i am tired of explaining

[bulldog]

It's pretty fucked up, I can't live the life I want to live with the woman I really want to be with at the risk of being shunned by family, friends and labeled a homosexual or bisexual.

That's why so many TS girls lack respect for so many guys. They are unwilling to give the same commitment for their life as the girls have already done.

The girls have risked it all, very few men do. That's why when you have a (gorgeous) guy like Eric that is willing to put himself on the line for what he wants, the girls fall all over him.

Willing to live your life on your terms is one of the sexiest turn-ons a man can do.


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Some families are gonna be more understanding than others, i have read about familes that were so fucked up, that when they found out their son/daughter was gay/lesbian they have either tried to kill themselves or their child. Some will ban you from the family, some will just not talk to you anymore, some will look at you as diseased, and some will just understand. If you ask me, noone really wants to take a chance and lose their family, its very very hard to cut yourself off or be cut off from the people who you grew up with, and who raised you. Not everyone has the kind of guts or commitment to take a chance like that, hell MOST dont. Sometimes all it takes is the right woman/man to give a person the strength they need to put it all on the line

My thoughts on the matter, if it offends anyone, right now i am in the i dont care attitude, go ahead and send me an angry pm to get it off your chest.


Benjamin

[salvador]

If the term " heterosexual " includes both participants, and " Homosexual " also includes both participants, then the term " transsexual " would also include both participants.

[Odelay]

I've always believed that sexuality is not black or white, there are many shades of grey.

right. so, let me ask you a question. if there was a scale where one end was white (we'll say that's 100% homosexual) and one side was black (100% straight)...and everything inbetween was different shades of grey where does trans fit in? what i mean to say is that our thinking is based on dualities and these are absolutes in how we go about our lives. we are beyond that here. as justatransgirl said...we have "transcended" the dualities.

Excellent question, E. Probably deserves a post all in itself. Alfred Kinsey, back in the 50's when he was doing his work on sexuality, posited that sexuality could be defined on a scale of 1 to 5 (sorry, can't remember which end was which... and exuse the parenthetical pun).

If 1 is 100% heterosexual, then it seems to me that being attracted to trans is at least a 2 if not further to the center.

The funny thing is, even without ever experimenting with a gay encounter nor having any sexual attraction toward men, I always knew I was not a 1. For 10-15 years I would have probably self-defined as a 1.5 or 2.0, not really understanding why I'm not fully 100% heterosexual.

Then about 5 years ago I started feeling attracted to transsexual porn and "BANG" there it was. That was the source of the "2". It's not that I suddenly realized that I love cock. I'm just as much or more attracted to pussy. It's just that the cock does not make a difference to me. I guess I would say that I'm genital-neutral, if that makes any sense.

Great post, E.