Should you make a client your husband/BF?

[sexyshana]

very tricky question...

[SexxxyJade]

You all are right thats my personal opinion when it comes to paying prostitutes. I can't knock everybodies hustle because of course some of you thats how you get your money. I just could never see myself paying for something that I believe I can get for free. I wasn't trying to get anybody upset Jade just stating my opinion and Im not the one to knock whatever anybody chooses to do. But if a guy is paying you why would you get in a relationship with him. If he starts having problems with you whose to say he won't pay somebody else to replace you.

If a guy isnt paying you, and is just a normal guy that your dating, whose to say that if he starts to have a problem with you that he wont go behind your back and cheat or maybe even dump you and replace you with somebody else.

[slinky]

This is a little off topic, so take it for what it's worth (and the "you" is the general 'you" not anyone in particular):

You meet a guy somewhere. He's sort of cute, maybe a little funny, you kind of like him... a little. You're horny and want to get laid. You know this guy is never going to be a client.

But you've conditioned yourself that sex equals money, so even though you'd "get something out of it", you won't get yourself laid because "no one rides for free". You've cut yourself off not only from "long term relationships" because you are in the business, but short term one's as well. You've gotten so preoccupied with getting paid for everything that if some guy asks you out to lunch you wanna know how much he's going to pay you for it. Now, there's nothing wrong with getting paid by tricks to do anything they want done, but every single relationship with a guy doesn't have to be a trick just because he's not going to be your husband.

Now, I'm not talking about doing things with guys just because they don't want to pay. what I'm talking about is not doing things you want to do because you're not getting paid for it. The reason I bring this up is that I've seen a lot of working girls get themselves into this habit, and usually they get burnt out not that long afterwords. Some of the most stable working girls I've met have always had some "safe" fuckbuddy's so that they could have some sort of "normal" (yeah, I hate that word too) relations with a guy that wasn't tricking.

[tsmandy]

You all are right thats my personal opinion when it comes to paying prostitutes. I can't knock everybodies hustle because of course some of you thats how you get your money. I just could never see myself paying for something that I believe I can get for free.

Then what do you believe in paying for? Do you cook all your meals? Why go to a restaurant when you could do it yourself?

[lisaparadise]

Ive noticed alot of topics lately about escorts and relationships, but mainly the questions were asked from a guys perspective. Like Can you turn a hoe into a housewife, or because you escort can u still have a relationship etc. So my question is focused towards the ladies.
Girls, do you think its ok to start dating a client on a personal level, meaing a guy who has come see you with a monetary donation, maybe you start to like him, where should you cross the line? I also want to know if someone has done this or not and how was the experience.
Ill post my opinion later.

hmmm well for about 2 years now i had a guy calling me sending flowers gifts etc then he stred coming to see me at the strip joint where i worked and he would bring me coffee and a present as well as alot of money on private dances,then he started renting me for 2 hours every week for a year before i dated him,he bought me a 58 inch tv for xmas new leather living room furniture for mothers day and for my birthday a new 2008 ford mustang convertable and well as 3 trips to mexico, florida and mexico again in december.he worshops me and my kids and treats us very very well,he fell in love with me the first time he layed eyes on me.and now i have stopped stripping i do still see clients andc i know it hurts him more then you could imagine but he also knows what i do for a living and knew what he was getting into,lets just say that when i enrolled into school for january in a 3 year course for a counseller working with the glbt as i have a job here in my hometown when i finish he was like a kid in a candy store lol so yes its a rarety that this can happen but hey whats the difference where ya meet?

[hungone]

Thats true too but tell me Jade would you rather take a chance on a regular guy or a trick. Ever heard the saying you can't turn a trick into a real man. Paying to them is probably part of the attraction.

[TsVanessa69]

So you start dating your John. What happens when you catch your man going to another escort down the road? That would suck.

That was my fear, so I never got into that. I lost a few staedy clients because of that. After so many sessions with them, and maybe sometimes you cut a deal on the price to be nice, or give them a little extra time then they want to turn that into a relationship of sorts.

[PrincessaGianna]

Ive noticed alot of topics lately about escorts and relationships, but mainly the questions were asked from a guys perspective. Like Can you turn a hoe into a housewife, or because you escort can u still have a relationship etc. So my question is focused towards the ladies.
Girls, do you think its ok to start dating a client on a personal level, meaing a guy who has come see you with a monetary donation, maybe you start to like him, where should you cross the line? I also want to know if someone has done this or not and how was the experience.
Ill post my opinion later.

Falling in love during your career while you are trying to make and save money is a no no, and whether it was the Geisha or Venetian Courtesans of old or the modern transsexual escort, falling in love with or getting emotionally attached client can lead to an emotional and financial downfall... Even falling seriously in love or getting attached to someone who is not a client while working can lead to disaster. There are so many reasons why. If it's with a client, you lose control of the situation when you fall in love, and you may want to, and that's just as well... But don't be upset when you find yourself the victim of your own emotions when something goes awry.

It's ok to like a client a build a relationship of trust, understanding, and passion, but when it becomes love and emotion it's finished, and if you don't get out of it, then so will your career.

I have experienced both situations where I have grown attached to a client and where I have grown too attached to a non-client while my career was in it's beginning and in both cases, it has caused a lot of emotional turmoil and financial loss in the end.

[PrincessaGianna]

You all are right thats my personal opinion when it comes to paying prostitutes. I can't knock everybodies hustle because of course some of you thats how you get your money. I just could never see myself paying for something that I believe I can get for free.

Then what do you believe in paying for? Do you cook all your meals? Why go to a restaurant when you could do it yourself?

Well put.

[ANIYAH]

I think this all depends if and when i met a guy and he gave me money ...For sex on our first meeting ...Then with me the first impression is the lasting impression ....I would always expect money from the man everytime i saw him .....Now ive i have dated men who have paided other transsexuals and never paided me ....This type of relationship doesnt bother me ...because you cant hate someone for there past ....and my past hasnt been all flowers and pansies