chill with some1 and c) are pretty damn horny that after having a lengthy convo being told that I am so sweet and then being invited back to their home for a freebie. It does happen just got to work your game.