Should you make a client your husband/BF?

[EyeCumInPiece]

My thing is why would you wanna date somebody anyway that had to pay a prostitute to get some. Obviously they lames if they gotta pay for it.

So, lemme get this str8, if your pay for sex, your *ahem*.....lame???

I personally dont pay for sex, but thats not to say that i never will in the future. You never know what the future holds. Some men pay for sex because they're shy and have a hard time getting it the old fashion way. Some men pay for sex because they're fat, bald, greying, ect. Some men do it just for the fuck of it. They dont want to be hassled with all the bullshit that goes down during the "dating" phase of a relationship. They just want NSA fun. Just because me or you or anybody else doesnt pay directly (your spending $ on chicks one way or the other), it doesnt make us any more or less 'lame' as the next man. Your making an absurd assumption and taking a cheap shot at alot of guys on the board. That, my friend, is LAME!

[slinky]

I've dated a lot of working girls, but never one which I was a client of first. In general, I think that's the best practice for the girls as well.

[blckhaze]

I say no.

Chances are the guy will never let it go, and itll be an issue forever. Both people with have to let go of ALOT for it to work, more than your average couples.

Any good person deserves a solid mate, but I dont think a client/escort relationship is the best starting ground, for something lasting at least.

[Justawannabe]

My gut reaction would be no, it's a bad idea.

Sadly, I find that hard to really back up with anything other than a gut feeling. Strangely, feelings develop in the oddest circumstances. It should be possible to do this.

There would of course be issues with him being okay with you still working.

There would also be issues with trusting him, though I'm a bit surprised that Vanessa seems to feel everyone who comes to her cheats on someone. Lots of reasons to go see a professional, and they don't all involve cheating.

Of course that's all theoretical for me, I've been alone for a couple of long stretches in my life and thought about seeing someone... but usually about the time I would be willing to pay for it I find someone. Still, I could imagine wanting to pay someone if you needed intro to a new experience and wanted to feel you were in the hands of an expert...

Sean

[SexxxyJade]

My thing is why would you wanna date somebody anyway that had to pay a prostitute to get some. Obviously they lames if they gotta pay for it.

Men who pay for escort are actually smart and far from lame. If they are married or in a serious rekationship its away to get some on the side without having a crazy mistress all in your business calling u etc. If a guy has a certian fantasy that his wife or gf mught not be into, an escort woukd fulfil his needs. Its much easier to hire an escort when ur just plain ole horny than trying to ocurt a girl, take her out treat her nice etc when all you wanna do is fuck in the first place. I dont think its lame, I think ur lame for saying that

Theres is this sterotype that only fat old bald ugly guys pay for sex, but ud be suprised at sime of the guys we come in contact with, ur just making an elemetry decison on something you know little about.

[SexxxyJade]

And why arent more ladies responding to this thread? Yall bytches dont wanna answer my question?????

[kensterling]

I have to agree with Jade on the type of clients and escort sees. I have been a bi male escort for the past thirteen years, and I would say the majority of my clients have been classy, intelligent, respectful people. I have done men, women and couples, and I must say, I have been hired by some very attractive women. Like the men, they are looking for something specific and are happy to pay to get it. I do alot of couples and they hire out because they don't want to try the kinky stuff with freinds and mess up relationships. Sometimes guys are just experimenting and want to be discreet.
I know Jade wanted to hear from the lady escorts, but I did date a women who was a client for awhile. She was a repeat and we hit it off so after one session I asked her to get a drink and it went from there. It was cool for awhile, personaly we got along well, but now that I look back on it, it was a free hookup for her, a chance to explore, swinging, couples, bi guys, etc. I knew she had another boyfriend at the time, and I was cool with that. It ended after we had a threesome with another guy, she just sent me a text, "dont contact me anymore". Being a pro, I didn't , but I think she had her fun, now she was going back to a striaght normal guy who was not an escort.
I would never tell any escort not to date a client, as I have had wealthy guys who wanted the same thing, but I think people in the "striaght life" don't see us escorts as real people, they think they want us and the life, but I think it's a little to tough for them once they see it up close. They can't get past you fucking other people for money. Just my opinion.

[62des]

I think so. I just think when the tables are turned as the question you asked, none of the escorts want to contradict themselves as being escorts and wondering if their relationship material yet probably wouldn't date a client which is pretty equal to me. There are many different reasons why us guys will pay for sex of course. If I was rich what the hell is $200+ to get some ass? We cant look at a girl on the street and say I bet she likes it in the ass or she's into that dominatrix stuff that's why some guys might pay. Because they get exactly what y want without the hassle.

[trish]

Can your trick become your hubby? Of course it can happen. There’s nothing about the man who is your trick that intrinsically renders him unworthy of marriage. I personally recommend keeping your personal relations separate from your professional ones. Otherwise things get confusing fast. At what point in time, for example, did the professional relationship dissolve? Or if other clients perceive that another is getting favors, try explaining to them that one getting favors isn’t really a client anymore. When I was escorting I always kept it very very professional. But it was just my approach. As far as the question goes; yeah…it possible and I don’t doubt it actually happens (indeed I know of one example). I’ve never seen statistics on it, I presume it’s rather rare.

[tsmandy]

Hi Jade good question,

I've done it before, and I know many other girls who have as well. In my case I started seeing this guy regularly, couple times a week. Then I hit a rough spot financially and he stepped in and helped me out. We started hanging out more and more, and he stopped paying my hourly rate. It started to get weird for me when after knowing me less than a couple months he started telling me how much he loved me etc...He was an alright guy and I never wanted to hurt his feelings, but I was certainly not in love with him. As time went on he gave me less and less in terms of gifts and donations and expected me to hang out with him and mess around for free. Ultimately, that really started to bother me, because he was still a trick, even if he was a trick that I liked (I like most of the guys I see anyways).

The final straw came when I introduced him to a good friend of mine who was visiting from NY, an hour later he called and left this pathetic message on my machine about how much he would love to have a threesome with us, or just a date alone with my friend. It was bad enough that he wasn't paying me regularly, but when he acted like a trick and assumed that all of my friends were providers, it really put things in perspective for me and I never talked to him again.

I'm not saying it is impossible, but I've known so many GG providers who have dated guys they originally saw as clients, and it never ends well. Although I do have a client in Seattle who has a sugar daddy/dating relationship with an escort and they seem to be a good match for each other. But I only see them for a couple of hours every couple of months and only for an evening of play.

But who cares what I think, it you meet someone who makes you happy who cares how you met.