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07-08-2008 #21
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Re: i am tired of explaining
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Re: i am tired of explaining
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Originally Posted by Coroner
great points! yes, sexuality is related to gender, but we're caught in this dualistic way of looking at it. who we are is outside of the normal precepts of society and gender and sexuality...and people cannot grasp it. it's almost like we need a stephen hawking of gender to appear and write a book on string bikini theory. :P
seriously, though, i am all for living as i be. but if you go back to what truebeauty said earlier...as well as others...this goes beyond the individual and our individual choices and preferences and ideas of how we label and see ourselves. it's actually all about community and cohesion and support and moving forward as one, under one umbrella, in a positive way. 'i am what i am' and 'we are what we are' just doesn't cut it when there's nothing for those outside of our community to pin it to. we might as well be ether.
btw, awesome about your sis. i may have painted a portrait of my sister that was a tad negative, but she really has been supportive. she just wants to understand...just like my nieces and nephews do. and they're not the only ones. i run across it all the time. it'd be great to give them clarity outside of rehashed buddhist sayings...that's all.
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Re: i am tired of explaining
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07-08-2008 #25
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07-08-2008 #26
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how about the term: I'm just a guy who's into GGs and shemales?.
For example a guy like me. Yes I am comfortable being in relationships with GG women, but I just like the kink I get from feminine shemales. It's not really any term thats supposed to be that hard to see.
Does it matter what we are?. If people are into fucking a black prostitute with HIV and thats his thing behind the 4 walls of the house then let him do, if jerking off to hot feminine non masculine trannies are a guys thing let him do it. Im sure many of the guys who got prejudices against hot shemales is a closet case that likes jerking off to pics and vids when no one is around.
So final conclusion: Maybe we are a bit metro sexual in some way, but I wouldn't take it that far of being bi or gay.
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07-08-2008 #27
Honestly who gives a damn what others think about anyone's sexual preferences....none of their business and at the end of the day the only person you have to face in the mirror is yourself,and if you can live with what stares back at you then you've got a leg up on many folks.
I came out to my friends and family long agao,I mean it is a bit hard to keep what I do a big secret,but to the point my father thinks that im gay because I date TS's and I told him..."Hey if that gets you through the day,then knock yourself out"...gay,straight,bi,tri, whattever....
And E, you know I mean that in the kindest of ways...peace
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07-08-2008 #28
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I've always believed that sexuality is not black or white, there are many shades of grey.
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Originally Posted by DJ_Asia
i am sooooooo missing thailand right now! i am in desperate need of some frozen coconut and a foot massage on the beach. lol
anyways, i hear you. i also hear everyone else.
yes, i, personally am tired of explaining, but i can deal. but as i go through this thread and read the replies, i also see that in all of the answers there is the same message...no one knows what to call us and this leads to greater problems for more than just myself or anyone being tired of explaining who we are. it's about all of us in the community, not just the men.
case in point: if someone thinks i'm gay, then that, in fact, also mischaracterizes trans women and reinforces the mistaken belief that they are gay men n dresses...which is the farthest thing from the truth.
this goes beyond the partners of. we're all in this together. who we are in the eyes of the greater population directly relates to who everyone else in the community is in their eyes, as well. so, how do we form a cohesive group, a correctly identified group, with the societal and political muscle to make real change, not be x'ed out of bills like enda because, another case in point, because we are seen as human aberrations not as human beings.
so, yeah, as someone mentioned before, maybe i am taking myself and this a bit too seriously. i don't know. all i know is what i've seen other groups and communities do to make positive change...and gain credibility and 'acceptance' in the greater discourse. the men and women of this community are all individuals with different ways of looking at who we are, but until our message, our identifiers are on point and easily digested and understood, things won't change.
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07-08-2008 #30Originally Posted by whatsupwithat
Get yo azz back here I hear the Fish are spawning