Should you make a client your husband/BF?

[ANIYAH]

Ive noticed alot of topics lately about escorts and relationships, but mainly the questions were asked from a guys perspective. Like Can you turn a hoe into a housewife, or because you escort can u still have a relationship etc. So my question is focused towards the ladies.
Girls, do you think its ok to start dating a client on a personal level, meaing a guy who has come see you with a monetary donation, maybe you start to like him, where should you cross the line? I also want to know if someone has done this or not and how was the experience.
Ill post my opinion later.

Falling in love during your career while you are trying to make and save money is a no no, and whether it was the Geisha or Venetian Courtesans of old or the modern transsexual escort, falling in love with or getting emotionally attached client can lead to an emotional and financial downfall... Even falling seriously in love or getting attached to someone who is not a client while working can lead to disaster. There are so many reasons why. If it's with a client, you lose control of the situation when you fall in love, and you may want to, and that's just as well... But don't be upset when you find yourself the victim of your own emotions when something goes awry.

It's ok to like a client a build a relationship of trust, understanding, and passion, but when it becomes love and emotion it's finished, and if you don't get out of it, then so will your career.

I have experienced both situations where I have grown attached to a client and where I have grown too attached to a non-client while my career was in it's beginning and in both cases, it has caused a lot of emotional turmoil and financial loss in the end.

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[BeardedOne]

Unlike others who seem to have done so, I didn't vote in the poll as it wasn't addressed to the fans/clients, but to the gurls themselves.

My thing is why would you wanna date somebody anyway that had to pay a prostitute to get some. Obviously they lames if they gotta pay for it.

Well, this tripe starts down the long, winding road of have to/need to/want to/prefer to. That wasn't the lady's question.

Theres is this sterotype that only fat old bald ugly guys pay for sex, but ud be suprised at sime of the guys we come in contact with, ur just making an elemetry decison on something you know little about.

Well, I'm not bald...yet.

bunp

1337 4 'Bump'?

So you start dating your John. What happens when you catch your man going to another escort down the road? That would suck.

Relationships are what you make of them. Some people have open relationships, or are poly. One would assume that some ground rules might be discussed along the way and various trust issues addressed. I've been in such relationships where my lovers had other lovers (Who had other lovers, etc.), sometimes it works. An interesting reference, and one that some close friends and lovers of mine tried once, was the wall of relationship connections on the first season of the show "The L Word".

It's been good to see the viewpoints of the ladies for a change. This subject comes up from time to time, under varying guises of inquiry, but it is generally from the male/courter point of view and rarely from the female/courtesan angle (A nod to Ken for his response, showing that it is not only the gurls that face this issue).

TW ("The Wife") once told me that my greatest problem in relationships is that I '...keep [my] heart in [my] dick...', thereby getting emotionally attached to pretty much anyone that I had any kind of intimate relations with. I guess it's an extreme sort of self-esteem issue that I have. If you suck my dick, then you =MUST= truly love me, right?

With that in mind, it is no wonder that I feel as close as I do to the gurls that I have been with, both socially and sexually, since I began exploring the T-world. Some have even returned the feeling, in their own way, during our times together. From lighthearted chatter and gentle non-sexual touching, to one gurl that had a fine dinner with me after the play was done and just spent some nice, relaxing time with me.

True, I sometimes wonder what a long term relationship might be with one or more of these gurls (Remember, I am poly, so the concept of multiple relationships tweaks the problem exponentially), but I don't kid myself that what I am renting today might be mine for 'free' tomorrow or, for that matter, that she is even remotely interested in spending anything beyond commercial time with me. And I have to look to my own policy of not seeing anyone intimately from my workplace (I am a firm believer in the 'Don't shit where you eat' philosophy of office dating). In the end, these gurls meet their potential suiters at 'work'.

[slinky]

Ive noticed alot of topics lately about escorts and relationships, but mainly the questions were asked from a guys perspective. Like Can you turn a hoe into a housewife, or because you escort can u still have a relationship etc. So my question is focused towards the ladies.
Girls, do you think its ok to start dating a client on a personal level, meaing a guy who has come see you with a monetary donation, maybe you start to like him, where should you cross the line? I also want to know if someone has done this or not and how was the experience.
Ill post my opinion later.

Falling in love during your career while you are trying to make and save money is a no no, and whether it was the Geisha or Venetian Courtesans of old or the modern transsexual escort, falling in love with or getting emotionally attached client can lead to an emotional and financial downfall... Even falling seriously in love or getting attached to someone who is not a client while working can lead to disaster. There are so many reasons why. If it's with a client, you lose control of the situation when you fall in love, and you may want to, and that's just as well... But don't be upset when you find yourself the victim of your own emotions when something goes awry.

It's ok to like a client a build a relationship of trust, understanding, and passion, but when it becomes love and emotion it's finished, and if you don't get out of it, then so will your career.

I have experienced both situations where I have grown attached to a client and where I have grown too attached to a non-client while my career was in it's beginning and in both cases, it has caused a lot of emotional turmoil and financial loss in the end.

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Unintentially funny post of the day?

[SexxxyJade]

lol