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07-13-2008 #41
I have to agree with some parts of the above posts.
Calling an activity gay makes no sense to me. Let's go back a few decades and you would have folks saying a man is gay if he's not on top, same logic. Gay is activity between two people of the same gender (or sex if you don't believe in non-genital gender). I mean we don't say cocksucking is a gay activity and a woman doing it is just a gay man in denial.
Anyway... too tired to make much sense... so I'll shut up now.
Sean
Just one more nice guy finishing last...
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07-13-2008 #42
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Originally Posted by Justawannabe
However, if a man receives anal sex, using either a penis or a dildo (a faux-phallus), then that act might be considered as 'gay' because a penis, or penis-like object, is required. In other words, receiving a dildo up your ass might be 'gay' because it is a simulation of having a cock up your ass. Similarly, if a guy sucks a cock, then that would be construed as a 'gay' activity under this definition.
If you're so comfortable with your sexuality that you get easily annoyed by gay threads, please quietly move on. There is no need for flaming.
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07-13-2008 #43
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Originally Posted by vietboy
It's not my position that anyone should feel ashamed about being anything; rather, it is merely my position that no one should have to endure a label that another person forces upon him or her because of another person's perception.
Your position that a married woman would consider her husband gay if he asked her to top him is an over-generalization and should be avoided. Need I remind you that mainstream society still views sex with a pre-op TS to be gay sex, even if you are the one doing the topping? Are you comfortable with that?
If we want to further this with precise definitions, then it should be noted that a homosexual is defined as human being who desires intimate relations with members of the same sex, exclusivesly, just as a heterosexual is a human being who desires intimate relations with members of the opposite sex, exclusively.
While a member of this board, I've read that pre-op TS women should be viewed as women, period...but I've also read statements by some people that any man who desires sexual relations with a pre-op TS is not 100% straight....so what can we deduce? Are we to believe that sex between a man and a pre-op should strictly be viewed as sex between man and woman, regardless of the acts involved, and therefore heterosexual sex....or do we believe that sex between a man and a pre-op TS indicates, at the very least, that man is bisexual...or do we leave these considerations aside and allow those involved to determine what nomenclature best suits them and we should simply resist the desire to pigeon-hole someone with a term that WE think fits them best?
What do you think?
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07-13-2008 #44
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Who cares its just getting off.....
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07-13-2008 #45Originally Posted by GinX
I find it especially ironic when t-people, who demand the right to define themselves, get upset when the people who love them ask to define themselves.
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07-13-2008 #46
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To The Men Of TS In Light Oof recnet Comments
I'm a rookie poster but also a husband , father, and an educator.
I have followed the recent post from Danielle and the replies. Danielle I commend you and support you and your post.
As part of a Masters class in Human Sexuality a few years ago, I chose for my topic, Violence against Transexuals. An article, detaling the trial of the scum bags who killed Gwen Arajuo made me discussed and saddened. How could people treat another human being like this? What my research uncovered is that, there was not much that had been written about violence against transexuals or transgendered individuals. I searched the Internet for weeks looking for information. I did find news articles about the transexual who was, assaulted, beaten, or murdered. Some crimes in which the perpertrator was found, some unfound. The more I read the more upset I got. My surprise was that there were not specific studies or long researched articles about the violence that was committed and, by the way, is still occuring.
My research brought me to the multiple Internet porn sites but also brought me to sites were transexual/transgendered individuals either had a voice or an advocate. I tried to learn as much as I could about TS/TG individuals, lifestyle and communities and I am still learning.
To make a long story short, what did I learn? I learned that as a human race, certain factions of it do not, and will not, accept people because they are different. Xenophobia is the term. Look at history and it shows how violent people can be toward other human beings because they are different. Let me list some examples that have had in impact on our society.
The plight of American Indians, Japanese-Americans, Emmitt Till, Brandon Teena, Matthew Shepard, Amanico Corrales, Gwen Araujo. Forgive me for those I did not list. All these people were persecuted because of one thing: they were different in some way. Someone or some people took it upon themselves to try and rid the world, or at least their town, of these people. Unfortunately incidents like these continue.
I have nothing against the woman or people who post here, unless of course you are mean an unaccepting. If you are on here to ridicule, demean, and put down the folks who do post here, you are a bully. Not a stong one I might add. You are no better then the people who persecuted the groups of people I mentioned above.
I will leave you all with a quote from George Sanatyana - " Those who cannot remember the past are doomed to repeat it."
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07-13-2008 #47
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Originally Posted by TS DANIELLE FOXXX
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07-13-2008 #48
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Originally Posted by TS DANIELLE FOXXX
Remember Helen Reddy
I am woman, hear me roar
In numbers too big to ignore
And I know too much to go back an' pretend
'cause I've heard it all before
And I've been down there on the floor
No one's ever gonna keep me down again
CHORUS
Oh yes I am wise
But it's wisdom born of pain
Yes, I've paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to, I can do anything
I am strong (strong)
I am invincible (invincible)
I am woman
You can bend but never break me
'cause it only serves to make me
More determined to achieve my final goal
And I come back even stronger
Not a novice any longer
'cause you've deepened the conviction in my soul
CHORUS
I am woman watch me grow
See me standing toe to toe
As I spread my lovin' arms across the land
But I'm still an embryo
With a long long way to go
Until I make my brother understand
Oh yes I am wise
But it's wisdom born of pain
Yes, I've paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to I can face anything
I am strong (strong)
I am invincible (invincible)
I am woman
Oh, I am woman
I am invincible
I am strong
FADE
I am woman
I am invincible
I am strong
I am woman
Roar on!!!
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07-14-2008 #49
vietboy...
You actually helped illustrate my point pretty well... We're back to the old saying a man who fucks ten thousand women is straight as an arrow until he so much as looks at one cock, then he's gay... and in most of the posters views around here, always was, just in denial. That's what bugs me.
It's not that there is anything wrong with being gay. It's that it is being portrayed like some for of contaminant... one part per billion is enough to call it 'gay'. There is 100% pure straight... and everyone else is 'gay'.
Oh and in your example above... anal play comes with fingers tongues and other implements too... so perfectly possible for a woman to be the actor in that play. Still a 'gay' activity? Two women using a strap on between them are NOT have straight sex, even if a dildo is a penis substitute.
Two men kissing is gay to me... because two men are doing it, same applies to every other activity. It's whos involved, not what they are doing.
- I don't think I was nasty in my previous post so not sure where your telling me to move on...
Sean
Just one more nice guy finishing last...
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07-17-2008 #50
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My 2 cents:
-The label gay is very relative. To "mainstream" society everyone on this board IS gay...even if you are just getting excited by looking at the pictures of a TS. To a ts woman she is a woman, as are others who are transitioning from M2F. I doubt many TS girls consider they boyfriend gay, but the moment he really pisses them off you can bet that the word fagot will be thrown about.. and if anyone should have a good understanding of the effect such name calling has it would be someone who almost certainly was called that at some point. .
If my female partner really gets off on liking my ass and sticking her finger in there does that make her gay? And what if I enjoy it? My point is that it is such a relative term that it really shouldn't matter
-A lot of men who crave sex with a TS have trouble with their own fantasies. It is never easy to want something that society does not consider normal...and instead of accepting it as just sex they add guilt to the equation. Guilt that they then turn into resentment towards the very object they desire. Humans are very strange beasts. We want to be part of the group and to be seen as "normal" for the most part, so we create a persona for the world, at the same time who we really are and what we want is often in conflict with the image we present. It really shouldn't be a surprise then that so many clients of TS escorts are conflicted and might not behave or treat the girls as they should. This does not make it right or ok, but does explain it. Add to the mix fantasies and pornography and it is little wonder that many clients do not see Ts women as individuals, but just as a sex toy to be used to their satisfaction. Although, I think that last part also applies to GG who escort. I'm sad that there are a lot of unkind men out there that make you feel like crap..but there are also a lot of bitches out there that do the same. Accept the fact that some will treat you well and avoid the ones who don't... just like anyone else does.